I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old son. I just quit the nursing program because it was too demanding and time consuming particularly with the kids and because my husband doesn't really help out hardly at all. He's a pilot in the military and his excuse is that he's the breadwinner so he don't have to pitch in the burden. As soon as he comes home from work, he sits on his stupid computer and plays his game until it's time to sleep. The main thing that bugs me the most is that he don't see it affecting our eldest son because he says that daddy doesn't like to hang out with him. He don't spend anytime with anybody. I give up!! If marriage is like this then I'd rather be single.
2007-03-22 15:36:20 · 19 answers · asked by Ana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MY HUSBAND IS THE SAME WAY, IF HE'S HOME AND AWAKE, HE'S ON THE COMPUTER. IF THAT'S NOT BAD ENOUGH, I'LL BE WAITING FOR HIM TO COME TO BED AND HE'LL BE ON THE COMPUTER IM'ING A FEMALE FRIEND OF HIS IN NJ. I'M WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH MY HUSBAND BEFORE HE STARTS SNORING HIS A** OFF AND HE'S LAUGHING IT UP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN WHO HAS A HUSBAND OF HER OWN.
2007-03-22 16:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know my man has had this problem to and sometimes still does. After yelling and screaming for months I just finally told him that i coulndt take this anymore. spending time with the family should not be a burden it should be a blessing and i told him that i was going to leave. well he didnt like that so we limited and restricted his playing time and as childish as that seems it has worked every now and again i have to be like babe youve been on for a bit to much. but i think that you should try something like that and it that doesnt work then smash that thing into pieces. If i hadnt been renting this compute from Aaron's i would have smashed it all too! LOL! But I know what you are going through, i dont know what it is about those computers...but if you want to see what other problems that it cause just read some of the questions that i have asked...it all came from that *amn computer! Good luck!
2007-03-22 16:12:29 · answer #2 · answered by sexycat_1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, my wife felt the same way, I used to sit on the computer for hours and hours and hours, and not play with the kids.
It was a big part of why we seperated, but thankfully when we got back together, that was one of the things that I worked very hard at changing, I don't spend nearly as much time on-line as I used to. Usually waiting till they are in bed before even turning the computer on.
And as far as his attitued, I don't care how much money he brings in, he has a responsibility to you and the kids, and you and your kids need to come before himself and his stupid games. Because the games are just that, games. His family can't be replaced.
I think that you and he need to start going to marriage counceling, because he needs to be shown that he's neglecting his family by his selfish behavior.
Take care and God Bless
2007-03-22 15:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly see where being a military pilot would be a stressful job and thus his need to unwind after work. However, your best bet is to talk to him, particularly about how his son is feeling. Don't nag him. Just discuss the fact that the kids feel neglected.
2007-03-22 15:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by endlessknowledge 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about this(don't make an argument about it). Understand that computers can be addicting just like anything else(I spend enough time on them myself). Let him know that his time is required by his family too. Don't shut down the lines of communication.
2007-03-22 15:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
looks like the compy has become his addiction. Slowly yet gently, find a way to wean him off. I know it won't be easy, but you need to start now and make him understand there are things in family life that needs his presence/attention too. At worst, seek counselling before your marriage falls apart
2007-03-22 15:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by PikC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hire a HOT man maid!
invite the boys over for cool drinks ...
or cards...
or to watch TV and sandwiches....
if the idiot doesnt get away from the computer then
it's time for the BIG D !
2007-03-22 15:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs a wake up call.
I'm not quite sure the best way to give it to him. . .maybe don't be there when he comes home.
2007-03-22 15:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What to do about curious husband?
2017-03-31 20:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Search ebay for auctions ending on a specific day?
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