I have been dating my boyfriend and living with him for 3 years he is 23 and I am 21. I feel like we're suppose to be moving to the next step in our lives but I'm just wondering if maybe I'm rushing this?
2007-03-22 16:25:15 · 25 answers · asked by Gizmo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He and I weren't sexually active for the first 6 months of our relationship to answer your question
2007-03-22 16:33:52 · update #1
We dated at total of 116 days. Dec. 26, 99 - April 20, 00
I am NOT allowed to judge if someone is rushing into marriage. However, even if my husband and I did jump head first into marriage it has been good to us. I was sure my husband was the one. I can't really say how I knew...but I just did. There was NO hesitation in my mind about the matter.
Just because something is the "next step" does not mean that it is the right step to take with that person. Is he the one? Really? How sure are you? You think a wedding is expensive, think about how much a divorce costs. Do NOT get married unless you are sure he is the one you want to be with for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.
2007-03-22 16:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I lived together for four and a half years before we had our shotgun wedding. Wink, Wink. My advise to you is there is not a time limit on how long you should date or how long an engagement should be.
Just be sure this is what you both want and that you truly love each other. Only the two of you will know when the time is right to take that next step.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do
2007-03-22 16:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my husband for nine years. We didn't want to get married before we finished college, but we were engaged for the last two years. If you are living together then I assume what you're looking for in the "next step" is the commitment. Talk to him, tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. It doesn't sound like you're rushing things, but it might not occur to him that you need marriage if you're already living together. He may feel like he's giving you everything you need. Communication is vital to a good marriage anyway, so talk to him.
2007-03-22 16:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by Irish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We dated for two months, then I moved in. We got married two years later. You say you think you SHOULD me moving on to the next step. There's no should in this, not today, 20 years ago, yes. If you are committed and happy as things are, then keep it that way unless you both have a desire to be legally bound to each other. I think there can be good reasons to get married. For instance, having children is a good reason to get married. There can be legal advantages too, such as being able to get on the other person's insurance policy if it's better than the one offered by your employer. But the best and most imporant reason to get married is that you are very much in love and committed to each other and want to express that commitment ceremonially and legally.
2007-03-22 16:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just over a year. We were engaged after dating 7 months, married 8 months later.
2007-03-22 16:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married after 2 years and 5 months. We got engaged after 1 year, 9 months.
2007-03-22 18:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Krissi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had known each other for 4 months. We have been married 14 years.
2007-03-22 16:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I dated for 1 year before we got married.
2007-03-22 16:43:42 · answer #8 · answered by angel_eyes 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband and I dated for three years, then we lived together for 6 months before we got married....
2007-03-22 20:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my husband for over a year before i married him. We are very happily married and we both were ready for the marriage and commitment and we are still happily married now for going on 8 years. you are not rushing into this at all .... Just make sure tha tboth of you are ready for marriage and that life time commitment before marrying and make sure you are getting married for love and all the right reasons before doing so.
2007-03-22 16:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋