OKay.. so me and my boyfriend have been seeing each other for a while and he is going through a nasty divorce with his ex in Canada. (He lives here in the states) They have a 16 month old son who lives with the mother in Canada. My boyfriend is going though alot emotionally with this divorce and she gives him alot of problems... but some of the problems aren't just causing him pain.. they are causing me some too.. she does nothing but speak poorly about me and tells me that i can't even thouch their son with a 10 foot pole. I told her that i respect her and her wishes but SHE JUST WON'T STOP!!! what's next? (Matt and I want to start our own family but we are afraid of what she'll do with their son once she finds out)
p.s. please keep in mind that she cheated on him twice and she is the one who asked for a divorce.
2007-03-22 19:12:31 · 6 answers · asked by missnmyhuny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, she is the mother of his son--but when it comes to your relationship it is none of her business. She is putting you down to try and start trouble between you two and also she may be a bit jealous (even though SHE split with him). She needs to get used to the fact that you are his woman now and that when he has his visitation rights you are not going to disappear just because she wants you miles from her son. It's HIS son too. She is trying to be controlling and that cannot happen. She wrecked her life and she is taking it out on you. Don't let her stop you from starting your own family. Good luck!!
2007-03-22 19:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she cheated it is probably a hard time for her emotionally too. You might be an angel but right now she see's you as the ENEMY. So try not to let her comments get to you. She does not know you! Imagine another woman being a mother figure to your child. It's gotta hurt. If I was you I would avoid contact with her. Let your boyfriend deal with her. Some type of visitation will be worked out, and she will be unable to stop you from interacting with their son as long as his father condones it. As for you two starting a family it isn't any of her business. As long as he gets some type of legal custody or visitation through the courts I think everything will turn out fine with a little time. good luck!
2007-03-22 19:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by charbarski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got involved with a guy who has "baggage". You're just going to have to learn to deal with that "baggage". In "Matt's" life his SON should come first, before any plans you and "Matt" may have, you might not like it but that's tuff...he helped create that child and that child should be his priority, not starting another family with you. It doesn't matter that she cheated on him or that she asked for the divorce...that has nothing to do with the child. Matt needs to decide what is more important.
2007-03-22 19:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your doing the right thing by abiding by her wishes, but don't ignore your own......go ahead and do your own thing she cant hold you back, and if she uses her son against you and her soon to be ex, then she is only hurting her chances for being the primary custodial parent.
2007-03-22 19:30:41 · answer #4 · answered by Skinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is bitter and angry at herself that she left a good man and you catch him. Now she is all alone and thinking about your both having a god time together, it just drive her crazy. I dont think you both can do anything as she is far far always and she will not hurt her son bc that is the only person she can hold on as this momemt. So i will say not to worry too much.
2007-03-22 19:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she need s to be put in her place!
I would sue her the next time she bad mouthed me in public or anywhere else!
2007-03-22 19:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋