How do you feel about young marriages?

Question

I was discussing this with my mom earlier.... are there people out there that could still look at a young couple (18-22ish) and not instantly think they're rushing things.Why is it suddenly so unacceptable for this to occur. My parents married at 20... and they've been together for 22 years so obviously not all end in disaster?

what do you think about it? would you be quick to judge, or have a little faith and hope that the couple will work out?

Answer 1

I'm 21 right now and i'm getting married in 5 mts, by then i'll be 22 and i totally agree. Everyone things i'm getting married way too young. And i can't even count how many times i've been asked "you're not pregnant are you?" when i say i'm getting married.
I've been with my fiance for quite a few years now and we've lived together since our 6 mth anniversary. So it's not like we've rushed into things. It's just hard for most people to see young people get so serious. My fiance was the first and only person that i actually saw myself wanting to spend the rest of my life with.
To me if you fell like when you're with that person you become a better person that that's all that you need. Not age, not everyone's acceptance. Just the knowledge that you two know you're going to make it.

Answer 2

Have some faith, not everyone is judging a young couple getting married, many people will be supportive of just that, as long as you don't rush in straight away, and have thought hard and are working together on a future don't worry about what anyone else thinks. I didn't and have been happily married for the past 3 years and now have a beautiful baby. Some people will be supportive no matter what your age, and others wont be, most likely because you have something they want.

Answer 3

The world is much more sophisticated than 25 years ago, young marriage is ABSOLUTELY a bad idea! If you guys are meant to be together then you can last a few years before making a commitment for a lifetime! Young marriage is especially bad for women - do you not have any goals in life? Don't you want to finish your masters degree and establish your career first?

Ok sure if you want to live in a remote rural village or a trailer park the rest of your life, go ahead, get married at 20... But if you want a real life, wait. A smart guy values a woman with a career and a good education. Sure a guy likes respect, but no guy I know wants a 'dumb housewife', an educated woman that helps the family grow in prosperity makes for a much better mother and wife...

Answer 4

I certainly understand your concerns and there is nothing that says that you can't be married young and have it work.....but...big but here....but look at the statistics...half of all marriages don't make it. Now part of that is because we are a lazy society as compared with years ago. People just quit being married as soon as it gets alittle difficult. Well unfortunately, many that quit too soon, are the young, because they are not equipped with the same life experiences which teaches then the skills to hang on and keep working at it. Now that said, if you are one of the minority that has taken your dating years seriously and have been very carefull to collect the kind of information about guys for you to make a good choice for a partner then fine...roll the dice and marry. But do you really know the guy...have you really talked about some of the real issues that come up in marriage and about how you would address those issues and I mean there are so many. If you have then God bless you, but you are in a small minority. And if you haven't then isn't it worth the extra couple of years so that the two of you can really really get to know one another? Besides, if you haven't, but there is the basis of love, then the two of you really shouldn't mind holding off a couple of years to help insure the longevity of your life long commitment......Good Luck!

Answer 5

22 years of marriage really isn't all that long. I was married almost 25 years and I was married at 27. I'm happily divorced now. Not all marriages that are entact are happy marriages. Sometimes couples stay together more out of habit than anything else. That doesn't make the marriages good. It doesn't matter how old a couple is when they get married...chronological age has very litte to do with it. It is the maturity of the pair that is important. Some people do just fine getting married at 18, others aren't ready for marriage at 18 (I wasn't ready for marriage at 27!).

Answer 6

Twenty years old in 2007 is a lot different than 20 years old in 1985 or even '75. Times have changed a bunch and your parents were probably more mature than most 20 year olds today. I would think 18 to 22 is too young to be married... at 22 a person is typically getting out of college and is not established yet. Statistically, most people who marry young, don't last. People are living longer and tend to still be changing between the ages of 18 to 22.

Answer 7

In this very uncertain world, a youngster is better off staying at home, going to college and getting a BA with some certificate at least like Nursing or accounting before they get married and start a family. We are living longer and having children later in life which is a both a good thing.
You really don't need to get married and have a kid at a very young age. You can not possibly understand the commitment and task you are getting yourself into. You don't have any opportunity to have a young life if you have to settle down and raise a family right away.
On the other hand, if you just can't stop yourself, the parents get over it and you can go to and finish your education while you are raising a kid, but it is not easy.
Good Luck, whatever you or fate decides for you!

Answer 8

To answer your first question as to why people think its unacceptable to marry at a young age, most people think that at your early 20s you're not responsible enough to take that kind of commitment. And usually because people assume that something soon after you get married that you'll want or start to have kids.

In my opinion I think its fine as long as they truly love each other. Marriage is not something to enter lightly. And if it was it would be useless. Marriage is an eternal bond linking you to that person for the rest of your life. I have faith in every marriage that is truly heartfelt.

Answer 9

even although i think of that is distinctive for each individual, a large style of the extra youthful marriages I see are after a an fairly short era of relationship and engagement. oftentimes, those couples do not comprehend one yet another on a deep sufficient point and while the smallest ingredient is going incorrect, instead of working with the aid of it, they get divorced. i individually think of we, as a society, are too plenty into on the spot gratification and so if a relationship is going properly for 2 years- time to get married! on the comparable time, i comprehend couples that married youthful and are keen to artwork with the aid of their problems and have a large relationship. i'm appalled as quickly as I hear of youthful 20-somethings getting married after understanding their companion for under a 300 and sixty 5 days. i don't see what the frenzy is! individually, i don't prefer to get married till overdue 20's or early 30's- assuming i've got got here across 'the only'. (i'm 22 now) My mom is consistently reminding me there is no rush into getting married, and that i agree. i think of you and your important different are interior the minority, and that i wish you all the final!

Answer 10

In general, most young people aren't ready for marriage. I don't think they are raised to be ready. Marriage requires a certain amount of selflessness and sacrifice and I don't think today's young adults have any clue how to do those things.

Depending on the people, age may not be an issue. I got married youngish (22). No one said a WORD to me about my age. I had already been in and out of the Navy and, at the time, was working full time and going to school part time. My husband was going to school full time and working part time.

I know plenty of people who at the age of 30 and 40 are not even remotely close to being ready for marriage. Unfortunately they are on their 2nd or 3rd or 4th marriage.