I have a 7 year old and 9 year old and was wondering when you think it would be apropriate to have "the talk". i'm not planning on doing it now because they are so young but when should I?
2007-03-22 18:26:18 · 20 answers · asked by dancergirlanna 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
they are both girls.
2007-03-22 19:38:21 · update #1
It all depends. If they start asking questions about it, maybe you should. I got told all about it when i was 11, and my brothers when they were 12 and 10. If you don't want to go through "the talk", maybe you should get some books about it. That's what our year 12 health teacher did with her two girls, and they were your kids age.
2007-03-22 20:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learned bits and pieces along the way about sex ed and nothing from my parents. I learned about sex and how it was done from a tv show on HBO lol that's kinda sad I was about 9 years old. And then learned about oral sex from the whole Bill Clinton scandal when I was about 10 or 11 since it was all over the news and I was a very aware child. Ever since then it was friends, media, or the internet where i've got my answers. You should speak to your children when you feel it's necessary but learn that everything is getting to your children a lot earlier than you might think. I'm almost 18 and know how early things got to my friends in elementary school and that was the '90s. :/
2007-03-23 09:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by mtoWCS09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it might be wise to have an explanation on stand-by in case they ask you before you have a chance to talk with them on your own time. I know they're young & I'm glad they don't know anything, yet, but kids learn sooooo early these days. I wouldn't wait much longer with the 9 y/o, especially if it's a girl, because she'd be around the normal age that girls can start their periods. I know too many kids who engage in sexual activity before they even reach 13 y/o! To be honest, my kids are still babies, but I do think about 'that day' when I have to talk to mine. *sigh* They grow up too fast! You might take your 9 y/o out to dinner, (just the 2 of you) and maybe go for a drive to have some privacy to talk. Don't act like sex is a bad thing, because that may make him/her more curious about it. Just explain it as it is, a fact of life. Let him know it's not dirty unless it's misused & handled inapropriately. If it's a boy, his father (or a father figure) should talk to him, so he won't get imbarrassed. Boys are just that way. LOL That way it can be a 'man' thing & make him feel more important! Oh, good luck! I'm gonna read some of these answers and try to remember some of them for future reference!
2007-03-23 01:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by mom-of-4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was around 6 when I had my first little "talk". I asked my mother where my youngest brother (I'm oldest of 4 and he's the youngest) came from and how he ended up in her belly. She showed me some pictures in her Women's Health book about baby development, and basically spelled the rest out (but not in detail, thank goodness!). We received "the talk" in school in 4th grade (some received it in 5th, depending on where they were), and at that point I asked more questions. I'd say, 4th grade, I was around 9 years old.
Basically, they did the talk that early because some kids were already hitting puberty by then. You need to have the talk early, though, because as soon as they can menstruate, they can become pregnant, and they need the TRUTH about the possibilities - though you can feel free to skip some of the more.....involved...explanations.
2007-03-23 03:52:39 · answer #4 · answered by jlene18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my oldest daughter small stuff at first, when she was about 8 or 9. I told her first about her period becuase they start at about 11 or so...depends on the child. That helped her because she didn't freak out when it started. Then I explained to her that we have our periods and why it's healthy. I sat her down and talked SERIOUSLY about sex when she was about 11 because she was REALLY developing She's 12 now and I have talked to her candidly about sex and how it can be pleasurable but that there are always risks such as pregnancy and disease. There are many helpful books also that you can get about the changes in a body as puberty progresses. She comes to me and talks to me about boys that like her and when they break up with her when she decides she wants to have a "boyfriend". Mind you, she is still a virgin and has only kissed a boy on the cheek (man am I lucky) and she thinks that french kissing is nasty.....so, I'm thinking that I did pretty good.
2007-03-26 19:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by kogoinnutz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it just yet,
In Year 6 ( When They are 10-11) Their School Will give them lessons on it. Well They did at my school. And at high school they teach it aswell.
Im 13 & Have not had a talk off my mum which im glad about as its embarrasing, none of my friends have had the talk either, if im going out with my friends my mum tells me to be carefull and always keep hold of my drink, i had the talk on periods when i was about 9-10 but i knew about it anyway.
Good Luck
2007-03-24 09:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it started when i was in fifth grade at school so about 10. but then we seriously got it EVERY year after that till i graduated....personally i think sooner is better. the other night i read a question on here being asked by a 14 year old girl about sex and it was the most retarded question i have ever read...something to the extent of "omg im on my period and my boyfriend wants me to come over tonight so should i tell him or just be pregnant at 14?" you see my point? she was 14 and obviously missed some sex related talk down the line...she didnt mention contraceptives at all, and it was just the dumbest question ever.
2007-03-23 01:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out about the birds and the bees when I was about 12. I think this is a good age especially if they don't know about periods, as it could be scary for them to start bleeding and not know why. I think if they do ask just tell them the truth and don't sugar coat it. If they really want to know they will pay attention if not they will ask you again later.
2007-03-23 04:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by bvan_25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents gave me "the talk" when i was about 11 or 12 I think. I dont remember for sure. I had the school thing in 7th grade
2007-03-23 05:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by Silent Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my kids are 7 and 8 and they are starting to hear things in school - we're having the talk very shortly - just getting things prepared for it. I want to make sure they hear it right instead of from uneducated kids at school - i dont think its too young at all in this day and age.
2007-03-23 01:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by im_buz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋