im 39 wks pregnant i have already 8 children all by the same man. we have been together 25 yrs i love him a lot but we are both recovering addicts and 4 yrs ago during getting high he got paranoid and believes im cheating on him. now still four yrs later my life is hell and i didnt even do any thing. he treats me real bad and goes into blackout rages and says really nasty things to me and i feel llike im goingthrough this pregnancy alone and i found out last week that i lost 11lb in one wk from hyperactive thyroids. should i leave him and how do i move on after loving him since i was 13 help please.
2007-03-22 21:08:11 · 10 answers · asked by karen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should stick with him. Try some therapy or counseling. But don't give up on the love of your life.
2007-03-22 21:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screaming Jeebus Whistlehands! Eight kids and a drug problem? Talk about milking the government welfare tit for all it's worth! Whew! And I wonder why my taxes are so high.
Oh well, Lets take the problems one at a time.
1. You're both obviously a couple of ignorant dickslaps and probably unemployable, so getting a job and supporting yourself is out of the question, especially with eight kids and one on the way.
2. The nimrod that goes into blackout rages. He's got to go. Show some self respect and kick him to the curb. Get an order of protection from the court and sue for divorce with custody and child support.
3. Thyroid problem. That would require a physician's assistance. See your doctor about that problem.
There. Feel better now?
2007-03-23 04:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by endlessknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is he going into blackout rages? Is he still on drugs?
Does he drink excessive amounts of alcohol? It doesn't sound like a healthy situation. If you are being seriously harmed or feel threatened by him, then get some help. Stop by a women's shelter or call a hotline. At least maybe you could talk to somebody and they can help you decide what is the best thing for you to do.
If the relationship is worth fixing and he is willing to work on it as well, then it sounds like marriage counseling might be a good place to start.
Here are some numbers/websites maybe you should look at or call:
http://www.ahealthyme.com/topic/depverbal
(talks about verbal abuse)
e-mail: EICI@verbalabuse.com National Domestic Violence Hotline
Alcohol and Drug Helpline - Provides referrals to local facilities where adolescents and adults can seek help. Brief intervention. 1-800-821-4357
National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
2007-03-23 04:30:33 · answer #3 · answered by engineergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i would like to say congrats on being a recovering addicted. You need to search your heart and ask your self is this what u want no body can advice you to leave the man u love. but i can say if your not happy and apperntly your not than u need to do an inventorie on your relationship and see if it is worth saving and make steps to help your husband through his tough times. I am also a recovering addicted and i know it not easy I also know i have to put my self first because i wont let any one hurt me or give me the excuse to use again. do you do meetings have a sponsor if so Keep in touch with her all in all honey follow your heart think long and hard about your self. good luck to you
2007-03-23 04:21:52 · answer #4 · answered by lisa k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing would probably be get him help for the drugs, and you some help too, just to get some stress off your mind...After that long with someone and that many children, it is worth working for.
2007-03-23 04:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by JennieD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For once think of the unborn baby and yourself. You both deserve a happy life. You've loved this man for so long; now learn to love yourself. Leave him. You'll do fine without him.
2007-03-23 04:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by majika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With 8 children and one more on the way, there must have been something that made you stay with him so long... I think you should continue.. Don't leave him.. You simply can't.. Live with him and try your level best to improve the situation.. STOP DRUGS!!!
2007-03-23 04:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work your marriage out!
If he believes your pregnant by another man , then offer him the opportunity to get a paternity test to shut him up!
2007-03-23 05:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he has a problem and needs to see a doctor.
2007-03-23 05:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whats best for your kids. stop tramatizing them!!
2007-03-23 04:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by mel_sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋