Let's be serious now. Some clueless men are societies and childrens biggest liability. If you think that child support is supposed to provide for any more than YOUR HALF of the financial support for your children, you are WRONG!
If you are luck enough to have your children 1/2 of the time and still pay FULL child support AND support them when they are with you, you are WRONG!
If you are ok with paying your x unreasonably large child support (not that ALL child support payments are unreasonable, just the ones that allow a parents to profit from raising their kids) as she refuses to account for where any of this money goes (in collusion with the "family court"), you are WRONG!
Wake up dumb men and get educated here: www.nhcustody.org. Our kids need you plugged in to this!
2007-03-23 01:02:40 · 12 answers · asked by phoneman01830 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the answer to the question is that the men are stupid aka DUMB. yes allot of woman make a profit when there man leaves, the people on here above list all these cost, well the woman would have lights, phone, food, car and rent at a minimum if you had a kid or not!!!! Kids do eat but common unless the kids a lard it ain't that much! So when woman cry about the House payments and car payments i laugh, no one told you to get that big place or that nice new gas guzzling SUV!!
Child support is just that it's to feed and cloth the child, like i said before there would be lights, phone, food, car and rent at a minimum if you had a kid or not!
Not everyone has to ware Nike's or shop at the GAP!! There's allot of free ridding going on, to most woman out there i say this , there was a breakup, a kid got born, the man left or kicked to the curb ,you wanted custody,,,, did you think it would be easier without him around? and finally you had a legal choice of abortion , life is hard as hell with two parents working there butt's off to support kid's, why should that change because a parent left?
2007-03-26 16:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, well, what a sour puss you are. Did the poor little person have to pay child support . BOO! HOO!. I know a lot more men who lie their asses off just so they don't have to pay child support. My ex wont pay child support because it might help me. I don't need his money. I work. Child support is to help his children. It's to buy clothes,pay school fees, buy food etc. It is also to help pay for gas & electricity which the children even use. He tells child support that his work is a hobby. It's a real good hobby. It buys him & his girlfriend gold jewellery, trips overseas & every little luxury they could want. Unfortunately as the kids grew older he had less time for them & $33.00 a month doesn't really support 2 teenage children. Due to his own stupidity neither of them see him any more and they are of an age where they have the right to say wether or not they wish to see him. Why is it when the female who has the kids, moves in with another man, that his wages are taken into account & effects her FTB etc. but if the ex husband or boyfriend moves in with a female they don't take into account what she earns? Now don't get me wrong I also know that there are a few females out there that lie their asses off & say that their exes are abusive etc. & don't allow the father to see the children but expect full child support & that is wrong also. The whole system sucks & I think child support should be able to send out private investigators to check up on these sort of people or maybe the whole system should be looked at over again.
2007-03-23 08:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Vera K 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is also wrong when men try to get out of paying maintenance for their children - I've put up with my ex-husband lying to me, telling me he can't pay because he's been in hospital etc and it's all untrue.
I've put up with less than the court allows, because I didn't want to be a burden, and didn't even get that, while my ex lived it up in hotels and holidays.
Every man can go to court and discuss his payments there through a lawyer, if he feels he has a case.
What is even more unfair is when a man walks away and leaves a woman to take over the role of husband and wife, expects her to take on the role of chief breadwinner and chief carer.
Put your children first. Few men are as stupid as you think - most of them have little bonding with their children and just see them as financial burdens. And this applies to almost every single divorced person I know - and I know many.
2007-03-23 08:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its called a court order, unless you have a written signed and witnessed agreement. My husband pays huge money and his ex still goes after him for cost of living. He cant even afford a lawyer to do anything about it. Supporting the kids is great, wish there was a way to make sure every last penny was spent on the child, or put the money into an account that the kids can get at the age of 18
2007-03-23 09:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
In many states, Child support is based solely on an income formula. So if you don't like what you are paying, you have to change the laws.
I agree with those who say that there is only accountability for those who have to pay. There is no accountability for those who receive child support.
I make 4x+ what my unfaithful ex-wife makes. So I pay about $1K/month for my daughter.
I have no problem supporting my daughter, and would love to be the primary custodian. Imagine how much better I could support her if I wasn't paying for two homes against my will.
Many wrongly assume that just because a man resents giving money to a woman who has already demonstrated herself untrustworthy, that they don't want to support their children. For those one-sided haters, I suggest you give your child to your ex-husband for three months and send back the child support for that period of time, and see if you like the situation.
If you've done that, and still like the situation, then I will admit that you've taken the time to see it from the other side.
However, one must admit, that many who are getting child support are NOT spending that money on the child, but to keep a standard of living for themselves that they enjoyed before they cheated on their husband.
Personally, I think cheaters and quitters, be they men or women, should not have primary custody of their child.
Yet you don't see women getting on board with this idea. Many women want to blame men for cheating. However, if they really thought men were cheating more than women, then wouldn't they be on board with laws that make it difficult if not impossible for cheating spouses and/or spouses who simply walk away because they are not happy anymore without trying any professional marriage counselling already have a significant hill to climb when it comes to being the primary custodian of their children.
I think the ability to keep a vow is a key indicator for parental fitness, and this should be taken into account regardless of the gender of the cheating or vow breaking parent.
Until the law reflects this, many men are going to rightly feel the system doesn't treat them correctly.
To argue these men don't want to take care of their children shows how out of touch those who throw such false stones really are.
Do I deny that there are deadbeat dads out there? Nope, my father was one. He abandoned my mother.
However, willingness to support my daughter doesn't mean that I enjoy giving 20% of my take home to a lying and cheating woman who got primary custody only because she was a stay at home mom, and her character didn't matter.
Character matters, expect for child custody cases.
This is very sad, and I say it will result in more cheating spouses and the cycle will spiral further downward. The ones who ultimately suffer are the children taken from faithful, supportive fathers simply because of genetics and tradition.
2007-03-23 11:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like one of those guys that feels the need to get back at their ex wife and are using the child support as a weapon. Sorry, I don't feel sorry for you.
Kids are expensive. Deal with it and don't be a cheap skate.
2007-03-23 08:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
really dont understand your point unreasonable or not you still have to pay it. i agree with sum of your points there isnt no accountability for the custodial parents but again we all know this and whats your point
2007-03-23 10:51:45 · answer #7 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are supposed to ask a question.
If you don't intend to take care of your children, then don't have them. So boo hoo hoo that you don't have bushels of money to spend on your new girlfriend.
Be a man!
2007-03-23 08:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by frugernity 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Got taken to the cleaners, did ya?
2007-03-23 08:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's how you say it. Call me "dumb" and I'll make it as difficult on you as possible. He probably regets getting involved with you so much he wants to cut all ties with you.
2007-03-23 08:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋