I broke up w/ my live in bf 2 months ago. He is an ex addict who went through rehab before i met him. Durring the last 6 months of the relationship he has used alittle, drank alot,told lies and became increasing verbally abusive. My sister was mentally ill and comitted suicide years ago and now he says i am acting like her among other really vile stuff. He emails me or calls and gets angry because i wont back down, swears and then hangs up, i am now ignoring him. Should i worry this could get really ugly? He has threatened stuff like taking me to court when i owe and have nothing of his, then emails me he isn't even though he could!! He is really messed up and i just dont know what he is getting out of doing this to me. I want to fire back because im so hurt but wont sink to his level plus i dont want to anger him more. Any advice?? Thx in advance.
2007-03-22 16:56:13 · 11 answers · asked by onesingingangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are concerned for your safety dont hesitate call the police and keep a diary of everything it sound like he is just throwing a childish strop because he isnt getting his own way the worst thing would be to fire back or speak to him at all just ignore and rise above it he will soon get bored . it sound like you could do alot better for yourself . Good Luck xxxxx
2007-03-22 17:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by sunpat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes pathetic and a looser.
He's anger comes from his inability to be able to control you any more, now your no longer together he dont know what your doing or wher your going ect so this drives him crazy, he will panic and realise he's lost you therefore is no longer incontrol of the situation.
he'll get over it - hes prob hurting aswell still.
Stand your ground and dont give in. Try changing your number. If you feel threatened in any way go to the police, They will tell you to keep a diary of his actions, calls ect and moniter him, although they cannot arrest untill he does something as theese could b empty threats. They can fine him though for harrassment.
I hope you get rid of this looser for good, He'll get bored if you just keep ignoring him!
2007-03-23 04:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Leesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god he sounds awful. if i were you i would go to to the police and tell them he is harassing you, if they wont do anything see citizens advice and a solicitor to see if they can give you legal advice on where you stand and what you can do about it, change your phone number and e mail address also if it isn't possible to move get someone to share with you a friend or advertise, at least with someone else in the house you will feel safer, maybe invest in a big dog, also keep any e mails or texts this will go well in your favour also if you can tape him when he is on the phone this will make great evidence...just try and not let him see he is getting to you and just say right what ever hopefully when he doesn't get a reaction out of you he may leave you alone.........hope this helps good luck
2007-03-23 04:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is angry because you have taken away his crutch. Hard to say don't worry as no one knows what anyone is capable of, my daughter still suffers abuse from her x after 7 years, he had been violent towards her caused damage in her home etc. Try to keep a diary of his text, emails just incase you may need them in the furture. Good Luck and be more careful who you gat involved with next time.
2007-03-23 02:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey LOOK at the news, have you not heard or read about murders. This guy is a time bomb waiting to go off & he will go off right in your face if you don't do something NOW. Print off all the emails he has sent you (hopefully you kept them) & go to the police & explain to them what has been happening. Change your phone number, get a new email account & ditch the old one. Do not sit back & do nothing about this man he is dangerous.
I do not want to see you in the news...get my drift....act NOW
2007-03-23 05:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me make this as clear as possible. Get a restraining order and file it with the police department. Don't take any chances with your safety. People who are verbally abusive can become physically abusive in an instant. Add drugs and alcohol, you are asking for something bad to happen.
2007-03-23 00:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with the previous answers. Make sure you contact the police and inform them of the situation. Try to get a restraining order and make sure you have someone to contact in an emergency. If you say he is using this makes me worry a little as he could get emotional when he is high and do something stupid.
2007-03-23 01:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by SR13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. Look up the website of your local precinct or call; they can walk you through it. You have more than enough reason, and it will help protect you. Don't engage with him; don't answer his emails or calls. Good luck; you're better off without the loser.
2007-03-23 00:13:34 · answer #8 · answered by Chotu B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said he's an ex addict, therefore he has an addictive personality.
You just happen to be his latest addiction "think about it"?
Look, after 22 years of an abusive and drunken relationship, were she philandered when drunk, when I said no more, she became addicted to my rejection of her.
Poeple like that "hate" to be rejected, thats the basis of it!
They want to control, "I want, I have, I will, I won't" can you see the pattern?
Ignore and as your a woman, use the law, it's on your side?
2007-03-23 00:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by superalymac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cewase to enter into communication with him.....don't open hi s e mails don't answer his calls change your cell phone no. Go to the police and tell all and your concerns. Hopefully he will just evaporate. But cover your self.
2007-03-23 05:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋