my bf is very cunning and sophisticated. I have been with him for 1.5 years and Im head over heels in love with him. Although he says he loves me, I find it hard to trust him completely, also he had too many women b4 which makes me think he is a playboy. I tried to break up, but the feeling is terrible, and I always run back to him and beg him to get back together. I hate myself being so weak. I know there is no future between us, he is not the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, how can I end this relationship with less pain?
2007-03-23 01:44:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By you giving in to being weak you are depriving yourself of a happy life. In other words, "no pain, no gain". You experience pain due to lost of hope and dreams you once had with this man. Broken dreams with a broken heart is a heavy burden to carry for anyone. Evidently you are not that miserable, for if you were, the pain you experience would not outweigh your misery. If you stay, then accept that decision, accept that you are weak and stop playing as if you want to leave when you know you won't, or all you are doing is playing with your own emotions and creating more drama in your life. If you decide to leave, then just know you will feel pain but with time, memories will fade and you will learn to be happy once again. The decision is yours.
2007-03-23 02:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are very few ways to break up that are 'less' painful. No matter the circumstances, break ups are painful.
The only thing I could suggest is individual therapy where you can learn about yourself a bit more, figure out more about what it is you do want out of life and someone to help you find a clear direction... once you've got a new path in your life, the one you're currently following is not so hard to leave
Good luck!
2007-03-23 01:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by mel974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel and say that you feel uncomfortable being in a relationship right now because you think he has been with too many women and if he still doesn't understand then you are just going to have to take the pain..sorry but life is about pain ....and believe me there is plenty of it
2007-03-23 01:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him...there is no painless way to break up with him.not having trust is bad but its even worse to not trust without reason.just because he has had a lot of women in his life doesn't mean he'll cheat,maybe he was just looking for the right one....maybe you are the one.only you know how he treats you and the kind of relationship you have.if it's a good relationship try to have faith in what you have together and give him the benefit of the doubt,if you've seen him flirting or worse...you deserve better than that.
2007-03-23 01:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find other things to do to occupy your time until you find someone else. Your just lonely and scared to take the chance of a new relationship so you run back to someone you know to feel safe with until you realize that hes not the one.
2007-03-23 01:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your the one begging and your the one that wants it to end there really isn't much advice to give
until your ready for it to really be over and be over for good your just putting your self through alot of stuff for nothing
it's kinda of like someone with a drug problem until your ready to get help no one can help you
be strong take one day at a time
if you really want it to end stay with a friend so they can help keep you from going back and begging
or take a vacation for a while away to some place else
2007-03-23 01:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by country-girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a toxic relationship, with him and yourself. I suggest doing things that make YOU feel good, if that is working out, doing yoga, painting...whatever, go and do that. Once you are feeling good about yourself, Leave him and don't look back: Dont visit, dont answer your phone when he calls, Dont look back...it will be easier that way and at least then he will respect you.
2007-03-23 02:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by findingselflove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in spite of each and all the pre-cautions u took like the morning after tablet, spermicide, etc. there is often of venture she ought to nevertheless get pregnant. And pulling out till now u *** does not constantly artwork the two. considering that u did pull out and the condom substitute into broken u do have a slender possibility of her being pregnant, yet u can not get her pregnant till now u ejaculate. stable good fortune!!! P.S.- If she is pregnant do not freak out too a lot. U can constantly get an abortion. If u don't get an abortion than do not loath the little one. be chuffed for wat u have been given.
2016-12-19 12:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by bruhn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do u not like him everything in there sounds like u really love him take a sheet of paper & right all the reasons u should break up then do it everytime u want to run back read the sheet of paper
2007-03-23 01:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know this realationship is bad for you yet you beg him to get back together. you're the one who has yourself in this situation. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life with him, why are you still with him? everyday that you stay is another day that you're giving him to mess your life up. WALK AWAY NOW............
2007-03-23 02:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋