Should I start trying now or wait?

Question

My husband and I would like to have another child. We have a 3 1/2 year old daughter. I am over weight by about 100lbs and would like to loose the weight first. I have been working out daily doing an hour of cardio. Every time the subject of us having another child comes up with family, friends and strangers - no one understands why I want to loose the weight first. I always get the same answer - why work hard to loose the weight now when you are just going to gain it back and have to loose it again. I was a little over weight with my first child and had a very difficult pregnancy. I was on bed rest the majority of the pregnancy because of my blood pressure and ended up having her a month early by c-section. I just want to have a good healthy pregnancy this time. If I can prevent a repeat of what happened last time by being healthier then to me I should atleast try. My husband goes back and forth. He can't decide. So what do you think - start trying now or wait till the weight is gone?

I am turning 30 this summer and have always had a very irregular period so I know that it may take a while to get pregnant this time. We also do not have insurance and are having to pay cash for the next one so I really don't want any complications.

Answer 1

Honey, if you want to lose 100lbs then MORE POWER TO YA!

It will help you manage your pregnancy better, probably make it easier to conceive as well. If people are saying "why bother losng the weight? you'll just put it back on" obviously have no idea how much weight you are supposed to put on during pregnancy - nowhere near 100 pounds!

If you lose the weight beforehand, and watch your weight while you're carrying (without going overboard about it) it will be easier to lose afterwards, and should only take a few months.

I'd try losing a bit of the weight first.

Answer 2

The heavier you are the more chances you have for complications. It is a good idea to get into a good weight range. Plus you don't have to gain the whole 100 pounds back. Since eating for two is just a myth, you really only need about 300 more calories durning pregnancy, you can put on minimal amount of weight. I think you should wait since you say that you had problems with the last pregnancy. Do you want those problems again. I am on my second pregnancy and since i had gestational diabetes (caused by excess weight) they automatically assumed that I will have it this time and I probbaly will due to the fact that I haven't lost anything.
Good luck and don't let anyone discourage you from losing weight to become healthy before having a second baby.

Answer 3

It is likely that the blood pressure will not be an issue the next time.
Putting physical issues aside for a moment, are you emotionally ready for another baby? Do you feel like it is a good time and you want another one now?
Let that determine your answer.
You can certainly keep exercising. You and baby will benefit greatly by you gaining muscle tone even if you don't drop weight before. Also, should you become pregnant, you do not need to gain much weight, maybe 10 pounds since you've got extra weight now.

But I totally think if you are ready for a baby mentally, go for it. You can keep the same cardio routine until you become pregnant and are about 2 months along. Then after that you will need to decrease intensity but you can still put your other child in the stroller and mall walk with her for exercise. Just make it a goal to not gain too much with the pregnancy and once the next baby is born you can get back to exercise 100 percent.
Congrats on your hard work you are doing for yourself. It is so important for us mom's to do something like that to help our physical and mental selves.

Answer 4

You should definitely consult a doctor, but based on my knowledge it is almost always harder to have surgery (c-section) when you are over weight because of the many layers of fatty tissue, also some overweight people have blood pressure issues which can cause them to go into labor prematurely which could result in losing the baby. Also women who are in shape seem to have an easier pregnancy and can bounce back easier. You should do what you think is right, after all you know your body better than anyone else. In my personal opinion though you should try and lose the weight for yourself, your child, and any future children. My mother was thin when she had me but she is now about 100 lbs over weight, i love her and wish she would lose weight because i could not imagine losing her. You can do it!!

Answer 5

If I were you, I would disregard what everyone else is saying and do what makes you feel best. It is both safer for you and for any baby you may carry if you were to lose the weight. Perhaps not all of it, but as much as you are comfortable with.

I am also trying to lose weight before I have a baby (though signs point to me being pregnant). It is something I am doing for me as I do not want to have to be worried that I have raised the risk for myself and my child.

At the end of the day, it is your body and your decision. You'll always have people sticking their nose in, but you get to make the call at the end of the day and you know your body better than any of them!

Answer 6

You should really ask your doctor. And I think you are right about losing the weight first. especially if your first pregnancy was more complicated than it had to be. If you can avoid a repeat of your first one, to HELL what everyone else says. You do you and let everyone else KISS your ***...
Good Luck!

Answer 7

Talk to your gynecologist or family practitioner. Ask if, given your previous experience, there will be siginifcant health benefits to either you or the child to losing weight. I don't know enough to advise, but I know I'd want my answer from a doctor, not a Y&A answerer.

Answer 8

age has nothing to do with it,, i would be more concerned about your health and the baby... thats a lot to go through.. i hated bedrest.. i would say lose all the weight you want first, and actually your blood pressure might be better if the weight was off next go around... you'd feel better about your changing body too.. nothing wrong with waiting...you'll be just fine.

Answer 9

you will desire to locate out what the physician says approximately thd different first, i might say that the physician tells you a undeniable quantity of time to be on the risk-free element yet you're in all risk wonderful, in case you prefer to choose for it then on the top of the day you're able to desire to be having intercourse approximately 10days when you end your final era to conceive so it is going to take a quick on a similar time as any way. good success

Answer 10

I think loosing the weight before is a good idea.It will make things much more easier.I think you are right,don't even listen to others.The best person to ask is your doctor.