i was in love with a girl during my high school. it has been 3 yrs since i finished the school. all the time since.. we have been in contact through mails and phones.. and my family knows about it and they treat her as if she is my future wife.I am not in my country right now and its not possible to return back so soon. well... the problem is.. as i have been far away.. i think i am not loving her these days ,,.. my love towards her is getting weaker i m just 21 right now and its long time to go until we get married . so love till then may go in both direction towards or away. I don't wanna hurt her by breaking her the promises i made her about our future.. but at the same time i am also worried about how the life would be of both of us if i do continue this relation for her happiness.. what should i do for the betterment of both of us?
2007-03-22 21:04:48 · 6 answers · asked by boyoboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you should never continue a relationship for happiness one day you will end it and it will just be wasted years that she could of been moving on from you. You are still young and you will change. I dont' believe in marriage before you are twenty five simply because you change constantly who you are at 21 is not who you'll be at 23 you have different values.
2007-03-22 21:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by quirkycutie18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be hearting her more, by not telling the truth. You are both are still young. If you will not tell her how you fee and that you are not sure of you and her future, tell her. It may be hard for her at the beginning, but at least she will have the opportunity to look for her happiness with somebody else. I am not saying she will, but it would be fair to let her know, so she won't be stuck on you, thinking that you are her future husband, feeling guilty for seeing other people, and test her feelings. Tell her, that no matter what, if you can, you will still be her friend, so is your family, if it is possible. I hope you get the point i am trying to make. Good luck
2007-03-22 21:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be selfish. At the end, it is best for both.. Give her up in a very matured way.. Tell her you have stopped loving her.. you are sorry about it and ask her to go forward with her life and assure her that you will supoport all her decisions.
2007-03-22 21:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do - and she deserves to hear it - is talk to both her and your family. I don't think anyone wants to see you force yourself into a relationship or a marriage you don't want, and - who knows? In the process of talking and getting to know her again, you might discover that she is the one you want anyway...
Good luck....
2007-03-22 21:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont love her enough to marry her right now then dont, she'll get over it. its better to tell her now instead of living a lie and fighting all the time. i should know.
2007-03-22 21:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her what you feel.
2007-03-22 21:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by roy_marzoed 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋