Is a happy marriage a reality?

Answer 1

At the beginning, it's a perfect life.

Answer 2

Happy Marriage a reality yes.
Perfect Marriage reality no.
A successful marriage is determined on whether or not the two are able to compromise and settle their disputes.

Answer 3

It can be. My own parents have been married for over 60 years, and we all know that whoever goes first will be the lucky one. I know a middle aged man whose dying wife told him, "I'm glad this is happening to me instead of you, because I don't know what I'd do without you." Unfortunately, he felt the same way--that she was the lucky one because he didn't know what he was going to do without her. If two people are loyal, appreciate each other, and help each other then it's a happy marriage. They all have rough spots. That's where the loyalty comes through. Smart people also realize that you don't stop having crushes when you get married, and that's also where the loyalty comes through.

Answer 4

"Happy" - absolutely. "Perfect" - not in this lifetime.

I've been married for going on 25 years and am more in love with him than I was when we married. He's great - kind, smart, funny, supportive. He's not perfect, and neither am I.

I'd still rather spend time with him than anyone else. He's still the person I want to tell things to, share things with. We also work together quite a bit, so we share both personal and professional lives.

Do I love that goofy way he tries to sing "scat" music, or the way he keeps trying to do imitations of people, even though he has no talent for it and you can't tell who he's supposed to be? Not so much. Does he adore the way I repeat myself over and over when I'm mad, or the way I leave dishes in the sink? Nope.

Does that mean our marriage isn't a happy one? Absolutely not. I adore the guy. He makes me feel loved, like someone really hears me and sees me and likes me as I am. We try to give each other what each of us needs so that our marriage is our safe haven, our strong base to stand on.

It's work (for example, we have to be polite when we don't want to and avoid saying nasty things when we're hinky and want to lash out). It's a commitment to building something together, knowing it will never be finished or perfect. He knows me better than anyone else, and through him, I get to know myself better. We've influenced each other a lot over the years. Easy? Nope.

It's a lot of fun, though.

Answer 5

Yes indeed, I've had one for 16 yrs, and it shows no signs of becoming unhappy! In the first few years we had arguments, but now we run like a well-oiled machine! Haven't argued for over 10 years! I think the trick is always trying to make the other person happy, as long as you each put the other first, you'll do good!

Answer 6

Yes it definitely is. It's up to you to make it happy or not. Cultivate the right attitude. It's actually great fun, much better tha dragging in a no-future relationship, or going it alone.

I've been pretty happily married to the same man for the last 12 years, so listen to the voice of experience.

Answer 7

With a lot of work...yes.

My husband and I have been married together for 5 years and 7 months, and we still act like we just got married. Yes, we have our moments, we fight, we argue, we get on each other's nerves, but at the end of the day, we never go to bed angry with each other, and we always wake up happy to have each other. A happy marriage doesn't just happen, you have to make it happen. It takes time and a lot of love and work.

Answer 8

I don't think so. A marriage is a series of compromises, and a true test of the marriage is how long it lasts. Mine has lasted for almost 25 years, and believe me, we argue a lot. That is our way of working things out. If you keep things bottled up, the marriage is doomed to failure.

P.S. I consider myself lucky to have a lifelong companion. We have a lot of history, and that history makes for a very strong bond. It's like your parents: You spend a good portion of your life with them, and like them or not, they mean a lot and are an important part of who you are.

Answer 9

yes, but I believe happy marriage doesnt mean there is going to be no fighting. I believe it depends on how you deal with the situation. My parents are going to be married 30 years and they are very happy.

Answer 10

Yes. I hope to believe so. Well you cannot always be happy coz then you wouldn't know what happiness was. You have to see a little of the 'not-so-happy' side of marriage to be able to appreciate the 'happy' side : )

Answer 11

For some marriages,yes.