Everyday im like ok tonight im not gonna drink and then once the night rolls around, i end up drinking. I know im not an alcoholic but i feel like if i dont do something about it now its going to get worse. I used to be fine w/drinking and now its becoming a habit. When I DONT drink at night i feel so much better the next day, and that night. I just drink to ease myself at times i guess but it makes things a lot worse cause i feel gross ALL THE next day. I keep on making goals but dont stick to them,how do i stick to these NONDRINKING GOALS FOR REAL? I tell my friends i wont go out but then i usually end up going out, and iv told them many times, i cant drink and this and that but then it ends up happening
2007-03-23 00:59:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know that im not a raging alcoholic but right now i know that I DO have a problem w/drinking.
Can i ever get back to the place i was before where i could just have a couple glasses of wine once a week and id be fine? I mean the problem is i am young, and all my friends do is go out to bars and get wasted
im the type of person that (well i used to be, and this is how id ike to be) likes to have a couple of glasses at dinner and then call it a night. I am just SO UNHEALTHY now, and iv been drinking way to much
2007-03-23 02:02:29 · update #1
Listen- you are young. I am not saying that you are or aren't alcoholic- eventually YOU are the only person to decide that. Drinking with your drinks is absolutley normal. When you hear that an alcoholic can't say no to drink it means that they are iether addicted to alcohol or that they are in denial about losing control. It's one thing to drink socially, but it's another to pick up one drink thinking you're only going to drink another one or 2 more and call it a night, but end up wasted.
But if you don't want to drink and end up drinking two or three I would think that there are more issues with low self-esteem and confidence ( since you can't say no to your friends).
Love, it's ok to drink with your friends as long as you are in a safe environment and you are not losing control over the amount that you drink.
2007-03-25 07:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an alcoholic. Even if you only go out with friends one night a week, every week and drink every time you go out with them, you are still a social alcoholic and you still need help. Call AA. They will tell you. If you really want to quit drinking then you need to admit you have the problem and make the effort to stop. If you feel gross all the next day, you have a hangover.
2007-03-23 14:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, if alcohol is causing problems in your life....you're an alcoholic. I don't mean to be rude, or anything....but it is true.
There are different degrees of alcoholism. Sure, you may not be a raging alcoholic, but anytime you have trouble saying no....or promising yourself that you aren't going to drink, and then you do.....then, yes...that is alcoholism.
Don't feel lonely. And, please don't feel ashamed. I don't expect to get best answer for this....because, I know it isn't what you want to hear. But, helping you means more to me...than having you like me.
I would really consult with a counselor or therapist, at the very least. Explore the possibliity. You don't have a thing to lose. Good luck!
2007-03-23 08:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to put a bit of distance between yourself and your friends, they are not willing to help you in your goals and therefore you do not need them in your life as much as they are.
As for not having a drinking problem honey I'm sorry but it sounds as tho you may be developing one, It is never a good sign if you need to drink around people and the fact that you recognise this shows that you to are aware that this could develop into a big problem.
Good luck with everything you do
2007-03-23 08:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to distance yourself from your friends who drink and especially when they ask you to go out. I know it's gonna be hard and communicating on the phone is fine but for the time being just tell them you want to stop drinking and need time away from going out with them until you've reached that goal and are strong enough to be around people that drink. Good Luck!
2007-03-23 08:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not.
You are very likely the way I am. You do it out of bordom and you enjoy the relaxing warmth it creates.
Also, you're right. Alcohol has a destructive long term effect on the body and mind.
If it really concerns you, speak to your doctor. He can point you in the right direction. )
I try to find other things to due with my spare time. I relax on the beach, "wrestle" with my galpal(yes thats what we call it), maybe find something NON alcoholic to sip on.
True it is the evenings that promote drinking the most.
Just don't drink and drive.
2007-03-23 08:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Tall Chicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going out with ppl who drink atleast for some time till u develop self control
2007-03-23 08:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky Khan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears you are aware you have a problem.
Although you may not be a full-fledged alcoholic, help is available before it reaches this point.
The longer you wait the harder it will be for you to stop.
2007-03-23 09:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋