What causes us to be shy?

Answer 1

I think that it is different with each person. I was a very outgoing person until I was in a auto accident and lost a portion of my short and long term memory. Now I feel unsure of myself so I have found myself being rather shy in groups of people. It is the fact that I may not remember something, or I may say something that is not correct, because I have forgotten the facts, etc. that causes me to withdraw from talking to people. I think in other situations, some people just don't feel like they have any thing to say or they don't like to talk and be the center of attention. They prefer one on one conversations, rather than large groups. I have even heard some quiet people say that they just enjoy watching people and listening to what is being said. Maybe some people have been told that what they have to say is not important, or that they are dumb so they just don't feel like they can talk. I think it is a variey of reasons.

Answer 2

n humans, shyness is a feeling of insecurity or awkwardness that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. In zoology, shy generally means "tends to avoid human beings

The problem of shyness can either involve having trouble thinking of what to say in social situations or involve crippling physical manifestations of uneasiness. Shyness usually involves a combination of both symptoms. For a shy person, these effects can be quite devastating.

Behavioural traits in social situations, such as smiling, thinking of suitable conversational topics, assuming a relaxed posture and making good eye-contact, which come spontaneously for the average person, may be relatively absent for a shy person.

People experience shyness to different degrees. For example, an actor may be loud and bold on stage, but shy in an interview. In addition, people may feel shy around certain people and not others. For instance, one may be outgoing with friends, but experience love-shyness toward potential partners.

Shy people tend to perceive their own shyness as a negative trait and many people are uneasy with shyness, especially in cultures that value individuality and taking charge. On the other hand, many shy people are perceived to be good listeners and are more likely to think before they speak. Furthermore, boldness, the opposite of shyness, may cause its own problems, such as impertinence or inappropriate behavior.

The genetics of shyness is a relatively small area of research that has been receiving an even smaller amount of attention, although papers on the biological bases of shyness date back at least to 1988.

Some research has indicated that shyness and aggression are related – through long and short forms of the gene DRD4, though considerably more research on this is needed. Further, it has been suggested that shyness and social phobia (the distinction between the two is becoming ever more blurred) are related to obsessive-compulsive disorder.

Answer 3

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/P4FS9

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 4

Many thing cause people to be shy, it may be hereditary, low self esteem, ones upbringing and much more. People are also shy depending on the situation they are in or even whre they are or who they meet.
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Answer 5

In my opinion it's a kind of defense mechanism built up within our minds in order to prevent unwanted communication with people that are of no use to us...Shyness in fact completely disappears when we're involved with someone that we feel is
"our size"...In this context, it can also be observed as a mean of natural selection, telling us which partner is good for us and thereafter "the right one" to create a family with...

Answer 6

I'm shy because I'm afraid of what people will think of me, if i don't move people can't judge me, but the reality is they will no matter what.

Answer 7

Feminishness

Answer 8

Shy people are born that way but it can be overcome.

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Answer 9

Lack of confidence. Because if you are confident you are not afraid to socialise with other people.So I think it has to do with "lack of confidence".

Answer 10

ridicule from parents and family