is 23 a reasonable age to let you kids start dating?
Cuz thats wat my parents r doing to me! they dont even know i actually like a guy @ school, if they found out that i like a guy they would give me some sex ed lecture that i heard already like a bunch of times (serioulsy they showed a sex ed. tape @ school 4 times since 4th grade) I mean they dont even think that at my age i should even be attracted 2 guys. I have liked guys since the 6th grade. i mean dont you think that a 14 year old girl like me could like a guy? Its perfectly normal, i think my parents r just being really strict and protective. but come on 23 years old! thats going a bit overboard. right? or maybe im the one who's going overboard? hmm...wat do u think?
2007-03-22 17:53:56 · 16 answers · asked by Sunsett'sMoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes im 14, i know they r trying 2 protect me and stuff, and trust me, they know not to worry about me having sex or doing drugs or n e thing, cuz i have some relatives that are not doing too well and thier lives r pretty hard right now becuz of these situations so i know not to do thoes things. and i know to focus on school and not the boys, becuz i get straight A's and i care very much about my education. but sometimes it just makes me sad thinking that ( u know in the TV shows or movies) when there is prom or sumthing thing, i will be the one sitting on the couch in pj's watching a sad movie, and eating ice cream. (and yes, my friends joke about this kind of thing 2) but it just kinda makes me sad. and its even worse when ur crush (the guy u have liked for like ever) actually asks u out, but u have no choice but to say no.
2007-03-22 18:22:23 · update #1
Your parents are being a bit overprotective by wanting to make sure that nothing hinders you from finishing high school and college. They want you to be focused and not risk getting pregnant at a young age. I understand how they would want to be careful of a daughter, but it might cause you to rebel a bit.
I would suggest that when you reach 17 or 18, you should try to talk to your parents about this subject. Also, once you become 18, you are legal enough to make your own decisions. If you choose a college that isn't near your parents, you are free to make decisions on your own. You'll make better decisions in time. Just make sure you think before you act on anything. Your parents aren't going to be able to tell you not to when you reach college, but make sure that you learn from them NOW so that you make good choices LATER.
2007-03-22 18:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by TxSamurai 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
IF you are 23 and still letting your parents tell you how to live your life then you have bigger problems then just dating. come to think of it if you are 23 years old and still living with your parents it's time to get a little ambition going on there and move out. As for the fact that you don't seem to be 23, ( or for your sake I hope not with the way you typed out this message) then you dont need to worry about the what if and instead worry about finishing school so you can move out and live your own life.
2007-03-22 18:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by nyxcat1999 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not going overboard. I think twenty three is an unreasonable age to expect anyone to wait for dating.
Jeez, some girls are married by that age!
And of course you have crushes at that age, my daughter did once she started high school!
I think she was sixteen when she had her first "real" date.
Prior to that she joined groups (including boys) of friends for outings to the beach and movies etc.
You sound like a very mature young fourteen year old with your priorities in order, a girl whom can talk to her parents.
That's what you need to do, talk to them in a rational way, explain there are boys you like and discuss your feelings regarding their rule.
Be aware, if they come around, they will (and should) impose restrictions on your outings.
2007-03-24 19:29:21 · answer #3 · answered by Yellowstonedogs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was 14 I had lots of crushes sure...I was really shy though and kept myself out of trouble. If you have a boyfriend that is super casual and you hold hands and all that....what is the harm...they are worried that a boy might be pushy and get you into bad stuff and well you don't want that...you want to be smart about your life. It's the only one you got!! So tell them that you don't intend on having anything but guy best friends because you believe that building a friendship is really really important and that you will get good at that. They will let you date way before 23...they just want to see you are mature and make good decisions....show them that you have restraint and aren't all about disobeying them but working with them and they will feel a lot better about it knowing you can handle yourself.
2007-03-22 17:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Reese 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the culture and depends on the parents and their culture.
My buddy Mari had trouble dating before she graduated from college which would be about 23 .. and her parents did not want her to move out of the house until she was married! but with much push and a good job at IBM she was able to move out from house at age 25 and get her own place.
Fourteen is a little young, but many got married at that age and in some American states they still can get married with parental permission.
and I like to think about Alexander the great married and burning one of the great cities of the world at age 15.
So of course you CAN like a guy at your age and be liked back. But your parents need to trust you and the guy.
Start small.
Good luck.
2007-03-22 18:15:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
23 is going WAY overboard. it could be that they know all the bad things that they did at your age and don't want you to make the same mistakes. But sit down with your parents and try to work something out. Can you group date??
2007-03-22 18:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Bakka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you say your 14 that for sure is a way too young , you should at your age concentrate on getting your education and forget about the boys that will come soon enough.
2007-03-22 18:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by David R 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry but i think your parents need a smack upside their forehead!
Wait until you're 18 because you are mature enough to know but naive enough to not know...
Honestly, wait until junior year when you're an upper classman away from the baby drama...make sure you point out to your parents how youre behaving good and making good grades etc! that gets you brownie points with them...
2007-03-22 18:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by London Tipton 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
parents are all like that overly protective. my mom said i could start dating a guy at age 14 but then she changed her mind to age 16 or 17 so i just follow her rules as long as i live in her home.... my dad don't care. but its perfectly normal to like guys i have liked guys my whole life.
2007-03-22 18:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by Danii 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your parents are trying to protect you from the consequences of young sexual activity & the like. sex is an emotional, special thing to share with someone, and the younger you are, the harder it is to understand that.
i definitely think, if you can set your standards and boundaries with your parents NOW, it is perfectly fine for you to date. just make sure you THINK before you ACT in any relationship you have!
2007-03-22 18:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by dietcokeaddict 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋