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My husband is wonderful and so is my best friend. My husband knows how much I care for my friend and encourages the relationship because he sees it makes me & my friend happy. He trusts me not to sleep with him and he is right. My friend is very honorable and won't be intimate. He tries desperately to steer me to my husband only but is in love with me too. We enjoy each other so much and won't be alone together and try to keep intimate talk down. We can resist the sexual desire but the heart and soul connection is so strong and satisfying. Since my husband knows, is this okay? Strong relationship with my husband too but need both of them. Am I selfish or will the relationship with my friend calm back down to friendly only with no love attraction. We all deeply believe in God and try to be good servants but my friend and I work together and understand each other and get along so well that we bonded emotionally and spiritually. He is divorced with no desire for woman in life right now.

2007-03-22 17:30:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I don't even understand why I entered this situation myself. if you enjoy it, happy with it, why control that feeling.

2007-03-22 17:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1 0

I must say that your husband has a very big heart. You and your friend, however, are very close to temptation. Where temptation is, so is the devil. Since you are a believer in God, it is imperative that you distance yourself away from this potential stumblingblock that is right before you. You may not see or think about it, but you are definitely right on the edge already. Plus, by going along with your present course, your neighbors are bound to say something. As for your husband, I wonder how much longer he can take this without being jealous. I don't mean to offend, but I believe that by maintaining this relationship you have with your friend, you are also being inconsiderate to your husband. If you were in his shoes, would you want your wife to do what you are doing now? And, if your husband found somebody else to be intimate with, will you be okay with it?

2007-03-23 00:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Dowland 5 · 0 0

Sounds like u have a very nice husband there. A husband like that is really hard to find. Do u really believe that ur husband is telling the truth when he u said that he encourages this relationship u have with ur friend? Think about it.....would u like it if ur husband falls in love with one of his girl best friend? Maybe u would say that u don't mind either but do u really mean it? Maybe ur husband is only saying that coz he wants u to be happy and he's probably afraid that if he disapproves of u being in love with this friend, u would leave him and run away with this friend of urs. If that's true, it shows how much ur husband loves u....and u.....I don't know maybe u don't really love ur husband

2007-03-23 00:58:47 · answer #3 · answered by - 2 · 0 0

ROFL sounds like a good sitcom story. Paleeze don't tell us you expect us to believe your husband knows you're in love with another man and encourages you to spend time with him. Unless of course your husband has something on the side that he is not telling you about and is just waiting for you to mess up so he can dump you guilt free. People will make up any excuse to justify their bad behavior but emotionally cheating with or without consent is being childish, immature and uncommitted to your marriage. Don't expect a sane person to condone it lots of husbands run out of patience witth wives like you and the lucky wives get divorce. The unlucky ones usually get a cheap funeral. Your choice!

2007-03-23 00:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0 0

You are disgusting. Why do you want to ruin your husband's life? You are about to destroy the life of 3 people, come on, grow up already, you are talking like a 14 years old little girl, How would it feel if your husband would be the one doing this to you? Come on!! Many people say "I love my husband, but... I love my wife, but the lady next door is so..." That's bullsh**t to me, if you can't respect the person you've promised to love for the rest of your live you don't know anything about love and a person like that can't be trusted.

2007-03-23 00:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Javy 7 · 1 0

Did you believe deeply enough in God when you took the vows: For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others?

Do not continue a best friendship with this man. If you must see him, make sure your husband is at your side.

Trust me, emotional betrayals are just as sickening and abusive to the other spouse as is the carnal ones.

Back off, lady!

2007-03-23 00:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This is not good at all! Your husband may be okay with you and him talking because he doesn't know how you two REALLY feel about each other. If you want to be a "good servant" of God then you know what needs to be done.

2007-03-23 01:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by love my life 2 · 0 0

Your walking on very thin ice here Honey and, your going to get a cold shower one day. Either you get rid of this "good friend" and he should realize what's going on, or you should tell him to back off and stay away. Your feelings are not going to keep you away forever and sooner than later your going to end up in bed with him, then what, another story for the judge and the welfare department, with another mans child, another sad tale so, get out now.

2007-03-23 00:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0 0

You are playing with fire here. One day, the temptation will get to you and you may act. I know you say never right now, but when the time comes, you may fall. i would back off from the friend for a while especially if you value your marriage.

2007-03-23 00:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just pray about it. resist temptation. I am sure that u love ur husband and will do the best thing for ur marriage. There is nothing wrong with having a good relationship with ur best friend just keep ur guard up for lust.

2007-03-23 00:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by S A 3 · 0 0

wow, that is pretty deep. you are playing with fire, but if your husband knows the whole truth and is okay with it, then I guess you havent done anything wrong. As far as it being okay, that is truly up to what your husband and you think is being unfaithful or steeping out on the marriage.

2007-03-23 00:35:51 · answer #11 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0 0

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