Women and divorce?

Question

Can someone explain Why it is that when a woman going through a divorce, the first thing they start talking about is They want half this and half that. Do you realize what you sound like to the world? Not trying to be rude but it sounds like you marry for materials anyway. I have been married for 19 years! If I got divorced, the last thing I would care about is, what I get. the house,car or Telivision! If I were to get divorced, I would gladly give my wife everything without her having to fight for anything. I do think the law should be change because of this So, if a woman files for a divorce then she walks with nothing unless the husband offers it to her. If the man files for a divorce then he walks with nothing unless she offered! More than likely he would walk with nothing because of how most women want everything while most men could care less. I know there are some cases where the woman has been through an abusive relationship and that's different. He should just walk head down.

Answer 1

rick o Take a visit to public housing (the projects) and the worst parts of town, and speak to the women in there. You will find at least half of those women are very nice people trying to raise their children with little or no financial support.

Take a look at food banks and you will also see the mothers and children of divorce. Marriage is a partnership and half of a partnership is 50%. Remember as you speak of women wanting 50% you must also realize that very many men well off or otherwise, want to leave their wife and children with nothing. Do you think the people lined up who can't even afford to 'eat' have husbands/fathers who are unaware of their circumstances? They know very well that their children are struggling - but they don't seem to care.

Yet these men have money for a nice car, dating new women and a decent home. His kids will be walking and taking the bus - so no camping trips for them, unless they want to carry their tent. You are hearing too much from the media and divorced men. There are two sides to every story, and it is great that you are a man who would want to ensure that his wife 'well provided' for.

Unfortunately a divorce brings out the worst kind of emotions in people. Women seem to 'only' want his money and men seem to want their family to starve. It is wrong of course to think either way - but the law is that they split their assets - many men try to hide the assets instead. Many of these wives and kids still want to be a complete family, but the father has chosen his mistress instead and left them not only terrified and heartbroken, but in devastingly poor circumstances. Do you think that is right? Of course not, so this is what would happen if there was no law to protect victims of divorce - particualarly the children.

Women and their kids still need to survive and it is necessary for the person who is the breadwinner (if there is only one) to provide for his family. Women/men who are caregivers provide greatly to the family and the children. They need to eat as well.

Answer 2

"I have been married for 19 years! If I got divorced, the last thing I would care about is, what I get. the house,car or Telivision! If I were to get divorced, I would gladly give my wife everything without her having to fight for anything." Bullshit, no man is going to give up his Bimmer to the ex wife...oh and by the way, not ALL women going through a divorce is concerned about what SHE gets. Some of us are conconcerned about what our KID'S get especially when the father has stated that their college education is well provided for and then wants to do battle over paying the Child's college tuition because the child doesn't WANT to go to college in the state the father lives. WHY do we say we want to get half of everyting? Because WE ARE ENTITLED to half of it by LAW. Don't like it then get your butt out and drum up supporters who will help you get elected into office and then you can change the divorce laws.

Answer 3

If a man and woman started with ziltch and build something. It is only fair if the parties split they split what they have 50/50. Your plan would not work. If your plan was in effect and I wanted a divorce I would simply make your life a living H e l l until you divorced me.

Personally I think after the 50/50 split of "stuff" the children should be raised 50/50 too. No child support ever. No parent can move more than 5 miles from each other. Too many woman take the kid and the child support and leave the child fatherless.

Answer 4

I believe it is a power thing, I got a divorce and all I wanted was my car (he had a truck and I also worked and paid for my own car)... I dont understand this either I knew I was moving on and I was starting a so called "new life", so I didnt want to drag along the past with me.. I do know if you agree on what you are doing it is alot easier to get the divorce done and over with.. we filed for divorce Aug. 17th, and it was final and we were done by Sep. 13th..

Answer 5

Hahaha

Answer 6

I don't know why some people are like that but I think that if one files and has to walk away from it all, I think that killing or "missing" people might go up.

Answer 7

You know u should change it to "some" women.. because thats not always true.. my mother for instance left and wanted nothing more then what was "hers" and only "hers" which wasnt much..

When my husband left.. i didnt ask for half, i took what me and my children needed to survive..and i left him enough to get started with as well, and when offered part of his retirement i turned it down.. as all i wanted from him was what he owed to our children, nothing more , nothing less..

I do believe in part of what ur saying, i think the person that wants out with out "real" cause, like abuse or infidelity etc.. should only be able to leave with the clothes on their back.. because they are the ones breaching the vows..

BUT there are very few people like my father who put my mother up in an apt, gave her a car, and paid her bills for 3 months till she got on her feet.. (and this was a woman that left him, but he took his vows seriously, and was a real man that believed until the divorce papers were signed she was still his responsibility) .. ALOTTTTTTTTTT of men these days will leave and never turn back, they will take what they want, and start a new life and if their old life should just end up in the gutter so be it..

MOST of these women u speak of, have children that have to be taken care of financially.. and because MEN cant seem to act like REAL MEN these days, she has to protect all she can for her children..
You forget to mention that these women tend to have husbands, and children, that they gave up their careers for to devote their lives to.. and then one day their husband decides to walk out of the marriage for his own selfish needs, and leaves the woman with no financial means, children to care for, while they just ride off into the sunset and start over.. while these women are stuck trying to pick up the pieces of what they left behind.. so before u start lumping "WOMEN" into a complete whole and painting a picture of money grubbing people maybe u should actually try and put urself in their shoes, before u judge someone else.. most men dont give a crap what happens not only to their wife they are leaving, but to their children as well.. and god for bid if u dont end up in the gutter like they intended u to , they just get even more pissed off..

How about wondering why, a majority of men, look at paying child support as giving the woman a paycheck instead of owning up to their responsibilities, instead they moan and groan about having to pay child support, even though everyone knows, that most child support payments wont even pay the rent let alone actually pay enough to raise a child on.. yet all u hear is men b***hing and complaining about it.. instead of actually wishing to give their child everything, every opportunity possible.. the best of everything.. all they ever focus on is the fact that the money is sent in their ex's name.. MAYBE IF MEN ACTUALLY ACTTED LIKE RESPONSIBLE MEN THESE DAYS AND ACTUALLY WERE MADE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS.. maybe just maybe these women u speak of, wouldnt be so damn concerned with how are they going to make it by now that their lives have come crashing down around them, because one day someone just woke up and decided this fairytale isnt going to have a happily ever after.. instead they find themselves full of broken dreams, and HALF of what they were once promised when they promised to live together as one for eternity.. half is a small price to pay , for the heartache of what was suppose to last a life time..and a small price to pay, for the life time of heartache that will always remain.. ..

Answer 8

dude divorce is your punishment for not treating them like farm animals.

You got to treat women like the farm animals they are or the won't respect you and it always ends up in divorce, those greedy trolls.

Finacial gain for two years of giving it up once a week. Wouldnt you ?

that is if you had a va-jj

Answer 9

The reason for 'fighting' are mainly 2.

1. For a comfortable living
2. EGO - why should i allow her / him to enjoy??

Answer 10

Your right there!