i asked you guys to advice as to what to give to my pregnant fiance. you lot gave me lots of ideas...i chose a couple i could do immediately...like tell her she was looking really good and that i loved her.she got all mad and said i was only saying that cos she is now fat and i think she may be feeling insecure..and i reassured her that she looked even nicer in her fat state.she threw things at me and cried. i bough her flowers to sooth her like you said and she got all worked up again. so i asked her if she wanted a foot massage and she says if i come anywhere near her feet she will kill me! all the ideas you gave me have backfired.im going to buy her he locket at selfidges and co since there isnt tiffany's here. what can i do? she is normally really sweet i know it is only the pain and hormones that is making her be like this.what other presents do u have in mind? please only those things that wont hurt me much in case they are thrown at me.
2007-03-22 23:01:41 · 23 answers · asked by kwabral y 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First let me tell you, you are a very wonderful man! For you as a guy (no offense to guys lol) to be able to understand why she is acting how she is, hormones, is wonderful! And that, in itself, is the most important thing to do. No matter what, try not to get mad at her. Im 31 weeks pregnant, and have put my boyfriend through hell! And please believe me when I say, we dont do it on purpose! I know Im being too emotional and completely unreasonable sometimes, but I cant stop. You know what my boyfriend did that made me really happy? Bought a little yellow baby outfit! Unisex so it would be okay for a boy or a girl. Please do that. I promise it will brighten her day real quick, to know you are into the baby, and thinking about it. Thats another thing with us pregnant women, we tend to think your not interested in the baby. So buy the outfit, and rub her tummy and tell her how excited you are. Trust me, it will work! Please email me and let me know how it goes! And congrats
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2007-03-22 23:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by mandiliz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Honey! But I can't beleive you told her she looks nicer in her fat state! LOL!!!
Try to just leave her alone sometimes but don't ignore her! You are probably thinking, "WHAT!". Maybe you are overwhelming her. Just be quiet at times, smile at her, be around the house doing small constructive things like do the dishes, sweep up, do the wash, fix what needs to be fixed. Don't try so hard. And you both have to remember (her especially) that you are both going through this because of that baby! Talk about what the baby may look like, what he/she will need, names, your goals, your dreams...but let her lead as to not say the wrong thing! Just a note, sounds like you are spoiling her! She gets mad when you bring her flowers and you run out to get her something else. Just ask her what she needs. But, little surprises are nice now and then. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 23:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by my2boys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, obviously you know her hormones are all wierd now. Obviously you know that when you tried to buy her things or be nice to her before she didn't like it so WHY would you keep trying? I mean you sound like a really nice guy but back off and give her some space. Some pregnant women dont need all the gifts, massages and comments. I for one felt like people tried treated me like I was handicapped when I was pregnant. Wait until she asks for a massage or in a few months then buy her a gift. Good Luck.
2007-03-22 23:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said...
A pregnant women is meant to be loved NOT understood...
The last thing a pregnant woman wants to hear is the "F" word, when your pregnant you do get feeling insecure about your body, you need to be understanding to her needs, even if she doesn't know what they are, which is so often the case with us pregnant girls, chances are she is tired, over emotional, insecure and not to mention the upheaval her poor body is going through at the moment...probably the nicest thing you could do for her is be extra attentive to her, give her brekki in bed, run her bath for her, take up your share of the housework if you haven't already...and above all else don't judge her...guaranteed she is being hard enough on herself...
2007-03-22 23:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. slow down here bud. first off, don't blame any of us for advice that didn't work for something as simple as this. your fiance is pregnant? okay, well if you're doing your reading, you'll notice something called mood swings. when a woman is pregnant, it can get pretty bad - sometimes worse than pms. don't go out and buy her things. what you need to do is be there, but let her vent. she doesn't mean what she says or does. it's hormones. that's all it is. she needs support. just let her know that you are there for her. even if she cuts your head off. it'll hurt, i know, but one thing that you could do to help her calm down is talk about baby things. get her excited about having the baby. perhaps go over some things you'd like to buy. and perhaps, you could discuss with her taking a "babymoon" vacation with just the both of you. oh and another thing: i hope to god you didn't say "i reassured her that she looked even nicer in her fat state" in that way. big no-no. she looked even nicer in her FAT state? no. no. no. no. bad.
2007-03-22 23:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Shakti Svātantrya Isa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't EVER tell her she is fat!! If anything, tell her that you think pregnant women are sexy. Buy her her favorite chocolate. But most of all- BE THERE FOR HER! It is VERY hard being pregnant. Help her out with any chores that need to be done, let her nap, ask her what she wants!!
Don't worry it will all be over in a few months, but of course then you will have the beautiful baby keeping you up all night =)
2007-03-22 23:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
clean the house and do the laundry wash the car rake the yard mow the lawn make her dinner and then run her a hot bath (buy her a book to read in the bath )
you do all the chores 1 so she wont have to and sh can rest 2 you are out of her way and not yelling or throwing things at you
you are making her dinner and run her bath to show you love her and are thinking about her
if this gets you into trouble then im not sure what to tell you
2007-03-22 23:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame us! We just give advice...only you know what to do for your fiance! Only you know what she likes...all women are different!
You don't need to buy her presents! All she'll really want is for you to be there (maybe to yell at once or twice but she doesn't mean any of it) she is very hormonal at the moment...but what ever you do don't say that to her!
Just be there to give her cuddles, back rubs, kisses and when she wants to be alone...let her be alone! But not for too long!
2007-03-22 23:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you actually used the terms "in your fat state", that probably has something to do with it. You know your fiance better than any of us do. We don't know what she likes. I personally would like a day at the spa with a pedicure, manicure, professional massage, the WORKS (if she doens't want her feet touched by you, a professional back massage may still be worth a try). She can't throw THAT at you.
2007-03-22 23:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just try to be patient and understanding - don't buy her any more gifts, get yourself something, maybe a helmut and some protective clothing.. lol. I really feel sorry for you guys sometimes - I think that at times, not even we women understand ourselves!
PS: You have a good sense of humour!
2007-03-22 23:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Bite Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋