i can't help the feelings i have about trusting others. i just cant, i dont want to be so much in love or trust with someone, that when they hurt me, and they will eventually, i cant get over it quickly. is anyone else in my same state of mind about this?!
2007-03-22 23:07:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It means that you love REALLY deeply. Love hurts in all sorts of ways, and when people let you down a little of that trust and love is gone. It is mostly the same for everyone in thier own way. Some people deal with the feeling of loss of trust easier than others. It took me nearly 5 years before i got over the feeling of hurt and pain and loss of trust that my ex-gf left me with, before i asked another woman out. Time heals the heart,
experiences of friends will help you understand too.
Lots of happiness for your day,
Paul G
2007-03-22 23:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of ppl who feel the way you do and it is usually because you put your trust in someone and they disrespected you. I am going thru a separation starting today and I don't trust him....he is a chronic liar and has already posted profiles on online dating sites. Now how could I ever trust again? I hope you can figure this out and get the help you need to learn to trust again.
2007-03-23 06:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Patti 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you miss out on a great relationship if you dont trust. it will ruin every relationship if you dont get help for this issue .. sometimes if a person is untrustworthy they think all others are the same . I knew this guy who was a bad cheater. he then thought every girl was cheating on him.... only the guilty accuse. If you are emotionally unavailable to a girl she will feel it and eventually leave you. if I werent trusted it would be an unsatisfying relationship for me. If you assume you will be hurt possibly you are doing things to cause them to have negative behavior. if you go into a relationship thinking you will be hurt you might not knowing ly pick people thet are no good for you so you can be right.
2007-03-23 06:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by jennie s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While I understand your feelings I have to tell you that irregardless of your age as long as you feel that way you are not mature enough for a relationship.
All relationships end in pain someone either dies or walks away that's fact. If you are not willing to go through the pain of lost love then you will NEVER know the true joy of loving.
That's why they call it giving your heart away. You're giving away the protective coating that shields your heart from pain. I can tell you from personal experience it is worth the risk. However, don't just go for it... grow into it. Allow yourself the opportunity to mature into a relationship. You do not have to be in one just because everyone else is. Wait for the one that is worth the risk and you will never regret it no matter what the outcome.
2007-03-23 06:19:38 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can relate and i too feel that. i know i love this man but i am afraid of giving him so much, my love and trust because its really hurt when you expect soo much and then eventually you got nothing at all. this is my dilemma right now, although i keep telling to my bf that i really trust him but i can't, and sometimes i want to go distance when there are times that i am becoming possessive and trying to be as if i am not affected with anything becuase i am really afraid.the promises that i have been heard with my ex that never happened i still carry the pains of it, and so now i feel that i might be in that situation again if i don't warn myself. I can't blame you.good luck
2007-03-23 06:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by taurust_girl27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't be BLAMED for it, obviously the people in your life so far, have hurt you and let you down. However, you can't expect to ever have a loving and lasting relationship WITHOUT trust. So your sort of condemning yourself to a unfulfilled life. You should seek counseling and try to get over your past experiances, at least enough that it won't continue to hurt your future ones.
2007-03-23 06:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was hurt very bad twice, and left with kids and debt both times, it was hard but i got there. now im happily married, with two more kids and he knows i trust him about 90%, you can never trust 100% if you've been hurt in the past. but the lesson I've learned is what don't kill you makes you stronger. you have a leap of faith sometimes. good luck
2007-03-23 06:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of people feel the way you do....problem is
the person who lives a secure life and never takes chances
misses alot of blessings in life
You have a talent... use it, don't hide it.
Step out and trust God will lead your steps and you will enjoy the good things in life or you can stay home and do nothing until life has passed you by
My Resources: Matthew 25:25 King James Bible
2007-03-23 06:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people want to hurt you some may do it accidentally. whether or not you trust them is up to you, but if you go through life without trusting anyone your life will be bland and boring. don't let people get to you. if you get hurt just try to carry on and don't judge one person on a diffrent persons actions.
2007-03-23 06:11:49 · answer #9 · answered by phobosaffear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.
Some people, either through things that have happened in their life or from just being distrusting by nature, simply can't give full trust to anyone.
2007-03-23 06:10:19 · answer #10 · answered by Weatherman 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋