my partner has lied to me again?

Question

he went behind my back with this lass called jodie many years ago and i seen her at his work place in a uniform (one of the staff) about 4 monthes ago .he told me he has never seen her there but today he brought his holiday sheets home and she was on the list for his department so she works with him, now he has told me she has only worked there a week,i dont trust him at all we have 2 kids and 1 on the way what will i do? he has lied to me again and again

not gay he just cannot seem to keep it in his pants

Answer 1

how many times does he have to lie before you see him for what he is?

stop being a doormat and chuck him out or move on yourself

Answer 2

The word that stands out most in your question is - Again? Once is a mistake, but again and again? If he lies to you, how can he love you - and how can you trust him? There is a slight chance that he's being honest this time, and because you are pregnant you're feeling a bit hormonal - but surely if you knew he was telling the truth, you wouldn't need to ask the question in the first place. He has no respect for you or your kids (unborn as well), and you don't deserve to be treated in this way. Hard as it is, you have got to make a choice - continue to be lied to and live an unhappy life, which trust me your children will pick up on - or get out now and start afresh. And If he wants to be with you, he'll do anything to get you back! You are worth more than he's giving you, and he should be ashamed of himself for not being upfront. Confront him, tell him you're no longer going to be treated like this, and if he wants to keep you he'd batter start changing his ways. Good luck to you and your children....

Answer 3

he has obviously been lying to you but what you need to ask is why? Had he lied to save his own *** or to save your feelings. If he knew you'd go nuts if you found out they were working for the same company he may have just told a few fibs to save your feelings. On the other hand he may have something to hide! I think you should have it all out with him. Remind him that a good relationship is based on trust and honesty and at the moment he isn't making any of those things easy. Whatever happens, look after yourself and your children because at the end of the day, They're whats really important. Hope it all works out for ya hun xxx

Answer 4

Sad to say once a liar always a liar.Do you really need to spend your life working out the cryptic clues what is a lie what is truth etc. questioning everything did he? didn't he ? when really life could be much simpler.I've wasted too much time trying to make sense out of someone that was full of nonsense.I do not regret finishing with him only regret it took so long.Could have been happier sooner.Now he is spinning his yarns to some other mug but not me.It feels like a heavy weight has been lifted and I am able to focus on making myself happier.It's better to be with no one than the wrong one.Men are two a penny and bad men are ten a penny what's the sense in being with someone who has no respect for your feelings? you deserve better,don't you?

Answer 5

Is there anyone at his workplace that you could
talk to?
You have said that he has lied to you over and over again.
Don't let him treat you like a doormat. Obviously you are
letting him get away with it all the time.
You could ask him to leave and he will have to support
you financially.
Perhaps a break will do both of you good. It will be hard
but you need to do something NOW. Perhaps once you
have taken charge of the situation he will realise what he
has to lose. I wish you you very best in whatever you
decide to do.

Answer 6

I think you should just quit now and throw him out. Let him see his children, but first of distance yourself and dont see him at all or have any contact with him for a couple of weeks. Get yoruself feeling stronger and more independant. Dont let this lying scumbag ruin you or make you unhappy. It wont get anybetter if you dont trust him. You will endup hurting evenmore if you dont move on now. It will be better for you. Enjoy the summer and look forward to your child being born.
Even if you andhim split up, it doesnt mean to say you wont find a man in a position similar to yours and he could end up bieng "the one", dont settle for second best.

Goodluck xps. dont beleive a word that comes out his mouth.

Answer 7

I can understand your concern that he lied to you. It could be true that he really doesn't want you to suspect he is shagging her again. He may not be.
have you asked him why he lied about Jodie working with him???
You are probably feeling a little insecure in view of the past and fact that you are pregnant.
I would face this head on and talk to him. You could also do some checking up on his mobile etc if you are suspicious.
You could also speak to Jodie yourself and tell her 'hands off he's mine'!!!!!!

Answer 8

I am sad for you to hear this.

The best thing for you to do is dont nag him but speak to him sensibly & rationally about your concern & tell him that you & the kids love him & that you want complete honesty in your marriage.

Make sure that he has no need to look elsewhere & if he does you have chosen the wrong man & he really aint a man.

Marriage is for life & he should respect you 100% & you him.

Good luck & I am sure it will work out for your family

Answer 9

the truth in all this is that you havent trusted him for some time. he may well just be trying to protect your feelings by saying what he's said. if you cant trust him though, your relationship is pretty much doomed whether he works with this girl or not. i'm in the same postion as you but with my fiancee, i know how much you talk to yourself and beat yourself up over this. constantly questioning his every move. in my case i've made myself ill with worry and its all but destroyed my relationship. i've become hateful and i've almost forgotten how wonderful and loving a woman can be because of her 'fling that meant nothing'. dont turn into me honey, treat yourself with dignity and kindness and above all honesty. if you dont or cant trust him, its over.

Answer 10

I believe that relationship built on lies is in for doom to begin with. Why would you even want to be with someone that you can't trust? What you do about it is up to only you no one can tell you what to do. You have to decide how you want to live, In distrust and worry all the time or move on.

Answer 11

He's probably trying to protect you, especially seeing as your pregnant, maybe he's trying not to stress you out. When you saw her there 4 months ago why didn't you just mention it to your husband then instead of leaving it for so long?

If I were you I'd just tell him you saw her there four months ago and just have a general chat about it, these sorts of things have a tendency to escalate out of control when it's not necessary and is just a question of communicating properly.