what if i already discuss it with him but nothing happens?
2007-03-22 17:19:06 · 31 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cut him off until he is ready to do what you want! What an idiot. he doesn't know how good he has it!
2007-03-22 17:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is really easy tell him until he starts repaying his pleasure with yours then the sex stops here and now. You should never just be pleasing him if anything a real man enjoys pleasing his GF or his wife more then getting pleasure. When you have sex /make love it is suppose to be for mutual enjoyment and satisfaction not one-sided like he is expecting out of you. Maybe it is time to find a guy who will give the love and pleasure you are lacking being with this loser. By all means I do not mean to cheat on him, but make it clear that if he doesn't change his ways you are going to have no choice but to terminate this relationship. When you love someone
sex is to a bonding a closer connection with the person your with it sounds to me like he treats you like an ordinary play thing for his enjoyment and his alone that I'm sorry to say is pathetic.
God Bless and Good Luck with everything.
2007-03-23 00:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to either accept that it will always be this way, or else move on and find another boyfriend.
Another take on the problem: What if you were to simply stop doing the things he liked and simply started doing things that were entirely selfish - things that felt good to you. Then maybe he would get the point. Or perhaps you should start "having headaches" when he starts in on foreplay...Maybe this will start him thinking about what could be wrong. i.e. why you never seem to want to have sex anymore.
Just some ideas...
2007-03-23 00:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may need to decide how badly you want to be with this guy. Is this the type of guy you want to be with for the remainder of your life? The precedence you set now with him, most likely will continue throughout the relationship. So if he is selfish now, expect him to continue being selfish in the future and realize that it may translate from the bedroom to other areas of the relationship.
If this is not what you want in a guy, then perhaps you need to consider finding another guy. One who will treat you with respect and take your needs in to consideration.
Relationships are a two way street, not a one way pass through.
2007-03-23 00:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already voiced your thoughts to him then as I see it, you can keep doing all the work or ... stop giving it to him until he realizes that it is a two way street. At some point if you take the second road (holding out) he will see your views when he stops and thinks about it. Or talk to him about it again if you don't want to stop having sex. Many options. Hope it works out!
2007-03-23 00:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the problem persists, get a new boyfriend. I'm not an advocate of ultimatums, but this is a case where it wouldn't be inappropriate. Tell him that he needs to be the one to please you for a while -- he owes you at this point. If he doesn't come across, dump him and find a man who doesn't treat you like a hired girl (because that's what he's doing; only hookers are obligated to do all the pleasing).
2007-03-23 00:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures not very smart about this at all. You need to reward positive behaviour. You need to get your bf in the mood to do things to you and when he does, boy you really need to give him the best he has ever had. Once he has experienced this, then he should want to do this all the time. Problem solved!
2007-03-23 00:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by jtgot1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you.
Situations like this can kill a relationship because it says a lot about him in general. If he still didn't get the picture after yall talked about it....cut back on the frequency of sex.
Sometimes drastic measures need to be done.
2007-03-23 00:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to stop what you are doing until he does the same for you. If he doesn't change this, he is selfish. I would seriously consider if I wanted to continue a relationship where my feelings didn't count.
2007-03-23 00:21:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him spoon you...
Lie with your back to him and be like "I'm not moving until you try a different position" and have him insert it there...he'll have to do most of the work but you'll get equal amounts of pleasure
Bargain with him!..."If you give me an orgasm, I'll give you a BJ" lol cheesy? yes effect? YES!
Another thing...cuddle with him...how many times do you cuddle with your man? Make sure he holds you after you have sex or else he's not appreciating you enough...
Believe me if you cut him off, he will eventually get it!
2007-03-23 00:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by London Tipton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to discuss this with him AGAIN!!! having sex is usually about both people enjoying it. dont be so weak and make a stand. tell him you aren't happy with your love making, and challenge him. if he is the competitive type he is likely to want to take up the challenge and please you as much as possible. a selfish partner is definitely not worth having though, so if he wont be more giving i suggest you move on cause its likely he will be selfish in alot of other areas as well.
2007-03-23 00:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by SubbYMonKeY 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋