In love, family, work
2007-03-22 16:20:57 · 18 answers · asked by witchybitchywomaninalabama090907 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think men are more needy than women,as far as from my own experience. All that I have done is give and give since I got married,and he took that for granted...
2007-03-22 16:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think I would use the term "needy" but we are more adament about what we want, how we want it and when we'll get it. It's just the way we were raised. Since we were little girls we were fed that fairty tale crap about how rosey life is going to be and we plan our whole lives around making it a reality. In doing so, we come off as 'needy' in a sense. And I say in a sense, because it's more of a "want" than a need. In this day and age, women are so much more self sufficient. Who needs men when they make such great toys?
And even though I am happily married with children, and have been for many years, I can say this lightly...just as you should with the term "needy". There is a huge difference between want and need honey.
2007-03-22 16:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. But some women and men are really needy. And the ones that bounce in and out of relationships without any time in-between are probably needy.
You can spot needy if you don't willingly ignore it.
That being said, women have 2 times the incidence of dependency personality disorder, and 3 times the incidence of borderline personality disorder, so among the freakshow crowd minority (a large minority of about 1 in 8), they might be more needy since the male freaks are skewed towards narcissitic personality disorder.
2007-03-22 16:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Gender has nothing to do with neediness. I think women have been allowed (maybe even encouraged) to show their neediness though--that helpless female, damsel in distress thing so men can feel strong and protective. There are as many needy men as there are need women, it is just disguised better. How many mama's boys do you know? How many men do you know who can't cook themselves a meal that isn't already pretty much pre-prepared? How many men do you know who have done their own laundry or do the basic weekly grocery shopping (not for beer and snack foods but for real food, every week to restock)? How many men haven't got a clue how to shop for a gift for their mom or their wife or their girlfriend? Men need to feel they are needed, wanted, are big and strong, fearless and wise, useful and smart. Among other things.
2007-03-22 16:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Inundated in SF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not always. Depends on the person themselves. I have seen some men that are pretty needy. This can go for both sexes . I feel that both sexes are needy alot just in different ways.
2007-03-22 16:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this comes down to male or female. Rather, I'm convinced its a matter of our instinctual make-up. The kind of person, male or female, who longs for intensity and lives for confronting the pain and agony of life to get it - has that instinct innately. He or she may seem very needy, but its usually limited to a few specific projects at a time.
On the other hand, people who can ''reach out' safely to many people, and who draw us into their circle of friends also have a special instinctual gift - based on their own social needs.
Each of these instinctual types may seem more needy to the other, but its not a matter of male or female. Rather, its probably the way we each perceive the instinctual differences in each other.
That's not to say that our needs can't turn into conceit or vanity when we take them too far. But, even in that malfunctioning, I don't think men or women have a corner on the 'market' (smile).
2007-03-22 19:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In relationships and family, no.Their needs just get fulfilled in other ways. Women like to get close and emotionally bond a lot. Men also bond but need their independance more than women usually. These are all needs.
In work, I'm not sure what you mean.
2007-03-22 16:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are more VERBAL about their needs. Men are not.
Men need just as much. They certainly don't like to voice it because most feel being needy is a sign of weakness.
Men need to be held, listened to, be valued, be appriciated, and certainly loved.
2007-03-22 16:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No..I do not think it is a gender question...some people have a low self-esteem and are more needy than others..
2007-03-22 16:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by rebecca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Men may have different needs than women, but we need women just as much as you need us. Any man that won't admit it is kidding himself otherwise why would we do so much to try and please you(at least the smart men out there)?
2007-03-22 16:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋