her bf has been 2timin me for the last 3 months with me!!! and we have slept with each other about 5 times and i love him to bits and he loves me but he's stringin my best mates what should i do !!!!??? i need really gd help ( i'm 2 months in and i can't tell her)
2007-03-23 00:25:26 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You're in big trouble! I would definitely tell her but you can probably kiss that friend good-bye! Best of Luck to you! Congrats on your pregnancy!
2007-03-23 00:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by houtskc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could always opt for a termination of your pregnancy without telling your best friend and the guy you've been sleeping with. That way you hurt nobody. If you are 16, you are far too young to get into this mess, the guy will not support you and will do the same thing to you once you are further ahead in your pregnancy. How would you feel then? Cheap? Used? Unwanted? You'll be very bitter and sorry. Then who's going to help with bringing up the baby? The guy you slept with? I doubt it very much. Not to mention your best mate. She'll not want to look at you and the baby ever again. How would you feel not being able to show your baby to your best friend? Just think about it, you are only 2 months ahead, you can still get a termination easily. You'll save a lot of heartache.
2007-03-23 07:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by Infinity C 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok, you need to get the courage together to sit her down and tell her everything. Your supposed to be best friends but you have slept with her man which is the ultimate sin in a friendship. You owe it to her to be totally honest now and if she goes nuts (which she probably will) then at least she's heard it from you! How stupid would she feel if it comes from some1 else? As far as the guy goes, if he truly loves you he will stand by you regardless. Now all you have to do is think about the baby. Don't make any rash decisions. Think long and hard and do what you think is best for you and no one else. Hope it all works out hun xxx
2007-03-23 07:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, that'll teach u 2 be a FRIEND and keep your legs closed! stupid slag. serves u right.
do u have any idea how a best friend is to be treated? with at the very least enuf respect for you not to sleep with her boyfriend. 3 months and u love him? yea right. ur just there 4 the sex!!! and he clearly can't love u if he's still with your 'best mate' have some bloody self respect for yourself and stop sleeping with the guy cuz he's leading u on, tell u 'm8' that u slept with him, ur pregnant, and tell her she needs to get tested for STD's. if your pregnant, who's to say he ain't been going bare back with anyone else? plus u kno u can b born wiv a STD that won't affect you, but will affect the ppl u sleep with. u'll b tested anyways when u have ur 1st bloods, but at least b nice enuf 2 point out 2 ur m8 that she needs 2 b tested.
and HE'S stringing ur m8 along!? excuse me but don't YOU have a mouth of your own? and a brain? well...not a brain or u wuldn't have been so cruel to someone u consider a friend.
i hate people like you. so selfish that they will do anything 2 make themselves happy and sod the rest. i hope to god that if u keep your baby it turns out nothing like you or its father.
2007-03-23 08:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by evilbunnyhahaha 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be more concerned about being 16 and pregnant by someone with no morals, rather than about your best mate.
She isn't going to be your mate for much longer. Get over it.
Now - what are you going to do about the mess you are in? You realise you've just ruined your life, don't you.
2007-03-23 07:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you know the saying do anything for your best mate, i DONT THINK IT INCLUDES SLEEPING WITH THEIR BOYFRIEND and getting pregnant by them
your not a good friend ,put yourself in her shoes how would you react, if you were my friend ID give you a good slap, and him too and have nothing else to do with either of you, who needs friends with enemies like you,as thats what you both are and deserve each other
Oh let me guess bet your only about 15 and think you know what your doing? GUESS YOU DONT THEN HUH!!
2007-03-24 18:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥™Tia™♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you think that your best friend wont notice that you are getting bigger and what happens when she asks who the father is, I'm married but my best friend shared all my 4 pregs with me which brought us closer together that's why she is a BEST FRIEND i wouldn't even go out with any of my mates exs it all bout respect if you cant trust your mates then who can you trust, as for him well he sounds a nice chap lets just hope it don't leave you holding your baby in a few years time for another one of your mates!!!!!!! men come and go but mates are here to stay
2007-03-23 10:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by LISA T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi you are in a very sticky situation arnt you? first of all how old are you? and you need to ask yourself why is he stringing your best mate along? if you ask me he wants both of you thats why she is still left hanging on aswell. if he really wants to be with you he would have told your friend that it is over and he is seeing someone else. as for you being pregnant, if you are deciding on keeping the baby you need to tell both of them. cause she will find out anyway somehow believe me its better coming from your mouth than someone elses. And what does he want? I am now 25 yrs old and i have 3 kids, my first when i just turned 16, I was in sort of the same situation the father of my baby got my friend pregnant just as i had my first it was hard believe me , my friend told me she was preg so i was angry yeah but i blamed the two of them and spoke to both of them , i said to my man you either want to be with me or her , and he chose to be with me and we are still together now and are having our 4th baby i am 25 weeks pregnant and we are so in love. to e mail me privately i am: justinefermor@hotmail.com. id love to hear hows it all going. if not good luck , from justine
2007-03-24 21:23:42 · answer #8 · answered by juzzajuzza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a right pickle here kiddo!
Think your only option babe is to tell your mate and just expect her to totally go balistic......
This guy is a bit of a sh1t though and really you should have been using something to prevent the pregnancy - unless this is what you wanted - maybe?
2007-03-23 07:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by EMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you where a good friend you would tell her, also what kind of man sleeps with his girlfriends best mate, I would never trust him.
I'd watch him with your other mates as he might do the same to you.
2007-03-23 09:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by RACHEL S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing you can do but tell her. She deserves to know. She needs to hear it from you and not anyone else. How can you deal with a problem if you hide from it. The truth is bound to come out. Obviously he doesn't love you that much if he's sleeping with two women!
2007-03-23 07:30:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋