and we still love each other we still see each other every day and also have relations every day. But how do I get him to come home. He says that i am the one that is not happy with him. I am so confused I love him so much it. Shouldnt it be easy for him to come home?
2007-03-22 17:55:41 · 14 answers · asked by Sad Eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This doesn't seem to your only problem with him. I saw your other question and maybe that is the reason. Both of you need to think this through, he has another child by someone else, how will you feel about this?
2007-03-22 18:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very same thing with my husband and me,we were separated seen each other everyday after work .Had sex then he went back to his apartment this went on for two 1/2 years .He finally came home and when i was unpacking his cloths i found a card from a woman that said she couldn't wait until they could walk down the street hand in hand where everyone could see that they were together.My heart broke i hurt so bad i couldn't stand it.I had no idea that my husband was having an affair.IT had nothing to do with our married like he lead me to believe he left to be with her.He said it was so our married wouldn't get any worse that was the only reason he was moving out he also said we could start over.You better make sure your husband isn't doing the same thing.I no what you are thinking, not my husband i no what he is doing at all times because he calls me and lets me no what he is doing and where he is going.My husband did all that to and more but he fount the time to be with her.you never no what your husband is thinking or doing at any given time so be careful.
2007-03-23 01:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he come home he has you giving him all the sex he wants and he can go and do whatever he likes in the meantime. I can't say he has any reason to come home. Why would you want him back? Look at the facts he dumped you for whatever reason and refuses to come back except for sex. Have a little dose of self esteem, take a dash of dignity, and a little responsibility for your own peace of mind. The next time he knocks on the door laugh in his face and move on. You're worth more than that! If you're not unhappy with him you should be he shows no respect and treats you like an easy piece.... me thinks you can do much better.
2007-03-23 01:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he has you confused, he has the wool over your eyes.
He is getting the best of both worlds, probably even another woman, and he is shifting the blame to you.
Get a lawyer and a legal separation so that he cannot make financial charges that you would be responsible for.
Let him know that his decision to stay away is purely his decision. If he loves you and wants to work things out, he will come home. If he wants to continue shifting the blame to you, get a divorce and stop playing the victim of his manipulative games.
2007-03-23 01:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To you it may be easy, for him it might not be that easy. Have you asked him why he thinks you're not happy with him? Does he do something that bothers you when he lives with you?
To know what to do or how to avoid divorce or going through the separation again consider couples counseling. We all need help at some point in our relationship and its good to have a professional give us guidance that's healthy.
Good luck!
2007-03-23 01:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he would come home to you if you didn't give him any sex... and you respected the fact that you're separated and are taking a break.... you are leaving it too easy for him... he's away but gets to have sex and love from his wife.... even I wouldn't go back home.
2007-03-23 01:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if both of you love each other and spent time together every
day then why are you separated. time to get what you need
to make this work. but until then you need to stop all
the contact epecially the sex.if this going to work it has
to be for the right reasonl not because it easy and comfort
that not good. it time to get it together or time to move on.
2007-03-23 01:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well gee, isn't this all really convienent for him? He is seperated...yet he still gets "congical" visits. Are you still going to allow him to use you if you happen to meet someone during your seperation? Or how's this...are you going to continue to allow him to use you even if he meets someone during this "seperation"? Sweety you're not seperated...You're simply living a part and he comes "home" to get laid.
2007-03-23 03:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds ridiculous. He might have someone else but wants to keep you hanging on. Don't give in again. Stop seeing him. Why is so hard for women to be alone for awhile? There is a difference between being alone and being lonely.
2007-03-23 01:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friends and his wife are seperated she left, and for 3 years she keeps him hanging on and thinking she will come home cuz she has relations with him when she wants something done around her house, ect...Make sure he is not giving you false hope to get what he wants cuz like my friend as long as you do this, he has no reason to come home...he gets his cake and gets to eat it too.
2007-03-23 01:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by froggiesheshe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋