I have no good friends, have never had any. I've been on one date and things with the girl deteriorated quickly (she had come onto me and really liked me then got to know me a little and didn't anymore). I don't see how things will ever be different. I'm sort of content how things are now, but i just don't know... i want things to change but honestly don't see them changing.
2007-03-22 15:41:16 · 12 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm 20 years of age and have been like this my whole life.
2007-03-22 15:41:41 · update #1
O.K., so you want to date, and maybe find someone. Lets take a look in the mirror. What do you look like? Are you overweight, or skinny? Do you need a haircut? Are your clothes stylish for five years ago? It's time for you to re-package the product. You don't have to dress like GQ, but look at what the other guys in your age group are wearing. What is the hair style that's "IN"? Check out your teeth, and your breath. Once you get through all this and package your product (which is yourself), then you are ready to start looking for and talking to chics. Where do you find girls that are your age? Your local mall is a good start. Look for one with a baby, and a couple of girlfriends with her. Admire the baby, and get into a conversation with all of the girls. If you strike out, try it again. Talk to the girls at the counters, ask them questions. I know of one fellow a little older then you, who started a conversation over socks, and now has a girlfriend. Good luck.
2007-03-22 15:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we build walls because we are scared to let people into our lives. There may be some reason in your life why you do that or you may just plainly and simply be the quiet silent type who dosent like company for long.
If you are the former, then what u need to do is break down that wall, because something wonderful might be waiting at the other end.....and even if it isnt...there is always the possiblity. Dont worry. Making friends isnt complicated.wait till the right ones come along...
2007-03-22 15:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Blindtruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice to you is to keep as social as you can....but, only in doing the things YOU lilke.
What I mean by that is, that if you stay true to yourself....you own likes and dislikes.....by doing the things and going the places that YOU like.....then you are much more likely to meet people more like yourself there.
I know exactly how you feel. I have always felt like an outsider or an oddity here in my own hometown. Some people just aren't as easily understood, as others......so, the more simplistic folks kinda stay away. But, that is NOT something that is your fault. That is their own insecurities.
Hang in there.....the right friends and the right girl will come along. All you have to do....is truly be YOURSELF!!!
2007-03-22 16:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by treefrog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have mixed feelings about your relationships situation, so sit with that and think about it. One the one hand you say you are content with it, does that mean that you enjoy being a loner... that is okay. Are you shy and want more contact with people... thats okay too.
Your situation won't change until you are more committed to it one way of the other. Some people are truly okay with themselves and their life without a lot of contact with people, and some people need more time to build up the courage to interact with people more.
2007-03-22 16:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're 20 & you've "been like this your whole life". Oh dear. There are people who don't get married & have kids until they are in their 30s. You're barely out of your teens, you have your whole life ahead of you!
2007-03-22 16:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by crimsonskies12474 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 21 and have the same problem so i get wasted and go to the bar or club than i can dance with drunk girls and i can talk to them more easily because i dont care at that point. try that but dont get discouraged she will come someday when u least expect it. out of no where
2007-03-22 15:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ross 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u r just 20,u've many chances of tackling girls,but u've to change ur attitute to live,concentrate on ur work happily n contentedly,at the end of the day they(girls) w'd approach u.good luck.
2007-03-22 16:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be more positive than that. If you say that things cannot be different, then things are not going to change. Be aggressive and take charge, be assertive and love who you are, then others will.
good luck to you
2007-03-22 15:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by SugaLova 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to find humor in daily life------
LAUGHTER is a great medicine.
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
Sing like nobody's listening.
Live like it's Heaven on Earth.
2007-03-22 15:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THE RIGHT GIRL WILL COME A LONG ONE DAY IT TAKES
TIME AND LITTLE PATIENCE'S DON'T RUSH THINGS YOUR STILL YOUNG YET. YOU WILL FIND A FRIEND SOMETIME DON'T WORRY.
2007-03-22 16:09:07 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋