Me and my ex were together for four months. We were each others first loves. He went on vacation for two weeks and when he came back he told me half of him still loves me but half just wanted to be friends. So I said fine, I just want him to be happy, so we broke up. Even though he said we would be friends he no longer talks or looks at me. It's been two months since we broke up now. We have mutual friends and a class together. It's hard because I will be standing right next to him and it's like I don't exsist. I use to try and talk to him, not about anything big, just nice small talk, but he seemed annoyed that I was doing so. I use to wave, say hello, but nothing. Now I've just started ignoring him back, he obviously wants nothing to do with me but are things always going to be like this?
2007-03-22 16:00:49 · 6 answers · asked by Simple Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, you aren't being obsessive! First loves are a big deal. And it must have hurt you that your first love, ended so quickly, with what sounds like very little discussion about why the change. It sounds like you have done a good job of dealing with the very challenging situation. To answer you question, no, things will not always be like this between you... there is no real resolution here... I don't hear and half of him loving you or being friends... things will change. Your feelings will also change as time goes on, and first loves are always the hardest in some ways. Good luck.
2007-03-22 16:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well either he is a nice guy who needs to distance himself from you in order to completely get over you, because he knows if he doesn't he may end up asking you out again and then just hurting you in the end OR he is like many other people who end relationships and is just not as effected by the breakup and well...to be blunt doesn't really care. Honestly it probably is going to stay like this. Just try to be nice and smile, but not pushy. See if he ever comes and starts a conversation. If he just needs his space he will eventually come around and be friends, but honestly the whole lets just be friends NEVER works unless both people try really hard to make it work. I'm sorry about your situation. :( Good luck.
2007-03-22 16:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably won't always be like that. He probably needs some time to get over it. But, you should get over him and move on to bigger and better things. You are obviously still young. You probably think I don't know what I am talking about but I've been there and done that and then some. It'll be hard for you to get over, too. The best thing you can do is get over it. Life is too short to dwell on stuff like this. But, if you really wanna see if he is interested at all, slightly flirt with some of his guy friends in front of him. If it upsets him, I am sure it'll get beck to ya. Good luck!
2007-03-22 16:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dana O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you found out what may have went wrong on your getaway? Something got the best of him weather its something you did, something he thinks you've done or maybe something he's doing. If he's worth pursuing then find out the reason and if he's not don't worry about it move on get another bf (geeze I wonder if he'll come back around once he see's you have moved on without him HaHa
2007-03-22 16:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by ThePleasurePlayground.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wanted to break up with you and gave you the old "friends" line. Chalk it up to a learning experience and don't waste any more emotional energy worrying about this guy that you're better off without.
2007-03-22 16:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Counselor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid so.Im sorry I know you hurt.Its time to start healing and move on.
2007-03-22 16:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋