what should I do to make up for my ex crushing our daughters heart?

Question

it was his weekend and he cancelled.her birthday is monday and he won't even come see her.she was so upset I had to rock her to sleep while she cried her eyes out.she turns 6 what should I do to cheer her up?

Answer 1

hold her long & tight in your arms
tell her again & again that you love her
nothing else metters

Our situation is very similar to yours - my ex broke our hearts, our assets, our trust & 17 years of marriege.

Answer 2

So sorry to hear this. But if he does it once, he'll likely do it again. It's best NOT to set a precident and take her out for whatever she wants. That's not a good example and sets up a poor reward system. "Daddy backs out and causes pain so we'll ease that pain by going somewhere and eating? playing games? etc." Not good.

I agree with the person who said sing and hug your daughter. You're having a birthday party for her i'll bet, regardless of your ex. You need to make her realize how special she is and that it is his loss. Try (over time) to make her realize that he's not a bad person, but that he makes bad decisions and teach her about consequences to a persons actions.

By being the better parent, and setting a good example, you will be raising her with strong moral values and she, in turn, will be a more educated parent through it all when the time comes.

Best of luck!!

Answer 3

Take her to someplace special. Be with her because these times are hard for such a little girl. I've gone through that before. It's tough. I should know. Talk to her calmly and have the heart to cry with her. She really needs you as a mom. My mother didn't do the best she could for me and I don't want that to happen to any other little girl out there. Make her laugh. Tell her the truth. There's nothing better then that hun. I wish you the best of luck. Tell her happy birthday for me will ya.

Answer 4

Just go ahead with your plans to celebrate her birthday. Take her to her favorite place like the zoo, kids museum, or the park. And have a small birthday party for her by making it extra special. I buy her a really nice present like a goldfish or a locket. Just make the day all about her and don't remind her of her dad. Sorry, that really does sucks. FYI: I call the jack@ss and tell him off.

Answer 5

TO make her feel better.HAVE her do something 4 her dad.IT sounds stupid but you would want her to do this 4 you if the shoe was on the other foot. AND no matter what she needs her dad,HAVE her write a note .Sorry I MISSed U DADDY. THIS LAST WEEK END. BUT know i still love you. SIGN your daughter. THIS is teaching her to honor her father AND mother. AND it will help ease the pain. HAVE her tuck a small balloon from the party in the envelope. SAVE a piece of Cake 4 him tuck it in the freezer.

Answer 6

I think the most important things are just to be there for her and try to understand how she feels. Whatever you do though, DO NOT put him down in front of your daughter. Even if he's just being a jerk, it will only confuse her. Little girls love their dads. (What girl growing up didn't want to be daddy's little girl??) If you put him down, it'll only make her feel like she doesn't know him (or you) and that's not what you want. If he's a dirt bag, she has plenty of time to figure that out. Just support her and don't bring it up unless she does. Do whatever you would normally do for your 6 yr olds birthday.

Answer 7

Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/9Ppvf

Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 8

OMG, I would have to kill him!! Bless her little heart, I wish I could hug her!! Maybe she could have a few friends over for a sleep-over this weekend and have pizza and games. She'll be so busy, she won't even think of her dad. They are so much fun at a sleep-over at that age and I think you would enjoy it also. Give her BIG hugs for Mustang Sally and tell her I said Happy Birthday!!

Answer 9

Just keep talking about the party - you do plan to throw a party or take her and friend(s) to her favorite place.
You can never make up for the hurt her father causes, but you can make sure you do not hurt her that way.

Make sure you have her busy helping with the party. Smile and act cheery whenever appropriate.
If she just isn't buying it - too upset over daddy - sit her down and lovingly tell her that her father loves her but that he will likely let her down again. Tell her that he doesn't realize how bad he hurts her and perhaps one day he will, until then she will have to just not expect too much.

Answer 10

Poor little baby girl! SO many parents do not deserve to have children if that's how they are going to treat them! He certainly does not deserve her. She is old enough to ask her what she would like to do for that day. Maybe she could invite a friend over to spend the night? Six is such a precious age to have to go through something so disturbing! Bless all their little hearts! Hug her for all of us!

Answer 11

Have you ever taken her on a "real" picnic? Get a basket and some cloth napkins from the dollar store and fill it with her favs.....pack some bubbles, and kite...take her to a nice open park....chase her around and let her chase you....you would be suprised how good children feel with simple things...it would helps them forget their problems if only for a little while.