If a newly divorced mom likes someone, and they like her in return, how long should they wait before seeing each other publicly?
2007-03-22 23:54:21 · 21 answers · asked by garielee2 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should wait till she gets out of court room.
2007-03-22 23:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by shivgamy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seeing someone else after a divorce is quite common and probably quite healthy - it's the commitment phase where you have to take it slow.
Look, whatever time elapses between your divorce and your taking up the dating game again, some small-minded folks are gonna talk. You can't waste your life trying to please those folks.
They're not happy unless they're criticizing someone. And you don't owe them happiness - so screw 'em!
Don't rush into a new marriage, even if this guy and you seem a pair made in Heaven. Try to take the time to get to know the other person's idiosyncrasies - and for him to know yours. You can have a very good relationship while you're "just dating". And fer sure, your kids will need time to adjust to Mom's new friend.
Been there and done that: my current wife and I were both divorced when we met. We took our time, and I spent considerable effort wooing her two young children as well as their mother. Now it's almost seventeen years later, and all four of us are darn glad we did it that way. Her youngsters are long out of the house on their own - but they have no problem coming back to a house where their Mom AND I are still together.
2007-03-23 00:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me a year after my divorce to start looking and go on a few dates. It was 4 years before I pursued any kind of serious relationship, and over six years before I was ready to get married again. And I'm the guy. Divorce creates baggage that needs to be dealt with. I'm not saying don't date, but don't jump into anything serious right away.
2007-03-23 00:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait? If you feel good about dating again, then go. Just don't bring the kids into it until you get into a committed relationship. They don't need to see a succession of men until you find the one you want to be with long term.
2007-03-23 06:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya there. Going from adventure i'd say certainly wait until issues settle. you have purely come out of a extensive relationship and you're easily splendid, leaping into yet another relationship so quickly would not be the main suitable thought. you prefer time your self to arise with issues. you could look ok now, yet you could discover that for the time of a pair of days or a weeks thoughts will come like a wave. purely calm down. savour the unmarried existence. in keeping with risk in case you like somebody else, enable them to appreciate yet additionally enable them to appreciate your subject so they precisely the place they stand. yet on the tip of the day, purely you will particularly understand while the time is physically powerful for you.
2016-12-15 07:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No waiting period but check whether the mom is willing to take another step in her life with some of her own problems of hers(such as kids,family and friends)If she is able to manage that all the best.Rememeber everything has its ups and downs.Weigh everything carefully b4 putting the leg forward.Once you re in it is very difficult to get out.
2007-03-23 00:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The marriage is dead; not a person so why wait? She is not cheating on her husband and she's lucky enough to have caught the eye of someone that likes her. She doesn't have to mourn or wait and needs no approval of people around her. Let her get on with her life and enjoy it ... life is short.
2007-03-23 00:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the mom just jumped right out there and started dating, people would think ill of her and think she was immoral. At least 3 months, minimum.
2007-03-23 00:21:27 · answer #8 · answered by rocketgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as the divorce is final go for it. There's no reason to wait, unless she's emotionally not ready.
2007-03-23 02:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she doesnt have to wait at all-if she is emotionally ready to move on go for it-however she should wait until a relatonship is very serious to ever think about introducing the new guy into her kids life.
2007-03-23 00:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by baseballlover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why wait at all? Its one thing if she is separated, but if she's divorced, she should put herself out there! Hell, pass along her number and I'll date her...I'm not shy.
GCW!
2007-03-22 23:57:47 · answer #11 · answered by Go Chuck Wow! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋