How do I find a wife? Women don't seem interested in me?

Question

I am 30 years old and have had only one serious relationship (ever). I was engaged previously but the relationship did not work out. Since that time 4 years have passed but I have been on only 2 dates. How do I break this chain of repeated loneliness? I don't like being alone and it really hurts to see everyone else seemingly attached to a significant other.

Any suggestions would be extremely helpful. I try to be myself at all times, but women seem put off by my personality, or just classify me into the "friends" category perpetually.

Paul

Serious replies only please. I need good advice.

Answer 1

1. be yourself
2. never be selfsih or act selfish
3. be honest
4. get out there and be socially
5. join a dating service
6. never tell them or ask them "can we go dutch?

if women dont seem intrested in you then you must be saying or doing something that turns them off. if there is one thing your doing then stop doing it.

Answer 2

#1 Bro'....what you need is a wing man.
#2 Stop focusing on finding women and start looking for some cool guys to hang out with. The women will come.
#3 It sounds like you are a little intimidated by women. Don't ask me why but there is something about being bold and confident and basically being an ****** that women seem to love.

Bottom line is that YOU ARE BEING TOO NICE and gushy.

You need practice. Start asking out every girl you come into contact with until you get good at it. You'll start attracting them lik bees to honey...

Answer 3

Paul, First of all, I am sorry you are going through this loneliness. But I don't think anyone on this website can help you very much because we don't know you. My best advice to you would be to talk to someone you trust - perhaps some of those women who have put you in the friend category. Ask them to be brutally honest with you and tell you what they think you might be doing wrong.

One thing you said put a flag up for me though, "I try to be myself at all times but women seem put off by my personality." Obviously, you don't want to act like somthing you're not, but a person should be on their best behavior the first time they meet someone. For instance, I have a very dry sense of humor that most people enjoy. Sometimes that means I insult a friend in a funny way, but because they know me, they know I'm kidding and find it funny. I would not do that to someone I had just met. And there's other things I would say to someone I knew well that I wouldn't say to someone I just met. So be yourself, because you want to attract someone who is going to like you, not someone you have to put on an act with all the time. But be you on your best behavior.

And again, most important, ask someone you know and trust. Someone you trust enough to even ask about your breath or smells. I'm not trying to be insulting here. There are people who have excellent hygiene habits but still suffer from bad breath or other odor problems due to a minor health problem they might not be aware of.

So good luck, be your BEST self, and ask those questions.

Trish

Answer 4

Maybe these facts of your personality could have been clearly answered when your fiance dumped you. Ask yourself how do you act o\around women are you a jerk, are you a selfish lover, Do you drink to much and mkae an a ss out of yourself.
Women like aguy who is confident in themselves and doesn't need to show off just to be noticed. They like sensitivity, caring, generous, loving, affectionate, someone that is not scared to make a move in front of a group of people. Maybe your asking women that are just out of league for instance
your a can of Tuna and your trying for Prime Rib. Sometimes it's just what you know you can't get but it's what you want drop your standards a couple or a few notches and who know's what may come your way.

Good Luck and God Bless
ONE OTHER THING I HAVE SEEN THAT LOVE FINDS YOU WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING FOR IT. wELL THATS HOW IT WORKED FOR ME.
p.s maybe you have workmates that could hook you up with someone? Maybe it's time for some blind dates?

Answer 5

go to places where there are likely to be the type of women you are interested in. don't be pushy or creapy, but let interested women know you are looking for that special woman to spend your life with. try a dating site. list exactly what type of relationship you are looking for and include a real photo and as much info about you as you can. everyone has that certian person on this earth they are destined to be with so do not give up on yourself!!

Answer 6

well, if women are put off by your personality, have you thought about what in your personality puts women off and is it something you can or would want to change? Do you come off as needy? or desperate? perhaps you just don't get out and live your life and give yourself the opportunity to meet women with the same interests?

Answer 7

I am diffenately going to tell you to chill out. You are only 30 and "SO" if you are single..your one of the lucky ones.....being in a "relationship" is so time consuming and women always have complaints and men are always wanting "space" anyway, you are able to do things that being with someone you would have to answer where you are and what you are doing and why did you call me back and why didnt you answer your cell, or why did you erase my message or i thought you were going to be here at 8 and its 8:15 where have you been....just relax...being 30 and single aint so bad...hey think about the poor children in south africa that have no parents and they are ALL alone at 7 or 8 years old...or they are dying with Aids or their parents are both dead and they actually live alone, they are alseep with fear gripping their hearts hoping that they get to go to school tomorrow...or they can find something to eat....just Thank God your alive.....

Answer 8

I've always heard that people find love when they aren't looking for it or when they least expect to. Maybe you should just not worry about it so much for awhile and see what happens. Good luck and I hope you find your one and only soon! :)

Answer 9

Well maybe no one wants to save you from your loneliness.... a woman want to be someone special in a man's life... not a life guard...
Try to get out of that "poor me am lonely" personality and see if that works for you.

Answer 10

Dude you suffering from not having a clue. I highly suggest you spend the money on the course I sent a link to in sources below. If you dont learn this now, your going to be an old single bachelor.