Ok here is the deal, I'm dealing with this guy that I hardly ever get to see or hear from. He's a father of five kids ( really good father) and have alot of successful jobs. My thing is I need some quality time with him and I'm not get it. If he so happens to come over my place, he ends up going to sleep or we end up doing something (you know what I mean). I don't hear from him in 2 days. What the hell is going on??? He says it's just his jobs that is keeping him so busy. Another thing he always come late at night to my place.
2007-03-23 01:59:07 · 9 answers · asked by dimia_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Does he really wants to be with you or does he only want .... (you know what).
Maybe you should stop here and now before he (emotionally)hurts you...
2007-03-23 02:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure your guy is a great dad and that is important right now since he has five children, chilren needs parents in their lives in order to figure out how things go, it does not seem that he is cheating on you and maybe he really does get swapped at work with all the upcoming jobs it is hard to have or get anytime to yourself when you are always working. Maybe you need to call it quits and tell and maybe he feels the same way but has not told you because he was not sure how you would feel. When you get into another relationship that is not so strenuous then you might be better off. He is has too much on his plate right now to deal with any relationship much less the things that go on behind closed doors.
2007-03-23 11:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 kids? Is he a widower or divorced? Many things could be going on. I dont have any kids but I can only imagine the responsiblity. There are many different scenerios. If he's divorced and he does not have the kids all the time...he's problaby paying a whole lot of child support so his jobs might be consuming all of his time. If he's a widower and has got no one to help him then he's juggling 5 kids and whatever jobs he's got and now starting to date. It is a lot to deal with. Only thing I could say is think. What is going on with him? Does he have that many responsibilities and is his life this busy all the time, do you want to be with a man that has so many things going on, what can you do to help him? If he's a real sincere man, working hard to raise his family and give his kids what they need then you cannot blame him for putting your relationship in the back burner for a while. If you feel this is worth dealing with then talk to him. Tell him how you feel but do not be demanding. Be understanding, caring, welcoming but most importantly listen to what he's got to say. This will also help you determine if you want this in your life and if you want to be part of his. Break a leg!
2007-03-23 09:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by mandysmith789 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having 5 kids would be enough to make the guy really tired, but who's with his kids when he comes over late at night.
his wife?
if his kids dont live with him full time, that shouldn't be impacting to much on the amount of time he gets to spend with you so its best not to think of this as the problem.
if u havn't discussed these issues with him yet, try to do it soon b4 u get too involved. if you have, and there is no improvement, u may have to like or lump it.
2007-03-23 09:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...his children will always come first.it sadly sounds like you are 1 too many in this guys life,he may be the best man in the world but if he doesn't have time for you...what does it matter that he's a great guy.you deserve to be treated like the princess that you are and not the ugly step sister.as for him always coming over late...that just sounds suspicious,be careful and good luck.don't let him take advantage of you girl.
2007-03-23 09:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by ojitosllorando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he only wants one thing. If he has five kids he is probably stressed out with them also. Are you sure he doesn't have someone else. Plus I imagine he has to pay child support if he is an upstanding man.
2007-03-23 09:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by littledueceb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind him waiting for him, or being last in line, you will be okay. With that many children, and work, you will never be first. I wish you luck with this, I have been there, and I could not do it, for one reason, the relationship did not meet my needs at all, and I cared and loved him and his children, but in the end, it did not work.
2007-03-23 09:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by stormzsecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, sounds like he's married!
2007-03-23 10:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. Really.
2007-03-23 09:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋