someone would simply disappear from family and friends and start a life somewhere else? I'm understanding more and more every day. What I don't understand, however, is how I take the first step.
2007-03-22 20:30:45 · 4 answers · asked by A.Lee 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You don't have to go a long way away to "disappear" from family and friends. Simply stop contact. If they ask why, be honest with them. A short "I can't handle being around you right now because...".
I've had to do it with some members of my family and several friends over the years. Nobody likes being around someone who doesn't "get them" or is an "energy vampire" and everyone deserves a break from it. Just be sure that you are willing to completely sever some of you ties, because it might just happen.
2007-03-22 20:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by swee_pea630 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disappearing creates certain problems: family and friends tend to think that you've been kidnapped, or are in terrible danger, and move the world to find you. This is not what you want.
What you need to do is decide where you'd like to live, then start looking for a job there. Or if you have some money saved, you can rent an inexpensive room in the new city and then start job hunting. Tell your friends and family that you're very happy to be moving (wherever) and don't say you're doing it to get away from them. Burning your bridges is never a good idea, you may think now that you want to disappear but you never know when sometime in the future you might need their help. Anyway, once you're moved into your new city then you will naturally rarely or never have to see those people again. All without making them angry at you or terrified that you've disappeared.
2007-03-23 03:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by charmedchiclet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I well remember the day, when I had lived with such horrendous things with a mentally ill husband, that getting in the car with a credit and leaving it all behind...driving as far as possible actually sounded sane. The only thing that brought me back from the brink was knowing I was responsible for my children, 14, 12 and 2. I feared for my life, so I said I was going to visit my parents. I piled every essential thing and kids in an old car, and drove 16 hours with a few dollars in my purse. I am 5'6" and only weighed 103 pounds.
My parents welcomed me with open arms, and we all started to heal. But it was a long time coming. I don't know what is driving you. If you're bored with your life, make the plans that are right for you, but don't just disappear. From the news the last few years, that can be a serious offense if a lot of money is spent looking for someone who is missing. You have to be safe and you have to be well. Whatever is going on in your life, look deep inside for guidance. If you've gone through trauma, talk with someone who is impartial who will help you. If you are just being spoiled and want things that are greener on the other side of the fence, without the consequences...still get counseling. There are always consequences to every action.
2007-03-23 03:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i left home for real the first time,i had zero contact with any family for 3 years.to me it was like the passing of a day.i think it depends on the individual.my family used to fight really bad,but now we got each others back in a serious way.we dont need a call every sunday(unless its for bail money lol jk).but we couldnt be closer.
2007-03-23 03:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋