I platonic love also infidelity?

Question

Thanks to all for the reply to my earlier question,lot of people have asked the depth and reason for my closeness to this man,I would just like to say that in situations where loneliness is concerned companionship is required,maybe this is the reason i got close to this man,yes physical intimacy is there but not sexual,since my husband is highly career minded he has no affection or caring for my feelings,he is not against me having friendships with males ,he is open minded,i once discussed with my husband regarding this man,he just told me that i am sensible enough toknow the limits ,and i feel i know my limits and have not crossed yet ,i dont know about the future ,but at present we just enjoy each others company ,now you all can ( specially females ) let me know if i am doing wrong.

Answer 1

This is a train wreck waiting to happen sweetie. The longer you have any kind of relationship with this man takes away from the kind of realtionship you could be having with your husband. Take it from someone who has been there. It is just a matter of time before you cross the line if you continue and I assure you it will destroy your marriage. I suggest you see a good therapist to work out these feelings of yours.

Answer 2

It all depends - where is your heart? All infidelity is not physical (although emotional infidelity can lead to physical infidelity).

There are issues you need to address within your marriage. If your husband won't see a couples counselor with you, then go alone. A marriage is supposed to provide support and love for both partners. If you're that lonely within your marriage, bringing a third party into your life will leave you exhausted and confused just when you need to figure things out.

Doing wrong? How would you feel if your husband did to you what you are doing? The answer to that will tell you where you are.

It sounds like you're not talking about a simple friendship with someone who happens to be male - you say that you haven't crossed the limits "yet," and "don't know about the future."

So ask yourself where you want to be - married to someone who allows you to be lonely while you drift into an affair with someone else? That's where you're headed. If you don't want to go there, then you have to do something different.

Answer 3

I've been there...You're heading for disaster! I can tell by what you said that there is a definite chance for romance to bloom with this "platonic friend". The thing about love is, the more time you spend with someone, the more important they become. If you spend time with your husband, you two will have more to talk about and will grow closer. If you spend time with the "friend", you two will have more to talk about and you will grow closer.

Pick which flower you want to nurture. The husband or the friend. The one you spend quality time with is the one that will thrive.

Answer 4

Premarital, extramarital or unwed sexual activities are not barred or prohibited hence no offence punishable in any Indian law. A wife’s sexual intercourse with other/s is also no offence, hence no prosecution or punishment to her. Even her sex partner also cannot be punished, if was unaware of her wedlock or had sex with consent or connivance of her husband. However the police cannot arrest or prosecute him. After divorce also her earning husband has to maintain or pay till she remarries (if unable), even if she is permanently & continuously enjoying sex with all other/s. Pre marital sexual intercourses with other/s cannot be a ground to seek divorce under Hindu/Special Marriage Act. Thus a female’s physical sexual relations with persons/s of her choice (with their consent) is not an offence or prohibited / barred in any Indian law and she is at liberty to enjoy SEX freely and fearlessly. A male’s physical sexual relations with any 16+ female (with her consent) is no offence or barred / prohibited in any Indian Law, unless she is in the wedlock of somebody else and is done knowing her wedlock or without her husband’s consent or connivance. Courts have to believe that children born during the wedlock (or within 280 days of court's divorce judgment/ decree) are her husband’s legitimate ones. He is bound to maintain or pay them expenses; till sons are 18+ and daughters are married. Prostitution (commercial sex trade, offering sex for monetary gain) alone is an offence punishable in Indian laws. Yet no Station House Officer, Officer In Charge or Inspector of Police can arrest, enter, search or seize. Husbands & in-laws subjecting wife to mental or physical cruelty or demanding dowry are liable to be punished up to 3 years jail+fine for this non bail able offence.

However all unwed, premarital, extramarital physical sexual relations are not good, resulting in dissatisfied marital lives, AIDS / STD, and births of bastards/ illegitimates. Such sexual relations put spouses in search for more betters, and destroy joyful marital lives usually resulting in divorces. High % of divorces and children of broken families are threat to the peaceful world.

All unwed sexual activities (pre/post/extra marital), perverted & homosexual acts are specifically forbidden in Islam ALONE in clearly written unambiguous words as great sin & heinous crime punishable with publicly lashing / death by pelting stones.

Answer 5

The way you describe it, it is. You are going in the wrong direction. You are sharing emotional intimacy that belongs to your spouse with your friend. I feel you, I understand, but it is wrong.

Answer 6

There is no harm, as long as it is a mature, adult-wise, open friendship within bounds! keep it that way! have some more friends, preferably on internet, or, penfriends as in good old times!

Answer 7

Why do you stay with your husband. Have you tried counseling or something?

Answer 8

You can NOT continue with this "extra" relationship without
destroying the relationship with your b/f...
YOU can not do it...
Believe me...
Proceed at your peril...