If the person you love has been turned against you by a third party,is there any hope,any point in trying to win them back?
2007-03-22 17:02:17 · 19 answers · asked by River Jordan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure there is. Sooner or later, hoefully sooner, the manipulated party will wake up from their manipulation. I'm sure your mother in law will say or do something so wrong, sooner, that will cause a bell or whistle to sound off in your wife's head that will wake her up to the manipulation. I wouldn't worry. Take advantage of this alone time to work on your own issues and be a better person when your wife comes back.
And FYI, you will have to be friends with the M-I-L once again, so don't say anything to your wife that will make her think that you are unforgiving to the point that you cannot live with her mother in your life, to a certain degree. Just realize, and point out, that her daugher is really YOUR WIFE.
I have been right where you are and though MIL tried to screw us up, my wife woke up and now MIL kisses my @$$. It's quite comical and I laughed under my breathe for years and now my wife and I laugh about the psycho together.
It can all work out if you play the game right. And to play the game, all you have to do is be honest and loving. You WILL win if you can do that.
2007-03-22 17:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The third party has ruined chances when the other sided with them. Trust is gone and forces are a work to wreck anything that could have been. Only if apologies are made and renewed interest in you and renouncing of the third party would it be worth a try to win them back. Sounds viscous but this happens all the time. Let it go and find other friends.
2007-03-23 00:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by hjhprov 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all - at this point, they'll only hurt you more, even if it does appear that they are being sincere. I've had a bad experience with this - trust me, the best thing you can do right now is try to forget about this person, not even trying to keep this person as a friend. I know it's hard to do this, but it's something you must do if you ever want gain your happiness back. And I learned also that it is NOT GOOD to trust in your heart with this particular issue - the heart can lead you in the wrong direction. Just continue to be strong and persevere - you'll get through it.
2007-03-23 00:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by inquiring black beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you truely she will see past that. People that love each other breaks all the odds, So if she dont come back, it was not an equil feeling. Try but dont make an A s s of your self doing it. Have some respect.
2007-03-23 00:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love of your life is so easily persuaded by a third party, then you're probably better off without.
2007-03-23 00:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what third party. you make you own decisions no matter what others say so don't blame the third party. if there was no trust in the relationships to start off with then there' not much to hold on and it break easily. So move on.
2007-03-23 00:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The relationship is obviously over if he turned against you, he has his priorities all wrong. If he truly loved and cared for you, he would stand by you. It's probably best to end the relationship.
2007-03-23 00:07:41 · answer #7 · answered by babii giirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a situation that happened to me. Once they found out we were happy they came out of the woodwork to tempt my friend about how it used to be. I'd say it's really up to her, to find out what level she wants. Safety and security or the old ways of stupidity and random sex. In my case she chose the latter. You'll know her when you see her, she's the oldest idiot in the world. Smack her once for me and lead her on to the other 7th grader with corn rolls.
2007-03-23 00:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by bubbasmith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand from where you coming.all this are a part of you live you are at the bottom point of you life,at this time,all thing good and bed are planing and shapes our life's Avery single day we learning by our mistakes,joust do not repeat them,remember them.if you love same one very bad ,you can toke to them in privet and leasing his responses,perhaps you don something that hi did not like,try and then forget him.
2007-03-23 00:21:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this so called love of your life is putting someone else before you - you can't really mean that much to them - no offense!!! Walk away / move on!!!
2007-03-23 00:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Emma B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋