I talked to her husband about their affair?

Question

I could not take it anymore, My husband and his distant cousin who too is married but her husband works far and can only come over for a day in a week.
They flirt openly, spend time together send themselves love messages.
The woman calls my husband early in the morning and once I answered the phone and told her to behave appropriately,she doesnt seem to care but so does my husband. Meanwhile I do not get any kind of love from my husband but he gives it all to her so this time she called I gave her a piece of my mind but also called her husband, he would like to meet me, but I would like to stay annonymous, he seems to be surprised and may need more evidence but I wanted him to do his own investgation.however since he is with her once a week I think it may be diffcult and all I have are Love messages from each other from my husbands phone but cant foward them bse I do not want to reaveal my self to him.
Do you think talking to the husband will do something?

Answer 1

First of all thats sick to be with your cousin. You should have left him, and yes I'd send those messages. Who cares if he finds out hes messing with your heart here.

Answer 2

It might be of great help talking to the husband about it but it might cause more harm than good. if you decide to talk to the husband you better be known to him so you can catch them with double effort or get ideas from him. Otherwise he might not trust you. Yuo should be able to talk to your husband instead. Maybe it is the way yu talk to him that makes him not to understand. try to be more loving and calm even though yu are angry. make him feel how yu are feeling in a more mature way. try to be good company, to love him more make him calls and text him love messages. maybe yu don't do that so he has found where he can get it. Don't drive your man away from you coz you married each other out of love. Good Luck

Answer 3

If you are sure the live notes were anything more than chat between distant (close) cousins, then you did what you had to do. It is up to her husband to deal with his end. You can only watch and see. You could tell your husband you cant bear his closeness with his cousin. You do need to be careful though. It could just be innocent banters.

Answer 4

You may want to think about leaving this jerk. Do you really think that he will quit cheating just because you caught him this time. Leopards don't change their spots.

Marriage counseling is another option.

Either way, I would tell him that if he did not end the affair, I would reveal the letters to her husband, and to the JUDGE
when you file for divorce.

Answer 5

Yes it will do something, but i think you have just made it worse for yourself.It's not going to be hard to figure out how he found out . You did not make it very clear are they having sex or is it just that they are that close and you don't like it.

Answer 6

you should talk to yourself. you do not deserve to be treated that way. you are married, that means he is supposed to love only you. you should consider leaving him. if for no other reason than to teach him a lesson and make him go to counseling before you take him back. if you take him back, which i wouldn't.

Answer 7

Well, if they're really having an affair, start packing your bags. And if you talk to her husband there will be two of you packing your bags.

Answer 8

try getting help from her husband..
take pictures/videos(if u have a camera phone) to prove as evidence..

gOod luck..

Answer 9

you did the right thing but i wonder why u insist on remaining anonymous while those two want to break your heart and they dont even care.

Answer 10

Home wrecker.