has a list of my recent failings on the frig.............
silly stuff like: left the coffee pot on, didn't pay a bill on time, etc............
What does this mean?
2007-03-22 16:49:08 · 32 answers · asked by Lily P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hoping Volvo!
2007-03-22 17:02:21 · update #1
Mr K. I am laughing my A off.
Am I really this bad?
2007-03-22 17:05:31 · update #2
OK Sapboi, you found me out, and I feel badly, truly, see my latest ?????'s
I'll try to be good now.
2007-03-22 17:44:55 · update #3
You have been a naughty girl.
I'd put some disipline on you too.
Ask him what your punishment is...
Please update this one. ASAP!!!!!!
2007-03-22 17:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by sapboi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all what does he mean by discipline you? Like nag you to death or physically? Pretty much sounds like he needs some mental help! Your not a child, saying hey dear you forgot to turn the coffee pot off is one thing writting it on a piece of paper and putting it on the fridge and prancing around like friggen Rain Man is just rediculous! Mabey some of the other writers were right and he is trying to hint in another direction towards the bedroom (only one can hope) if not I suggest getting the hell out of there and oh yeah on your way out turn the coffee pot on and put any unpaid bills up on the fridge with a dear John F***k you letter :)
2007-03-22 17:40:07 · answer #2 · answered by ThePleasurePlayground.com 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This means you made daddy mad. If you want to live your life on a leash, your choice, but ide leave skid marks running out of that relationship. Ever see the movie "sleeping with the enemy"? This man is a controll freak. Next he will be picking out your clothes, telling you what you think. I bet you cant hang out with any of your friends anymore either cause he dont like them for one reason or another. Your family will be the next to be cut from your life. I dont like that he considers them "Recent failings" . maybe you should make him a list of his recent failings. first on the list. " Doesn't treat wile like a real thinking person".
2007-03-22 17:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't have the right perspective on the relationship...couples are supposed to work together, build each other up and see the best in each other as equals.
If this is a recent thing, go to marriage counseling and stand up for yourself.
If this has happened before, divorce him. You're a valuable woman with opinions and dreams and no one has the right to discipline you or point out your failings.
2007-03-22 16:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would put a list beside it of all his short comings and tell him he will have to be disciplined for them! Also, you need to have a serious chat with him. You didn't say what he meant by "discipline". A marriage is 50-50. This is the kind of stuff my husband started doing when he was having an affair. It was like he needed to make me look bad to justify him doing wrong. I am not saying your husband is by any means. My spouse would check the dryer filter to make sure it was clean. (it always was).
2007-03-22 16:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is not a healthy relationship. He is not an authority figure over you, and you should not allow him to be. Honestly, my gut reaction is weary concern. He has every right to tell ou when something you do or fail to do bothers him, but he has not right AT ALL to discipline you. I woud be very careful not to let yourself get trapped in an abusive situation here, because that is spousal abuse. If he's threatening to discipline you, and he means it, you need to get out of there and stay out.
2007-03-22 17:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Irish 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he's emotionally abusive. He's not your father, he's your husband. It's his place to support you, not criticize you. He's trying to control you. The question is, are you going to stand for it, or are you going to not let him do this to you, even if it means leaving him? If you let it go, this will get worse, not better, and you will end up a shallow miserable wreck with no sense of self-esteem or self-worth. It is NOT his place to discipline you, you are an ADULT. DO NOT stand for this. You're better off on your own than under someone else's thumb.
2007-03-22 17:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by lizzy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Did you say father or husband? The scenario sounds like he is trying to 'train you'. Not good. Have you tried sharing a list of his recent failings?
2007-03-22 17:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This means your dear husband has a serious problem...it will escalate...my friend had a boyfriend that did things like that in a playful way...then it got worse..then they married...then it was real bad...then worse...then he killed her. He never hit her, beat her, etc. He stabbed her 32 times and killed her. Tell him NOW that you want him in counseling or your leaving. He has a control issue that has nothing to do with you. I hope the best for you and I hope you update everybody with good new a month from now.
2007-03-22 16:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He might be playing around and trying to spice up your love life. Or ...he is a really controlling guy and you need to tell him to back off.. Though the coffee pot thing could burn down the house if you don't remember to unplug it and there is faulty wiring in your house.
2007-03-22 16:56:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
whatever you do wrong gives him no right to discipline you, your his wife not his child, what hes doing is controlling and it will get worse if you let him get away with this. Tell him you married him cause you loved him not because you needed to be treated like a child. If my hubby ever told me he would discipline me for doing something wrong, i would be straight up with him and tell him that when we got married the word "OBEY" was not in the vows and just for the record I DON"T OBEY ANYONE and I'm not about to start to.
2007-03-22 17:00:07 · answer #11 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋