to hate him he calls me a ***** everyday and i cant take it please help, by the way I am having his baby.
2007-03-22 17:26:58 · 15 answers · asked by JALAND 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my ex hubby called me a b**** one time and i was 22 yrs old and i told him "it took me 22 years to earn that name respectfully and i will do anything i can to maintain it so dont you ever forget it, he never called me a b**** again. or you can tell him your the goddess b**** so he better get it right!!
2007-03-22 17:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being verbally abusive why are you still there? Having a baby is not excuse you don't want to bring a child into a situation where it learns that verbally abusing females is a good thing which is exactly what it will think if you continue to stay where you are. Consult an attorney and move on.
You have begun to hate him.... well then that would say that you have a pretty good grasp of the situation. He is not apt to become a warm and loving husband at any time in the future it doesn't matter what his excuse even if you manipulated him into marriage there is no reason for him to be abusive. He has the option of leaving too.
Now do what is best for your unborn child pack your bags and get out of there. Verbal abuse can escalate into something far more severe don't hesitate leave now.
2007-03-23 00:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you both been married? have you thought of marriage counseling? my best friend did counseling and it helped her to realize that she depended on her husband too much and that was causing a problem in their marriage.
do you think he would go? cause her husband didn't and my husband wouldn't either. me and my husband have been together for 7 years now and i think that marriage just brings out the worst in people.
people are going to tell you that if your pregnant, stay for the kid...but do you really want your kid watching his dad berate his mother or watching you take that kind of treatment? if it's a girl, this behavior could guide her toward accepting this type of behavior from a man when she's older.
but then if you leave, you've got to live with being a single mother, which is really hard, and if you divorce or even seperate, possibly a legnthy custody battle if he really wants to be nasty. this is a tough situation to get advise on...i would suggest speaking with a professional or finding someone that you can confide in to talk out the situation. have you tried talking with your husband? do you know why he treats you this way? maybe if you have a serious heart-to-heart with him, and he knows that your at your breaking point with his behavior, he would be willing to lay off a little...
2007-03-23 00:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by hot black babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if this is how he treats you, how do you think he's going to treat that baby. I would give him one warning. Tell him what he's doing wrong. Tell him it will stop or you will leave. You cannot raise a child in an abusive environment. If he won't get help and change then you need to leave. It's as simple as that. No excuses, just lay it on the line, give him a deadline for change and stand up for yourself and your baby right now! It's easier to do now than to watch him hurt your baby too. That is emotional abuse and It is just as damaging as physical abuse, there's no excuse for it.PERIOD!
2007-03-23 00:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demand respect and take nothing less, if he can't change his ways, you should consider leaving, do you want your child to grow up in that environment.
2007-03-23 02:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABC sounds about right, you let him get you pregnant now you come to us?
So now what? Go for counseling, get an attorney and get out of the marriage before you get P.G. again, that the advice I can give you.
2007-03-23 00:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok calm down. why does he call you that? do you nag at him? of course not. do you insult him? no, i dont think so. well, if i can try to figure this out, he just does it out of the blue with out any thing being said from you. now why do i find that hard to believe. tell us the rest of it,
2007-03-23 00:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is verbal abuse and it could turn into physical abuse. Unless he agrees to counseling, leave him. He's a creep.
2007-03-23 00:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him in check girlfriend next time he calls you a b throw him out the door and don't let him back till he has respect!!!!!!
2007-03-23 00:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there you go..emotions and hormones flying..not a good mix...take you and your girlfriend out for a weekend of fun and take a break
2007-03-23 00:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋