If you have asked to go to counselling and your partner refuses even when you say you cant go on without some help in the relationship. If yours staying at your mums house and he has asked you to open your own bank accounts. But he still isn't telling people its over. How long would you wait to see if he wakes up and makes the effort before you started the full separation process?
2007-03-22 15:53:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry we are married. And when he wont tell others I mean he is actually pretending everything is fine talking about all our future plans. etc.
2007-03-22 16:01:47 · update #1
Hmm...that's not a question you are going to get the right answer from on yahoo. You need to sit down and really think about it. You can't stay in a relationship that is going no where, but you need to make sure that it is really over. It's not something that you can easily change once said and done. Try to really talk to him and say that if he won't go to counseling then it's over. Or write him a letter, if you don't want to say it to his face.
2007-03-22 16:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've aleady made a big mistake going home to your mother's. Go back home and then file for divorce. If you owned your home together, here in the U.S. he can get the house if you aren't there. Plus, if he told you to open your own bank accounts, do it, but clear out the joint ones first. This marriage is over (he's having an affair, I'll bet), so just get as many of your joint assets as you can. To do this, get a GOOD lawyer. Remember,he can still wake up while the divorce is progressing and cancel the action. But, he won't wake up unless or until you move on this. Get him served with divorce papers and then worry about how he does emotionally. If he loves you at all he'll be upset when he gets the divorce papers. If he's not upset, you will know it was completely over anyway.
2007-03-22 16:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If time away from each other is needed - take it. Some say 3 months some say 6 months. Let him see what it is like on his own. I dont think I would have left my home though.
Talk with him and set a time frame for the separation - then go from there
2007-03-23 08:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many signs that this relationship is headed for divorce that it's difficult to focus on just one. Separation, refusal to go to a counselor, requesting you open your own accounts...you can't focus on when he's going to wake up...you need to focus on when you will and decide that this isn't what you had in mind when you said I do.
2007-03-22 16:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Michele D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't taking it serious(the counseling) and has already asked you to open your own bank account I'd say he's starting official proceedings.
2007-03-22 16:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should wait. You need to just give him an ultimatum. Just tell him he needs to go to counseling with you or your going to get a divorce. You're obviously more serious about your relationship than he is and he needs to know you're dead serious. If he's not willing than he doesn't care anymore and no one deserves that
2007-03-22 16:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if this is a marriage or bf/gf, if marriage start separation process immediately becuase legally your responsible for any debt he developes even if your not together, until you legally separate...if its bf/gf...let it fad away..do your own thing and see where its takes you..good luck.
2007-03-22 16:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about two seconds.
2007-03-22 15:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋