2007-03-22 15:51:59 · 32 answers · asked by boriquacj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I recently asked this question about my marine fiancee, i want to relate that i was skeptical about doing the tubal reversal,being that i was recently divorced with 3 daughters taking care of them on my own, my fiancee told me to trust him and he was sure i was the one, so finally i accepted, but him being unpredictable with his behavior got me confused cause i do confront him and tell him i want out, and he says i am not going to leave him, yet he has all these excuses why he can't marry me, cause the military won't allow a deployment with over 5 dependents, and he wants me to wait 3 yrs. for him. i am confused he swears he loves me.
2007-03-22 16:00:14 · update #1
not ready to commit, found someone better, maybe too young and just want to experience more as a single man. Details would help. Be positive, you'd much more rather him decide this before the wedding as oppose to after then having to go through a very pricey divorce.. Sorry to hear that though. Be strong :o)
2007-03-22 15:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rockell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably has not something to do with you. If he's in Iraq, he's been under an incredible quantity of stress. because he has to return for 3 years, perhaps he's afraid he gets killed and he does not want you to finally end up a widow with 4 babies. Six human beings in a kinfolk places a financial stress on the provider in spite of ways plenty money that individual makes. men think of of money in terms of the destiny (college). i'm specific his place interior the Marine's places him conscious approximately each and every form of very own coaching, and that's additionally probably weighing heavy on his strategies. Be outstanding, be loving, be form, yet back down. do not question him. do not stress him. do not SAY "You advised me to realize this and so and that i did it and now you will not do such and such." do not point out any of that stuff...that for the period of basic terms provides extra friction. delight in the time you have with him. once you have intercourse from right here on out, use some form of risk-free practices. If he asks you why you're applying risk-free practices, or why you opt to apply risk-free practices, tell him the time does not look precise for you to become pregnant, so which you and he can wait until after he comes back from Iraq in 3 years and then talk besides the fact that if or to not have yet another newborn. you have ignored your era because of fact of stress. not inevitably because you're pregnant. in case you're already pregnant and locate out later, then manage that once you're beneficial it is the case - not formerly. undergo in strategies, no extra stress...he and you're under adequate as that's. And, in case you have some kinfolk close by, see in the event that they'll save the different babies so which you and your guy could have a weekend on my own to do something exciting jointly and re-connect. ideal desires to you!
2016-11-28 00:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you treated him in a way he disliked? Do you embarrass him? How about giving details about how your relationship has been going for about the last year and then this question can be answered but right now with no details I can't answer your question and no one else can except for you.
2007-03-22 15:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he now doesn't want to marry you, he has decided he doesn't love you enough for a lifetime. Accept it. You do not want to be married to someone who doesn't truly love you. He wouldn't make you happy. Go find someone else who can love you like you deserve. Best wishes.
2007-03-22 15:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the guy but if I were you I just accept it. You don't want to force (ie : manipulate, guilt trip or nag) anyone to marry you. If he truly loved you he would marry you. Why would you want to marry someone who doesn't love you?
2007-03-22 16:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cold feet maybe?
Can't really give an opinion without more details.
2007-03-22 15:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your fiancee is changing his mind about marrying you, well that is a good thing because, that means he cannot handle it when your not married and that means he cannot handle it if you were married.
move on... really or youll be stuck with a wishy washy husband.
good luck!
2007-03-22 15:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by ty808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what's happening, but if I was to magically figure it out, it's because he found out about you and his best friend. I only say that because of the info you gave me, but it's just a guess . . .
2007-03-22 15:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by treasureyourself 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Maby its just cold feet but communication is very important in marriage
2007-03-22 15:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your fiancee a little story about little red rideing hood how she found a big bad wolf
2007-03-22 16:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋