We have been dating for almost 5 months, and she always seems to be trying to change me and my habits. And after only a month she mentioned marriage. I leave in 2 months to be overseas for a year. Should I just wait till then and let the long distance break us up? Thanks.
2007-03-22 23:53:07 · 14 answers · asked by Lothario 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two more months to be in this relationship??
Be honest with her. Tell her you are not ready for marriage. At this point she can either accept it or continue to put pressure on you.
In the case that she puts pressure on you, don't call her, always have your answering machine on and avoid being at the same place she will be.
IN the case that she accept what you are saying, look her up when you return to the states. At that point maybe will mature. Good luck
2007-03-23 00:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ruthie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her right away, like the others have said. If you leave it hanging, she may think you are ok with her trying to change you and wanting to get married and it will continue if you stay with her. I would tell her, like others have said, that you are being pushed away from the relationship because you are not thinking of marriage yet and are not happy with someone who wants to change things about you. If you leave it as it is, it is just going to be worse. You don't need this hanging over your head and on your mind the whole time you are gone, and neither does she. She may even try to keep making plans for you and her to still be together or even get married and not break it off because of the long distance, because it sounds like she would be the type to do that if she's already thinking of marriage this soon.
2007-03-23 00:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by ReginaL33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her now. Just tell her it is isn't working out for you and you want to break it off. My first wife was like that and it drove me crazy. The marriage eventually ended in a divorce when I stopped going along with her trying to change me.
2007-03-23 00:58:08 · answer #3 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't want to hurt her feelings just wait for the long distance thing to break u's up but if your not bothered on the day u leave to work away leave a note on her pillow simply saying it's not working out so i think we should start seeing other people good bye
hope this helps!!!
2007-03-22 23:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tempy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think you should let her know simply that you are who you are and that's just all your ever going to be and you feel that she is trying to change that and things may not work if she can't except the fact that you are who you are.
With the pushing into marriage I think that's just because she knows your going away for so long and she wants to know your hers, that could be why she's doing that.
Good luck.
2007-03-23 00:04:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as possible and quickly that is how you do it. I would do so as soon as possible. There is something very wrong with this picture. marriage, what after two months. Do what you feel is best, it may be best to do so after you are gone, she may flip out on you if you do it before you are gone. She obviously has some issues of insecurity and control. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-23 00:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, hide until you go over seas and have nothing to do with her. You don't have to be cold just tell hell to leave you alone. Getting MARRIED before going overseas is the worst thing you could do. Really.
2007-03-23 03:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with her before you leave. Then you will be free of distractions while you are overseas.
2007-03-23 04:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..tell her now that you are not thinking about marriage and you don't think a long distance relationship is going to work and she move on with her life...that's being honest and mature.
2007-03-23 00:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your silence will spoil her life. If u do not express your self. Then there is no difference between u and her. U use your silence as weapon in your favor and she is using her speech to do her favor. Please have courage and reach to a conclusion, finally.
2007-03-23 00:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by bhaskarshodh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋