So I know that a simular question has been asked before, but their question didn't quite answer the question.
Orgasms. I have them. I have alot of them. Too many actually, and yes I know some people say there is no such thing as too many orgasms, but when you can barely get past the 30 seconds of actual penetration and you're having another one? I'm having too many.
Bad lovers, mediocre lovers... it really doesn't matter. I'm having orgasms no matter what. And it's even worse with a good lover.
It's gotten to the point where I'm not actually enjoying the sex anymore. All destination, no trip. There's none of the fun of getting there.
So the question. Is there a way to delay the female orgasm? A way to make it harder? I'm about ready to tear my hair out with the trying. (and yes I've tried bad lovers, that didn't work either)
2007-03-22 18:56:35 · 14 answers · asked by ms_trixx 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
For most women, I'm one of them, it's difficult to consider this to be a problem, sounds more like a blessing..but when I try a little harder to imagine what it must be like for you, I think I begin to understand that it actually very well can be a problem. I guess you're one of those extremely sensitive people: even the slightest stimulation does it for you. I'd suggest talking to a doctor. Maybe start with your gynecologist, if she/he is unable to help then a sex therapist should (a gynecologist might be able to refer you to a sex therapist). You are definitely in the minority, but still you're not alone, there are people like you out there. Get medical advice, get professional help and enjoy your sex life again!
2007-03-22 21:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by praha 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when you are having sex and you feel like you are going to orgasm stop and start pleasing the man like sucking his penis or start kissing him.and when he is about to orgasm then you can continue and you can orgasm together. Or you can try and think of something that doesn't excite you at all but I don't think that works. I have no idea though for me it is the exact opposite I can go for hours if I wanted too, and I am a man, seriously the only way I have ever had an orgasm is through masturbation if I can stay hard I can go four hours it is frustrating for me too. So I sort of know what you are going through.
2007-03-22 19:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by ♫Rock'n'Rob♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are focused on your orgasm too much which may be making your condition worse. I am sorry if I were wrong. But as far as health is concerned, there is no harm to your body, or your life. If you are really concerned, go talk to your board certified internal medical doctor. But do not take any chemical pills. Try natural holistic medicine first, the chemical pills has too much bad side effect which can lead to more serious health concern than having orgasm. I believe its more mental than physical matter. Also try Sex therapist, may be better than conventional internal medicine doctor since they specializes in Sex related issue.
2007-03-22 19:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
During intercourse (in which either she or the male are stimulating the clitoris with the fingers), the moment she feels orgasm approaching, the fingers should be removed from her clitoris. Instead she should intensify her pelvic movements, and free of any clitoral stimulation, begin the vaginal muscle contractions which will create additional friction between the walls of the vagina and the penis. The contractions should be repeated as fast and as often as possible, held as long as possible, and coupled with the most stimulating pelvic thrusts.
The impending orgasm will then build slowly and occur without any clitoral stimulation at all. If the contracting is fatiguing and the orgasm begins to fade, the female may resume clitoral stimulation till such time arousal has intensified again.
2007-03-22 19:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Gary S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-11-23 03:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's very unusual.
Yes, there are desensitizing lotions out there which will help you out with that problem. You can find them on some reliable sites like Drugstore.com, or something similar.
2007-03-22 18:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by C J 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
get your lover to have more fore play so its a longer trip. And if you find out what got you that way share the secret with all woman kind!
2007-03-22 19:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a male. Just kidding. Well the only thing you could try now is having it in public. Who knows it might work. Im not trying to be sarcastic either. Spice it up with a little taboo.
2007-03-22 19:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Try using a vibrator often at home. YOu may not be quite so sensitive after you use it for a while routinely.
2007-03-22 19:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I sould suggest being loved and loved well at that.
2007-03-22 19:00:39 · answer #10 · answered by bubbasmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋