Why are some ppl chronic liars?? And who are not even separated yet but already posting profiles on online dating services? But then say they did it hoping I would find out and make me jealous, hoping it would bring us closer? Love and life are getting too complicated for me.
2007-03-22 23:44:24 · 19 answers · asked by Patti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes
there is some who have this Gene
2007-03-22 23:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this is the place you should be asking for help. With just the little bit you wrote I can see that there is so much more to this. You need to seek the help of a professional...there is alot of pain going on inside. True love does not hurt in any way, shape or form...a person who loves you will not do something that hurts you to bring you closer.....you have it right compulsive liar. Is this the kind of person you want to be with?? Why are you with this person if he/she is a compulsive liar?
You have to sort out yourself before you can sort out the relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 06:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by pamomof4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone lies. It is part of our make up. If someone asks if you like their dress and you don't. You don't just come out and say that. You answer wisely by saying. It is much nicer then an uglier dress or something of the sort.
People only lie if it serves a purpose. If they are avoiding retribution or if it helps them get what they want. I don't have that problem that men are afraid of telling me the truth as I keep my reactions grounded. In addition I am not easily manipulated so lies don't make it any easier to get what people want.
So you might want to stop looking outside of yourself if you are surrounded by liers. Perhaps the common denominator is elsewhere?
2007-03-23 07:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some ppl just can't help themselves. Sounds like your partner is in the process of really trying to hurt you. I ahve never heard that by making someone jelouse you sre going get closer - in fact the opposite might just happen. If I were you, I would get rid of this louse asap and start living my life. Besides sounds just like an excuse because you did find out about it.
2007-03-23 07:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who do that are just plain looking and its very wrong because they are deceptive about eveeything and the thing about hoping you will find out and make you jealous is about the biggest lie of all because they really would not have told you anything about being with someone but they got busted and so they had to confess
2007-03-23 06:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced a chronic liar. He lies so often, he actually believes his lies. He tells the same lies over and over, so to him it is truth. Chronic liars are in some cases just looking for attention. In my ex husbands case, it's because he is afraid of getting in trouble rather than facing reality. You just need to ditch this person. Trying to make you jealous is just the excuse he gave because he got caught.
2007-03-23 06:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up!!! I did the online date thing for 3 years..I learned to be very picky over time...People like that are wack jobs.
I eventually met my husband on a date site. We will be married one year in June. I would not trade the learning experiences I had from the date site.....you have to be very careful!!!!
Don't believe everything you see and or hear. Best wishes to you.
2007-03-23 08:54:01 · answer #7 · answered by samantha H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patricia;
Why do you still hang out with people like this? Your still insecure about yourself and just need to do some soul searching and find someone from either your past or future but in the present you continually set yourself up for issues like this.
2007-03-23 10:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patti, joined the club there are some out there that never really think about circumstances, as long as they can do and get what they wanted,it will not bother them a bit. I don't think that he joined the dating site to make you jealous, don't you agree??
Yours is not that bad, but mine was,after 22 long years,(not sex, his that bad),I finally open my mouth and asked him why his never been there for me, and his answer was, joined the christian dating site, to look for a friend that he can talk to and see what he did wrong,( duh! we have friends very close to us) but that was his excuse but he was "girl watching",(bible Say's) and the affair started. So please if some men will just face the fact that lying is part of their life, our world will be a better place...............don't let him get to you,his not that worth it...
2007-03-23 09:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend was a compulsive liar...he just couldnt help it and it was an automatic thing for him. My advice is not to deal with it.. its just going to bring up a lot of arguements, frustration, heartbreak and drama..
2007-03-23 06:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patti, get rid of him love. He sounds like my husband (recently ex). After years of lying about the little things, it's a bit hard to accept the big ones isn't it? My husband was a chronic liar and believe me, it doesn't change, you won't feel better regardless of the additional lies he tells you to get himself out of the sh.. and we all deserve someone who respects us enough to be honest and loyal to us!
2007-03-23 06:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by OZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋