I have been married to my husband for four years, together for eight, we got married when I was 18 and he was 21. He was the only person I'd been with up until a couple of months ago. We've been having issues and I'm not getting any communication from him at all he typically falls asleep while I'm talking. I've been feeling like he's not attracted to me for over a year and while I was on vacation with some friends in january I hooked up with a guy I dated briefly in high school, then last month I was on vacation agian with friends and I hooked up with a friend of a friend. Now I don't know what to do. My husband thinks somethings up cause I took so many trips alone and he's been trying harder to make time for me but at this point I don't know if I should just leave and try and find a relationship that will make me happy or if I should just come clean and tell him what happens in hopes that it'll be a big wake up call for him to try and save our marriage? I have no idea! Please help!
2007-03-22 22:57:50 · 14 answers · asked by watchnessarock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, you knew that it was the end of your marriage when you opened your legs and did that with another man. How can you be asking us for help when you're the one that doesn't take marriage seriously? Gosh...what are you...an idiot? Seriously...why would you get married when you of all people don't know what true marriage is? If you couldn't keep to your vows, then there's no hope...let him go...he'll find someone better than you.
A.L.
2007-03-22 23:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Angelus L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You husband already know that something is up and is acting differently. This means he probably know you have been cheating, which softens the blow when you tell him as it wont be too much of a surprise for him.
The good thing is that he has been more attentive, this means that he really doesnt want to lose you and is trying to stop you from straying. He obviously loves you. You just have to ask yourslef if you love him and if he made the changes and was better to you would you be happy?
You have been searching for something that your husband has not been giving you...i dont mean sex. I mean attention, conversation, sparkle, newness.
I would sit down and talk to him. Come clean with him. Arrange therapy and work at it!!
He doesnt sound like a bad guy, you just need to get back on track.
Hope this helps
2007-03-22 23:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever love him? Do you like him now? it fairly is the question i could be asking myself. If i did not love him interior the 1st place that could have opened the door for the affair. If i did not love him ever, had a 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days affair why might I nevertheless be with him. i don't think of the unusual ingredient is his rapid forgiveness of you. in case you weren't in love with him why do you care something approximately him now? Do you even comprehend? Why might it count what different human beings theory you will possibly desire to do? Are you finding for justification for cheating on your husband for 4 years? restoration from affairs comes in basic terms while the two human beings are keen to artwork on themselves and then their relationship. It takes a large style of not straightforward artwork. VERY not straightforward artwork. i've got been with the aid of it myself--my husband having cheated on me. We have been given help with the aid of a internet affair restoration software. As I mentioned, it takes a large style of artwork, that is not some thing which could be swept under the carpet. purely because of the fact your husband feels forgiving now does not propose it is going to final, quite if your habit in the direction of him exhibits scorn.
2016-10-19 10:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by scafuri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, You did a mistake and you have proven that you are not an honest wife, but it is not very late, I am feeling that you dont wish to leave your husbnand (infact your current marriage). But you also want to make fun with other men too, dear mam, you are young, healthy and beautiful , you can make fun with as many guys as you want but think when your age will take all this charm from you, when you will be old, who will support you? who can take care of you? Your husband is one who is still living with you, who still wants to live ith you for whole life.
Think deeply, marriage is not a game, it is a big decision or can be a big mistake of your life, I am from Pakistan and here, dishonesty is a sin, that is why persentage of divorce among Pakistani couples is very very small, becaues we belive in Islam and it teach us, that trust and faith are two main pillars of relationship.
I advice you to tell your husband (if you think) all your history and appologize him, promise him that you would never cheat him again. Prove him that you really cares for your mate. Dress well before he come from office, cook well for him, I hope your behaviour can win his heart.
2007-03-22 23:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Cheos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop watching Jerry Springer! It's a slim chance that revealing something like this will benefit your relationship.
He may take heed to what you have done, but it will only last long enough for him to regroup............ and when he does!
So do yourself a favor and decide whether or not you want to be with this guy and base your decision on that. If things don't work out for Y'all............ Hopefully, it can still be a peaceful split. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 23:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage in early years before handling your adulthood comes with ups and downs.Try getting him with you around for a short trip or outing.See whether you are looking at the same you before 4 years, if it is not.ThEN YOU RE HEADING TO A ROCKY RELATIONSHIP.WEED IT OUT QUICKLY BEFORE IT GROWS INTO HEAPS.Giving marriage a second look won't burn you as he was loved by you once.
2007-03-22 23:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him that your cheating is suppose to be awake up call for him?
Excuse me, but you cheated on him. If anything that wake up call would be for him to leave you!
If you want to keep your husband, then I suggest you take a wake up call, and be actually sorry for what you did, come clean to him. And if your lucky he may want to work it out with you.
2007-03-22 23:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell him, if you want to keep your marriage. He will never trust you again. Tell him instead that you have been unhappy, and would like to consult a marriage counselor to see if the two of you can revive your stale marriage.
If you want to keep seeing others, respect him enough to leave. At least he will have the chance to find happiness with someone else.
2007-03-22 23:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't tell him, if you want to keep your marriage. He will never trust you again.
2007-03-22 23:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is trying sincerely, u need to readjust and find solution with him only.
2007-03-22 23:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋