I can't talk about gay people, o a hot chick or even watch a porn movie were there are two girls together because he gets upset and walks away from me. I am who I am and I didn't ask to be this way. I can't change the fact I like girls also. I have never been with one but sometimes I tell him that I would like to try it and he goes ballistic. What can I do? Why doesn't he accept? Should I look for someone else that accepts me how I am?
2007-03-22 19:15:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What's the point in choosing a life partner who won't allow you to be yourself??
Yes, absolutely look for someone who will accept you as you are!!
Your partner is supposed to be your "safe place". Your partner is supposed to know you better than you know yourself - and accept every aspect of you unconditionally.
2007-03-22 22:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear. Firstly, when did you tell him? How long has he known about this? Perhaps he needs more time to get his head round it before he can come to accept it. If you have only told him recently I wouldn't despair just yet - there is a possibility that he might come round to the fact in time.
If he's known for a while then I guess you may have to accept that he just won't accept it, and the question then becomes one of whether or not you can live with that. How much do you love him? Is it a serious relationship or not? If it's not, and you really feel you don't want to live your life without expressing your bi-side, then I think you may want to seriously consider moving on.
Before making any decisions, perhaps you should sit him down and try to talk to him about it again. Find out what repulses him about it... or is it a case that he feels really threatened that you might leave him for a girl. If its the latter, then you might be able to reassure him.
2007-03-22 20:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by pinksparklybirdy 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You did the right thing telling your boyfriend that you're bisexual. However, the difficulty with your situation is that there may be a clash in terms of what both of you want.
If your boyfriend wants a monogamous relationship but you want to engage in casual play with females, then the two of you really have to rethink your relationship.
If your boyfriend wants to have casual encounters with other guys and he has a problem with you getting with females, then its completely one-sided and he needs to be more flexible.
What you both really need to do is work out what each of you wants and see if there is any way of making things work.
2007-03-23 09:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by nemesis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like moving on might be a very good idea. Some people just hate the LGBT community. If the only way you can be with him is to suppress who you are, then you should definitely move on to someone much more accepting.
2007-03-23 03:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang on, if he told you that he would like to cheat on you with someone else, would you be happy with it?
Maybe its not the bi thing, but that you want to be with someone else that's upsetting him? Or are you just a bit too involved in yourself to see that?
2007-03-23 04:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Factually correct 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's really,really insecure! If your asking if you should look for someone else then you must be thinking of moving on? you can't live your life like that.It's not as if you've told him you want to cheat on him with women,just that you're attracted to them.When he thought you were only attracted to men did he ban you from looking at men in porn movies or talking about straight men?? He needs to grow up or he'll lose you.
2007-03-22 23:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the thing is, you not only said you were bisexual, you said you'd like to try it. if my partner told me they'd love to give sex with someone else a bash i'd be pretty upset about the whole thing. he probably feels insecure that you will go behind his back and try it, or maybe that there'll always be something that he can' t provide you with. i think you should just reassure him, massage his ego a little bit and promise him that you're not going to stray. maybe that'll do the trick.
2007-03-22 23:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by spiralling 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe hes jelous and feels he's not enough for you, or that you'll cheat. Talk to him and find out what his issue is.
If he wont talk give him the choice. He accepts you or he leaves.
Thats way its his desicion and his fault if he wont.
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2007-03-23 12:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Londonbaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he's doing the i'm so upset act he probably wants to watch you having sex with another woman, but not honest enough to admit it. why don't you just arrange the event: make him find you in bed with a woman and act as if you didn't hear him come in. most guys like that sort of thing.
2007-03-24 14:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by mud&honey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your b/f must be crazy he should be happy that your bi. Ask him if he fancies a threesome with you and another female that might do the trick. If not dump him and get in touch with me. LOL
2007-03-24 13:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by stevie-b-101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋