Married and no sex?

Question

Have been married for some months now by a virgin me a virgin as well but we still can't do it. He sometimes miss the thing but when he does find it is painful maybe coz he is going the wrong way trying to force imself to the wall missing the passage. I have managed to put my finger in and suceeded without pain. I have also shown him by inserting his finger as well and it worked. but when it comes to the real thing hell no we can't. we take a lot of time trying until he loses his erection. what should we do.

Answer 1

Your vulva may be small for his penis. It will adjust. Try a lubricant. If there is no commercial ones available you can use cooking oil. The secret to lovemaking is to relax. It will take a few times before the pain stops.

Answer 2

I feel for you, it's never easy to lose your virginity. What I suggest is that you both educate yourselves, read books, etc. to learn more about how to go about the sexual act. Remember to be very patient and loving with each other. Try to have sex when you're not in a hurry, take the phone off the hook, turn off the TV, and just enjoy each other. Take your time, engage in alot of foreplay. By kissing, hugging, and caressing each other, your bodies will prepare for the sexual act. Start out by having him insert one finger, and then two fingers, until you are more open. Once he has done this for awhile, and you are more open and wet, he can try to insert himself very slowly until his head is inside you. Then he can move in and out slowly at first, and then he can go faster. If you think it's necessary, you may also want to use some type of lubrication, such as K-Y Jelly or Astroglide. Yes, it will hurt at first, maybe even a few times, but the hurt will give way to the pleasure.

Answer 3

Losing your virginity hurts...like heck....
Keep trying, you'll get there.

Good luck.