How to be a successful person?

Question

How to be successful in life, love and in reality?I've failed in love and I dont think I can forget this 'LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT'..which had me go through sleepless nights and thinking of how to forget him eventhough i know i cant till now bcos this is the first time i felt such emotional feelings towards someone..

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Well unless you are in your ninties there is still hope for you to love and be loved. God has a special person for you and I do not know why you lost this person and you say you cannot forget him, But if you keep dwelling on it, it will still be a sore spot. You must just make up your mind you are going to drop it and go on with your life. It is not the end of the world. Only God knows if it was the right one, I think us girls have been reading and watching too many Romance novels and think that is all there is to life, Yes, it is a good part of it But there are other things as well. You sound like a young women and get going in some kind of carreer or sports or dancing, or volunterring somewhere. There is lots to do, You have to stop continually thinking about it. I know it is hard BUT you can do it!!

Answer 3

when u are emotionally hurt, feeling the loss and pain is something u will have to go thru. It's like being cut by a knife, u will feel pain no matter whether the cut is deep or mild, a deeper cut will take more time to heal. Same thing applies to emotional hurt, give it some time to heal, u don't have to try to stop thinking of how to forget him, what u should be doing is to try to shift your focus to other things, having something else to occupy your mind will help a lot in your recovery. For example, involve in volunteering work, visit the hospice care centre and see how many patients who suffer from terminal illness like cancer, struggling to survive each and every day, going thru the horrid experience of chemotherapy, with most experiencing side effect of vomiting everything they eat, feeling strengthless and completely helpless. Visit some of the elderly staying in one room flat, see some of these single elderly sleeping on torn, thin and bug infested mattress, floors haven't been mop for a long time and black sticky substance that covers the entire floor space, urination and faeces of the floors as the toilet is broken down and the elderly made do with whatever they can on the living room. Have a visit to some of the children who suffered from child abuse and neglect, a broken family, children with wounds all over the body from parents who beat them up whenever they are upset or drunk. These are many of the lives of the people, living among us who suffered everyday and hoping to see a light over the horizon, while majority of us went thru life working from morning to evening, not knowing and aware that there are many people out there who are suffering. Having spend time to help these people will made us feel we are very fortunate, and we can made the life of one more people better even if we can't help each and everyone of the. So, step out of your home and see the world around u, it will defnitely help u to heal better and possibly done something that will made others happy too. :)

Answer 4

why do u want to forget him!! if u love him spend time with him. it will make u feel good. even if not as his girl friend but u could be his best frnd anyway!! so u see love is not only getting someone. if u r really in love find ur hapiness in his hapiness!! slowly time will play its own game and either u will find all this stupid or get ur love, but belive me time will never let u hang in the middle. its happened to me many a time the first time when i was in sixth!! i lost her when i changed my school in ninth but continue to wonder about her for next 6 years then at last i found her again through orkut.com but now i jst find it stupid enough to go and start the stuff again. see love is for instance. enjoy it and live it!! u need not to forget it because its devine!!
a word of suggestion: stop fantasising about him during the work hours!! carry out ur work properly and rest will be k with time!!
good luck
lots of love!!

Answer 5

lol at sterces

Anywho, to be successful in life, you have to know what you want, same with love. No, I'm not talking "tall, dark, and handsome", though those CAN be some of your "hopeful" qualifications, I'm talking what are YOUR interests, and look for someone who shares some of the same.

You also have to like and love yourself FIRST. Know that you can not be in a successful relationship without first knowing and liking who you ARE. I feel that I'm successful in life - I'm raising my daughter by being a stay at home mom, I take the time to learn things with books AND internet/TV, I'm learning to eat healthy and work out, enjoying my life with my husband.....but I'm successful because I'm doing what I WANT and I like myself for it. This may not qualify as successful to YOU, but if I am happy, then THAT is success - not everyone IS.

You never fail in love unless you stop loving yourself and your life. Learn who YOU are, and love yourself regardless of your faults, and you'll find love knocking at your door again. C'mon, do you REALLY want to be moping after someone with sleepless nights and hoping you can have him? Or do you want someone who you can be happy with, know s/he's happy with you, and you both get good sleep because you know that you've got each other for however long the relationship lasts?

I DO believe in love at first sight - it happened to me - but that love deepened when we began talking - and now, nearly 5 years later, we haven't stopped talking. But I loved myself, loved my life, and knew who I was at that point, so I was able to bring my TRUE self into our relationship from the beginning - nothing was hidden.

I hope you see what I'm getting at, and are able to apply it to your own life, if it feels right for you.

Answer 6

Hey Darlin',

How's it going? Hey, life is really hard in all aspects. We have good ideas, the best intentions and we make plans in order to achieve our goals. We all want to be successful. But it takes something more than all of this.
We think we're on the right path, or at least doing the best we think we can do, we try to focus on what we think is important and BAM, "strong feelings" that we never felt before seem to take over and make us change our minds about everything. We fall in love, we have desperate crushes on people, infatuation, we get into relationships, and soon enough, our goals seem further away and our plans to achieve our hopes become distorted. We make lots of poor choices based on our "strong feelings we've never felt before" and we wake up further away from anything we imagined our lives would be like. We then spend several years in bad relationships, we make some more mistakes, and when we think we can't take it anymore, we make some more bad choices and hit rock bottom.
This is when you start to wise up, grow up and start to experience success. It takes hard work and cold truth and some therapy perhaps. You gotta learn to see the patterns in your behaviors and what makes you choose poorly. And then, you start changing your ways, thoughts, perspectives, your goals change, and the strong feelings that once controlled you aren't so powerful over you anymore. It's maturity and it ain't easy to achieve. You get banged up good on the way and it hurts and then you get stronger.

At forty two this year I am happier, stronger, younger, smarter than I've ever been in my life and I had it pretty bad for a long time before I came into the person I wanted to be. The one piece of advice I'd give you, you'd not follow, because no one follows good, sound advice when they've not yet learned for themselves first.
But, here goes: know that your "strong feelings that you've never felt before" exist because of your past experiences, how your parents raised you, what they didn't give you that you needed and the way the other person has mannerisms or features that cause you to believe that they can give you what your parents failed to give you. So, you try to get that one thing from him. And you know what? He will act just like your parents did and not be able to give you that one thing that meant so much to you. And your heart will break. And then, after you've been beaten up a few several times by chasing after the same type of guy or letting him choose you, and landing hard on your butt, you'll understand that no one can give you that special something that you've been dying to get. No one, and not ever. And once you accept that, then you can grow beyond the pain and emptiness that got you stuck in your emotional rutt. And then, that special something you never got will come to you and that empty space in your heart will fill up with exactly what you needed. Just know that this is how life is for those who learn from their experiences which direction they should take to be successful in all things.

Being young is more miserable than you realize when you're young, but when you get older and happier you'll realize just how hard you really had it.

Answer 7

You didnt fail in love, love is still coming dont you worry.
Believe in yourself is the best success medicine anyone can have. So once you grab hold of that, take it and keep it forever and let it be your best friend cause it will get you along way TRUST ME!! It builds your confidence, your self esteem and yourself as well ;)

Answer 8

to be successful in life you must first Love yourself and put God before all, that was a mistake I regret in the past but afterwards God was there and everything came into place, always do the right thing and you will be rewarded as i have been. you will be worry free

Answer 9

i don't relatively think of so. i've got come to the theory that my expectancies are probable set way too severe, my targets are unrealistic. there'll continuously be some thing in my existence that is going to suck. possibly issues are not meant to get any extra effective. possibly I might desire to end with the dreaming and wishing, decrease my losses and discover ways to be happy with what I easily have.

Answer 10

If you want to make your wish come true u have to work hard for you to deserve it. Just like me. I want to be a successful person.
but nobody is perfect. You don't even know the person you met ( the man) was a true person for you. So just be careful. Be careful in wishes too.

Answer 11

To be successful, you must KEEP IT REAL. Don't lie to yourself about anything. Most of all, no matter what point you are in concerning your life, you are not stuck in anything. Change can come, but it's not instant. Be real.