im 15 and im 5 months pregnant and the baby's dad don't want 2 know.he tld me that he'll pay 4 me 2 go private bt i dnt want 2 be forced 2 have an abortion,i disagree with havin abortion.my mothers got all my future planned,she will be very dissappointed. i know that she'll kick me out.what do i do?will i be able 2 cope with the baby?will i find love again?will anyone want 2 go out with me if ive got a baby by another bloke?will i be able to afford 2 keep this baby?who will help me?
2007-03-23 00:29:14 · 8 answers · asked by xxashtonxx 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Unfortunately you should have thought about the consequences before you decided to have sex. Besides, you're way too young to be having sex. Secondly, don't get an abortion. there are many other ways to handle the pregnancy rather than abortion. There's no reason to kill a child for being irresponsible. I'm glad you disagree with abortion, so don't let anyone convince you otherwise.
Your mother may be disappointed, but that's something the both of you will have to deal with. I'm 19 and 6 months pregnant. My mother was disappointed because I was a full time student in college and also had my whole life ahead of me. She didn't want to see me make mistakes she did, but as the months went by, she became more adjusted and excited about me being pregnant. (as did I).
Your mother will be disappointed for a while just because you're so young and whatnot, but that doesn't necessarily mean your entire life is thrown away, it's just more or less put on hold for a while. =]. and I'm sure your mother won't kick you out, especially in this time of need. If she does, I'm sure there are family members that will open their homes to you. Even if it takes a while, your mother will probably support you as hard as it may be for her to accept the fact that her child is going to have a baby. b/c that's what you are, you're a child yourself.
You could always give the child up for adoption, but that's something your mother and you need to talk about. There are many different types of adoption that you need to look into if that's the choice you are considering. If you'd like I'm sure someone in your family that you trust and are close to would adopt your baby for you rather than having some stranger adopt him/her.
And hunny, even though you're 15 and were with the baby's dad or whatever, you may have thought you were in love, but in reality it's more or less infatuation. Infatuation can confuse the heart and mind and lead you to believe you were in love. Even though it'll be hard, I'm sure that you'll find someone willing to date a person with a child..years down the road. But really, you shouldn't be thinking about dating anyone right now . You have more important things to worry about than that.
You could also go to job & family services and apply for WIC which will give you formula, eggs, milk, cereal, and juice. and you can also apply for a medical card, but I'm sure your mother's insurance will help cover you for a while.
If you want to talk more or anything you can e-mail me at kreichenbach06@yahoo.com or my yahoo screen name is angelgirl_1247.
Good Luck. & Best Wishes.
2007-03-23 00:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kiri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you NEED to tell your mother because that baby is coming out of you and there is no stopping it. You NEED to get to a Dr and have an exam.
My sister had a baby at 15, my parents were very upset but now theres no way you can take that child out of their sight. You can do it, If your mother will not help you then you need to give the baby up for adoption so it does have a good life. You also need to take some parenting classes so you are prepared for the drastic life change that you will go through.
If you don't know how to tell your mom, write her a letter and go to a friends house. Leave a phone number where she can call when she is ready to talk about this. That way she will be mentally and emotionally prepared to deal with this. Be prepared that the reactions you get at first will not be good. She is your mom and it might take awhile for her to accept this but eventually she will. Good Luck
Also as far as you finding love again. It will happen. My sister is very happy now with someone who loves her deeply even though she has 2 kids by someone else.
2007-03-23 00:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your mom will be disappointed, she loves you and needs to know what is going on. You need her support. Tell her the truth, and ask for her help. Hopefully, she will get over her anger and be able to be a source of strength for you.
Next, are you ready to become a mother? Are you ready for the long, very difficult road ahead of you? I think you are very brave for standing firm against the idea of abortion; it's really too late for that now. Have you considered adoption? There are a LOT of couples out there looking for a baby to love. It might be the best decision for you.
You are 15, and you have your whole life in front of you. Yes, you made a mistake and you have been forced to grow up too fast. But your life is far from over. You need to deal with this situation the best way you can. And you can still plan for the future. You can still finish school and go to college. You will find love again, and hopefully when you do, you won't be as quick to become intimate. You just need to decide if your future includes keeping this baby. If it does, then you need help. You need people who will support you and help you.
Good luck with your tough decisions ahead....
2007-03-23 00:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by dansaremm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months pregnant & you are still considering abortion? Thats sickening, you will cope, your not the first to go through this & you wont be the last. That baby didn't ask to be here so take responsablilty for your actions, if you were 6-8 weeks abortion wouldnt be as bad an option but it can not be considered at 20 weeks I am sorry.
2007-03-23 00:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gemma 27.05.2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry if ur mum kicks u out u'll allways have u mates (like me lol) just sit ur mum down and tell her whats goin on i sure she'll understand about the dad he'll have to get involed with the baby not matter what he is the father in the end
2007-03-23 00:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by amy_baby123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunt worry, coz people that bring their children up on their own always do better than couples, in my opinion, you shouldnt run back 2 him. you'll find love again and you'll have a wonderful man that is willing to bring up a baby by another man, if he loves u then they wont care what he must do to be with you.
2007-03-23 00:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Evertongrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would ! go out with you but where do u live ?$$$$$
2007-03-23 01:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by still free crew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you see a counsellor(advisor)
I cant help you out on this one.
2007-03-24 20:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋