I'm obese. I've always been chubby since young. I used to love myself despite the fact that i'm extra large. But lately, the society are so judgemental, they seem to have hatred towards obese people? Its as if i'm a different species and deserve different treatment. Why?? Now, I have very low self esteem. I'm uncomfortable around people because i'm always cautious of my looks. I've lost self confidence and its depressing. Why cant people accept me the way i am?
2007-03-22 22:26:59 · 4 answers · asked by fede 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You can't change how prejudiced people think and behave, but you can try to change your reaction. There are BBW support groups everywhere. There are lots of people who either don't care or prefer the larger sized people. Spending more time with supportive and happy people will help to detox you from the unhealthy spiteful comments. There really isn't any more one can do, body size is the last tolerated prejudice and bigotry -- like you can't make fun of someone if they have an elephant's trunk for a nose because that's "handicapped", but you can make fun of someone's body size because it isn't taboo to do it yet.
2007-03-22 22:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like to think of myself as a pretty liberal person. The majority of people who are as they are, whether their skin is a different colour to mine or their sexual preferences not the same, are just who they are, not through choice. They deserve as much respect as I do. But obesity is self-inflicted.
Being very fat is extremely unhealthy - let's not beat about the bush here. It lowers the quality of your life and shortens it too. Both smoking and drinking have come under fire from the health police and now it's the turn of the fatties. And rightly so in my opinion.
Lose some weight. Eat less and take some gentle exercise, but talk to your doctor first. Take it slowly, don't expect miracles. You'll find you feel physically better and your self-esteem will improve.
Okay, that's a simplistic view and there are often psychological (but rarely physiological) factors involved. That's why your doctor can help.
There is no need to be fat. Good luck.
2007-03-23 05:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mad Professor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the world of today is a world of perfect. And if you aren't perfect, you are an outcast. It is life, and the only thing you can do is toughen up, get real, and move on. I'm chubby, I've got curves. I've got a nice rack and a nice bum. No one liked me when I was a bit younger. Hit 18, grew a foot, body evened out and now I can't keep the men off me. Ppl still smirk and laugh at the fact that I'm not plastic, fake, and forcing myself to throw up, but you should be proud of these things. In an ever-growing race to be the most 'perfect and fake' of them all, you shouldn't be sad you're not in first place, you should be proud you are yourself. Cheer up, and if you really think your depression is a serious matter, make an appointment w/ a Psych, and talk it out w/ him. He may be able to direct you to classes, or medication. But believe me, most ppl don't need medication, they just need a little bit of confidence, and will power. Good luck. :)
And to the person above me...why does shehave a 'weight issue'? Why isn't it a skinny person who has a 'weight issue'? Hard to be supportive when you yourself use judgemental and nearing hurtful terms when attempting to help someone out who is sensitive and hurt atm.
2007-03-23 05:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are so rude. seriously. just because you have a weight issue gives people no right to treat you any different. I have friends of all sizes and I would never judge the bigger ones. its cruel. i've also had my issues with weight and I know how damn hard it is to lose weight. one time i was really big, then i lost alot of weight, people that I knew when I was big started talking to me. but when I was big I wasn't good enough to be their friends! it made me sick. I would suggest going to weight watchers, not even to lose weight, just to meet people that are in your shoes. but if you ever want to talk to me you can e mail me anytime. I understand comletly what its like. I know how down it can make you feel too. sometimes I feel like I dont even want to leave my house. and you can feel the stares from others. especially when your at a restaurant or something, what are you suppost to do starve yourself? good luck sweetie
2007-03-23 05:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by princess1226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋