help.
i have a 15yr old boy who of which is v demanding, (light words) He
challenges my every move in his continual nastyness
vindictivness,spitfulness and general hate of what seems to be just me.
this is a leniant choice of words how i have discribed him. i actually
dont like this child as a human being all i c is bad, he been offered
help in his behavour but refuses to partisipate in convosations with
proffesianalls. he tells me of his hate 4 me on a daily bacis, he is
viciouse to his younger siblins, to the point of maliciouse body scaring.
he says i need help and that i am a loon, actually he has a point i am
slowly going insane there is only so much abuse one can take b4 breakages
appear. and im broke please help...
2007-03-22 19:12:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First try getting him into a mental facility. He is a danger to you & his siblings. Go to the Department of Human Resources & they can help you figure out what to do, or tell you where to go to get the help you need. The mental health facility can access him & figure out what would be the best way to help him & you. You & all your kids need to see a counselor go to you local Community Mental Health Center. Please, try the mental help road first so if it's possible he can be helped.
2007-03-22 19:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage boys are very difficult to deal with. The worst thing that you can do to you son is give up on him. Believe me, mine was a monster. I wanted to yank every hair out of my head, everyday of the week. I could not wait until bedtime, so that I take a few minutes to relax. I understand that you are at wits end. It took several therapists before my son found one that could relate to him.
First, take charge. You are the parent. He can not refuse to go to therapy unless you allow it. Even if he does not participate, he will learn. He is just testing you to see if he can get you to let him quit going. Be as stubborn as he is.
All teenagers think that their parents know nothing. Tell him, that you may be a loon, but you are also his mother and that he is going to start treating you with respect or you will have him put into a school for problem children, a detention home or a boot camp. In Louisiana they offer all three. I am sure that you can find help, if you seek it.
Sounds like you could use some parenting classes too. I didn't think that I needed them, because I had already raised one child successfully. Boy was I wrong. They helped me tremendously. Not only that, but I met other people that could relate to what I was experiencing. Generally the Department of Child Welfare, a school counselor, or a child therapist can provide you with information on the services that are available to you in your community. Get there and get there fast before this child becomes a nuisance to society. Your problems won't stop just because he becomes of age--they get worst.
By the way, I prayed and never gave up. It took a lot of work, but I have a very wonderful 19 year old son. I am truly proud of his turn around. He thanks me often for not giving up on him. He now realizes how hard it was for me. He often tells people, "I don't know how my mother used to put up with me."
If you give up now, you still have more to raise. Learn what you need to do now, so that it will be easier with the other children. It is your responsibility to them.
By the way, they all go through the phase of thinking their parents know nothing. They are just trying to exert their independence. We need to just remain in charge, make them pay for their mistakes, and show them plenty of love and understanding. (Even when we hate what they are doing)
A parent's love should be unconditional.
2007-03-22 19:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the state that you live in offer programs that help?
You clearly have a big problem that needs urgent attention!
Please call your local help line or even a hospital where they can direct you to the right place!
ASAP!
My prayers are with you and good luck!
2007-03-22 19:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have im admitted to the mental health ward at your local hospitol. Sounds like the has ODD.
2007-03-22 19:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by agbridal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set some grounds rules and make sure he follows them. And maybe you might want to think (and i know this sounds shallow, and disturbing but...) about calling one of those nanny shows. Like nanny 911. It sounds like either this or military school.
2007-03-22 19:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by Janel Nelson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK that 15 year old lay down some rules.YOU STICK TO THEM TOO BE STRONG. IF HE DONT WALK THE LINE move him out to foster care. BECAUSE HE WILL DISTROY your home. DONT let them distroy you. IF THEY ARE THAT OUT OF CONTROL you take control back of your life right now. WE had to move my sister out she was just that bad. ITS the teen age years. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-22 20:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seek help with your child, and yet you speak and write as a child yourself.
Go figure.
Grow up. There's my advice.
2007-03-22 19:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you could get one of his uncles(if he has one) to have a word with him. He needs a male figure to try to sort him out.
2007-03-22 19:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by kicking_back 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uh....put him in juvenile hall without warning or threats. Call the cops and bust him for assault. Done deal.
2007-03-22 19:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a Life
2007-03-22 19:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ivan 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋