I am a christian and also a virgin, no one knows that I am gay. It tears me up inside, what I want and feel seeing as I have been taught from an early age that homosexuality is wrong. I see others and the pull for love from somene is so strong. But I can not come out, because I would be abandoned by my family and possibly friends. I look to god for help but it never comes and i am so alone.
2007-03-22 18:48:42 · 9 answers · asked by JONNY J 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Jonny... I've been in your EXACT situation... it will get better and in time you will be fine. I've dealt with this "dilemma" for many years.
I've come to learn that you will know who you can "come out" to and when.... and those people will still embrace you. I've come out to many of my Christian friends and our bond is still as strong as it ever was and I hold onto my Christian faith and pray Gods will be done in my life everyday.
If you'd like to talk more, feel free to e-mail me. I'd be more than happy to help you, if I can, as I know what your going through.
Where all here to help one another and I'm happy to do my part!
2007-03-22 19:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad world when people use God as the reason why homosexuality is "wrong." This is my number one pet peeve with those against homosexuality. I would recommend becoming comfortable with yourself first before you come out. At the end of the day, what is right for you is the only right answer. Trust is huge in coming out. I would test the waters a bit and see how some of your friends react. If it's a negative reaction, then I would honestly find new friends. They should be able to accept you for who you are and not be judgemental.
Hiding your sexuality will only hinder you. It will only make you feel more abandoned because you in a sense have abandoned who you really are to apease others. Be yourself and that's really all that matters at the end of the day. As for your family, I'm sorry that your family views homosexuality as being wrong.
As to looking for God for answers, it might not come right away. In my opinion, he does not judge and will not condemn for He is perfect in every sense of the word. Your family isn't. I'm not. Good luck and I hope I was somewhat of a help:)
2007-03-22 19:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
If your parents love you unconditionally, then they won't abandon you. But if they feel that they have to abide by the "LAWS" of God, then let them be. One day your parents will be gone, and you're the one who has to live with and for yourself, no one else! You have to be concerned with your own happiness. If you continue being in the closet for the rest of your life, your friendships and relationships are going to be affected regardless if people think your straight. If you are old enough, then maybe it's time you look to move somewhere where there is a big gay community, where you can relate to many people in your situation. Remember if you really read the Bible, it doesn't say that being homosexual is a sin. Don't let a book rule your life!
2007-03-23 07:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality is not wrong. Forget what these people have taught you; they are causing you pain. That said, it is hard to change peoples' views about such things, so don't try. Unfortunately, you may have to continue hiding your homosexuality from these closed-minded people if you want to continue being a part of their lives. You can't blame them entirely for believing what they themselves have been told is the truth, but you don't have to submit yourself to their ignorance forever, either.
Since you can't turn to your family for support on this issue, find an online support group or a therapist to talk to. There are people out there who will not despise or criticize you simply because you are attracted to men rather than to women. Concentrate on building friendships with people who will accept you as you are first, then look for love later.
Best of luck.
2007-03-22 18:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what, if you keep on listening to other and doing what they think is right then u will never be satisfied in ur life. people will never stop talking s-hit and telling u whats right to do and whats wrong, so I think its time for u to make ur own decisions, and if thoes people really love u then they will understand u. life iz short and trust me if u dont do what ever u want now, then it will be harder and alomsy impossible later.
just do what u think is right and what u believe in, not what the other think or believe.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-22 19:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay where you are at.
no one needs to know what your orientation is.
it is yours alone and belongs to only you.
there is no need to ruin your life.
i myself, don't understand this coming out thing.
there is no reason to post your orientation on a public billboard, if you are not comfortable with it and the consequences that go with it.
feel free to email me.
i sense your pain.
2007-03-22 19:36:30 · answer #6 · answered by john john 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Baby have some online fun and don't get down. E,ail me id you want to talk
2007-03-22 18:56:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it helps finding friends online that are going through the same things.
thats what ive been doing and i feel alot better.
2007-03-22 20:02:01 · answer #8 · answered by soundofwhite 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am here for you....
2007-03-22 19:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋