Hi,
I need quick and easy to do suggestions to make up to my g/f after I made her feel not wanted and not cared about unknowingly. It all started with a talk over the phone on wed, and she guess from the tone of my voice that i didn't want to talk to her and that she bothered her and she felt like i didn't appriciate it. I had no intention of doing that or coming off like that. I was just tired since it was finals week so i was talking slow. I don't know if it's my fault or not, but I will take it as mine because i love her very much. At the moment, she's very hurt by this, and every since then there's been misunderstanding. I want to make it up to her since i will be seeing her tomorrow. I have 3 hours to do something cute and romantic. HELP!!!!
THANK YOU!
2007-03-22 21:21:08 · 18 answers · asked by abe_cooldude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do it or there will be war till you do. It's just one of those things in life. Really theres no other way.
2007-03-22 21:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, this is kind of similar to a situation ive been in - and all i can say is that when my boyfriend told me it had bothered him all day it really suprised me, as im used to men who just forget about things like that - and that meant more to me than anything - we both apologised to each other and thought - god theres worse things!!! - its really hard to communicate properly on the phone as you really take in the tone etc of the other person, thus causing insecurities at times by reading too much into it - i think that its lovely you feel the need to make it up to her - but my advice is dont go OTT with the apology - as i said worse things have happened and well was it really that bad? - i think you may be suprised, maybe you girlfriend has had a think about it and understands more that you may have been tired etc - time is a great healer within relationships - if your with the right person - i personally dont feel you need to apologise with flowers etc - yeh do something that will make her smile - but the words 'i love you' when said and when meant - that brings the biggest inner smile to anyone, to be loved is the best thing ever! - sorry for going on good luck - if your girlfriend expects apologies to that extent - well i wouldnt say that was fair - you havent done anything that bad!! take care x
2007-03-23 04:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds pretty selfish to me. Don't see why you still want to pursue this relationship. I know you love her, but she is taking advantage of your sincerity. I am sure you already told her you were tired at the time because of your finals, as you said you had other misunderstandings since that converstion. What does she want BLOOD? YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT.
She does not sound like a very nice person. Or she is just an insecure person, and those type of people have to test the love of those that really love them CONSTANTLY. So I would just move on. As she will always find something to complain about., and you will always have to prove to her that you really love her. AGAIN YOU WERE NOT AT FAULT. YOU ARE HUMAN.
Don't worry you that you won't find someone else, a sincere, and honest guy like you are one in a million. And there are millions of girls out there looking for someone like you.
2007-03-23 04:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look her in the eye and tell her you love her and you're sorry you acted so rotten on the phone the other night. You were tired and had a rough day and you will try not to be so inconsiderate next time. Tell her sorry that you hurt her feelings. Can u forgive me? Then kiss her and tell her again that you love her and dont ever want to hurt her.
I think communication is better than any bunch of roses!
2007-03-23 04:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You did nothing wrong,we all have our share of hard times. There is time for every thing even for a telephone call. She has to learn how to communicate better with you rather than getting upset. Mutual understanding and mutual love shoud be the bedrock of every relationship. You can't solve your relationship problems with sex and romance.You will eventually get tired one day. Make her feel comfortable to tell you anything no matter how silly it may be. Encourage her to tell you anything and everything especially when she is hurt. Encourage her to know your different temperants so that she won't get the wrong message again. Any other thing else can follow afther that.
2007-03-23 04:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK: you didn't mean to do this! sometimes, when my bf calls, he's tired or he sounds bored, but i know it's not me--it's just cause he's tired. she just missunderstood. the first rule in relationships is: always be ready to say ur sorry, communicate and work it out. just tell her tomorrow that ur sorry you hurt her on wed. and that you didn't AT ALL mean to come across that you didn't wanna talk to her. you were just REALLY tired. if she's cool, she'll understand. if she repeatedly does this to you, i'd consider ditching her cause that's what ur marriage would be like. oh yeah: when you apologize, give her flowers.....roses or lillys are nice. unless she's more of a wildflower kinda girl....then it'd be AWSOME if you got up extra early and picked her some pretty wildflowers. =) good luck!
2007-03-23 04:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you are meeting her, you can personally narrate her what you have said above and state that you have been grossly misunderstood and that she should understand the situation and circumstances in which you were talking in a low voice or slow and you had no intention of hurting her feelings. I am sure, she will understand.
Best of luck to both.
2007-03-23 04:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she loves you she'll understand that you didn't mean to hurt her. Just tell her your true feeling besides the flowers/chocolate or whatever. Also make an effort to surprise her and pick her from her work place or home, of course with her favourite flowers.
And next time if you are tire, just tell her so and make sure to ring/sms her immediately after you are awake and alert.
Good Luck!
2007-03-23 04:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by Coco2say 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget cute and romantic, and go for gentle and sincere. Just say you love her very much, and are sorry to have hurt her feelings and want to make it up to her. Then let her tell you whether she'd like you to take her to dinner or just cuddle at home or whatever. Sincerity wins over cuteness every time.
2007-03-23 04:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she likes flower, get her one. Other than just say sorry and telling her that you love her very much, you may explain to her sincerely that you are very tired that day. Sometimes women think too much that they tend to misunderstand situations but they feel uneasy to ask for explaination. Then, you may bring her to her fav restaurant or to a place that she likes (if she still feels upset)
2007-03-23 04:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
eih hnm why don't you take her for a walk in the park..the twist..pick her up early in the morning and watch the sunrise together..it means a new beginning and share breakfast together..i hope this is possible..then talk to her about the problem because you need to settle it somehow and explain to her what happen is not she was thinking it was..and tell her that you love her so much..
2007-03-23 04:30:18 · answer #11 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋